For those who have “cut other people off,” what did the person do to deserve it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a minor argument with my mother that spun her into a crazy fit because she simply wouldn't admit she was at fault.

So, like a totally normal person she called my work and told them lies about me, tried to get me fired. then she called my in laws and did the same. Not gettig what she wanted she then moved onto my neighbors ,so I cut her off.

She never met two of my three kids and died alone after calling me from Hospice 3 days before dying begging me to visit. I didn't take the call.

When she died, I hadn't spoken with or seen her in 14 years.

Think about that when you're treating your kids like sh*t

You refused to take her call 3 days before her death and you think you’re the better person?

[Anonymous]

I found out she was gossiping about me. In retrospect, I realize I overreacted. She wasn't saying horrible things just sharing personal info I'd told no one else. I felt betrayed and hurt - like I thought our friendship was deeper than that. It's been about 10 years and I think of her a few times a year and feel badly about my reaction. We tried to talk 5-6 years ago, but it was forced and awkward and I purposely played phone tag for a bit until we gave up again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found out she was gossiping about me. In retrospect, I realize I overreacted. She wasn't saying horrible things just sharing personal info I'd told no one else. I felt betrayed and hurt - like I thought our friendship was deeper than that. It's been about 10 years and I think of her a few times a year and feel badly about my reaction. We tried to talk 5-6 years ago, but it was forced and awkward and I purposely played phone tag for a bit until we gave up again.

It sounds like you regret your own actions. It’s on you to make this right, not just keep dodging phone calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a minor argument with my mother that spun her into a crazy fit because she simply wouldn't admit she was at fault.

So, like a totally normal person she called my work and told them lies about me, tried to get me fired. then she called my in laws and did the same. Not gettig what she wanted she then moved onto my neighbors ,so I cut her off.

She never met two of my three kids and died alone after calling me from Hospice 3 days before dying begging me to visit. I didn't take the call.

When she died, I hadn't spoken with or seen her in 14 years.

Think about that when you're treating your kids like sh*t

You refused to take her call 3 days before her death and you think you’re the better person?

Cutting off someone is infinitely better than treating someone like sh1t.

Did you really not know that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a minor argument with my mother that spun her into a crazy fit because she simply wouldn't admit she was at fault.

So, like a totally normal person she called my work and told them lies about me, tried to get me fired. then she called my in laws and did the same. Not gettig what she wanted she then moved onto my neighbors ,so I cut her off.

She never met two of my three kids and died alone after calling me from Hospice 3 days before dying begging me to visit. I didn't take the call.

When she died, I hadn't spoken with or seen her in 14 years.

Think about that when you're treating your kids like sh*t

You refused to take her call 3 days before her death and you think you’re the better person?

Why would you take a call from someone that tried to make you unemployed, isolated from your in laws and the Piraha of your block all while you were raising 3 babies?

Seriously, what would you expect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a minor argument with my mother that spun her into a crazy fit because she simply wouldn't admit she was at fault.

So, like a totally normal person she called my work and told them lies about me, tried to get me fired. then she called my in laws and did the same. Not gettig what she wanted she then moved onto my neighbors ,so I cut her off.

She never met two of my three kids and died alone after calling me from Hospice 3 days before dying begging me to visit. I didn't take the call.

When she died, I hadn't spoken with or seen her in 14 years.

Think about that when you're treating your kids like sh*t

You refused to take her call 3 days before her death and you think you’re the better person?

Cutting off someone is infinitely better than treating someone like sh1t.

Did you really not know that?

It’s been 14 years. Maybe she wanted to apologize, who knows. It could have been good for both of you. But you’ll never know, and all you have is this ongoing rage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a minor argument with my mother that spun her into a crazy fit because she simply wouldn't admit she was at fault.

So, like a totally normal person she called my work and told them lies about me, tried to get me fired. then she called my in laws and did the same. Not gettig what she wanted she then moved onto my neighbors ,so I cut her off.

She never met two of my three kids and died alone after calling me from Hospice 3 days before dying begging me to visit. I didn't take the call.

When she died, I hadn't spoken with or seen her in 14 years.

Think about that when you're treating your kids like sh*t

You refused to take her call 3 days before her death and you think you’re the better person?

Cutting off someone is infinitely better than treating someone like sh1t.

Did you really not know that?

It’s been 14 years. Maybe she wanted to apologize, who knows. It could have been good for both of you. But you’ll never know, and all you have is this ongoing rage.

Ha. I don't want an apology and I sure as sh*t wasn't giving her the opportunity for one last insult. I'm 100% at piece with my decision. I protected my family from her vileness.

[Anonymous]

I do not understand the poster (same one by the short line answer style) trying to guilt or rebuke people responding to the question. I’m guessing this poster has been cut off, is filled with rage and looking for surrogate victims. Move on with your life!

[Anonymous]

My brother is a criminal, he preys on the weak. Cut him off in my late 30's. He literally destroyed his wife and child with his verbal abuse.

My mother in my late 50's should have done it when I left home at age 17 for college. She supports child abusers over her own children. Her brother was a convicted child pornographer who was headed to jail after he rolled on higher-ups in a major sting. She gave him money to be bailed out. She knew for years he was a POS and she still let him in our home and gave him money for bail. Not to mention she supported my brother over his wife and child. May mother is a narcissist. And thank god I cut her out.

Do they deserve it absolutely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They invited my H’s childhood rapist to Xmas. Then said family is family and you can’t tell us who we can invite.

That is horrible! It's so hard for those of us who've been hurt, but try to stay in contact. Your dh's family essentially told him he doesn't matter. The sad thing is, if he cuts them out of his life, they'll say it's because he is effed up.

Why would we stay “in contact”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not understand the poster (same one by the short line answer style) trying to guilt or rebuke people responding to the question. I’m guessing this poster has been cut off, is filled with rage and looking for surrogate victims. Move on with your life!

I don’t understand posters who fill their responses with speculation about everybody else’s personal lives. Somebody here does it all the time. It’s so immature.

Thanks for asking, I had a great thanksgiving with my kids. Both my parents are dead. I’m the poster on another thread who said my daughter bought me dinner with her second paycheck and over Thanksgiving my son thanked me for decisions I had made—both gestures were completely unsought-for and unexpected.

I happen to believe that relationships are a two-way street. The sheer spite some of you describe, and your own aggressive insults, make it pretty clear you have a lot of growing up to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a minor argument with my mother that spun her into a crazy fit because she simply wouldn't admit she was at fault.

So, like a totally normal person she called my work and told them lies about me, tried to get me fired. then she called my in laws and did the same. Not gettig what she wanted she then moved onto my neighbors ,so I cut her off.

She never met two of my three kids and died alone after calling me from Hospice 3 days before dying begging me to visit. I didn't take the call.

When she died, I hadn't spoken with or seen her in 14 years.

Think about that when you're treating your kids like sh*t

You refused to take her call 3 days before her death and you think you’re the better person?

Cutting off someone is infinitely better than treating someone like sh1t.

Did you really not know that?

It’s been 14 years. Maybe she wanted to apologize, who knows. It could have been good for both of you. But you’ll never know, and all you have is this ongoing rage.

1) Mother was free to apologize by letter before she died.

2) I see no evidence that PP has "ongoing rage". She responded to a prompt in a factual manner. If it feels aggressive to you, consider why.

3) How long will it be before you make a post referencing "that brat who cut her mother off for one minor argument and refused to let her mother apologize 3 days before she died"?

4) I'm still waiting for my link to the alleged "I am cutting my mother off because she wants to come for Thanksgiving" thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They invited my H’s childhood rapist to Xmas. Then said family is family and you can’t tell us who we can invite.

That is horrible! It's so hard for those of us who've been hurt, but try to stay in contact. Your dh's family essentially told him he doesn't matter. The sad thing is, if he cuts them out of his life, they'll say it's because he is effed up.

Why would we stay “in contact”?

You should not. Just from experience, it is hard to extricate oneself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a minor argument with my mother that spun her into a crazy fit because she simply wouldn't admit she was at fault.

So, like a totally normal person she called my work and told them lies about me, tried to get me fired. then she called my in laws and did the same. Not gettig what she wanted she then moved onto my neighbors ,so I cut her off.

She never met two of my three kids and died alone after calling me from Hospice 3 days before dying begging me to visit. I didn't take the call.

When she died, I hadn't spoken with or seen her in 14 years.

Think about that when you're treating your kids like sh*t

You refused to take her call 3 days before her death and you think you’re the better person?

Cutting off someone is infinitely better than treating someone like sh1t.

Did you really not know that?

It’s been 14 years. Maybe she wanted to apologize, who knows. It could have been good for both of you. But you’ll never know, and all you have is this ongoing rage.

1) Mother was free to apologize by letter before she died.

2) I see no evidence that PP has "ongoing rage". She responded to a prompt in a factual manner. If it feels aggressive to you, consider why.

3) How long will it be before you make a post referencing "that brat who cut her mother off for one minor argument and refused to let her mother apologize 3 days before she died"?

4) I'm still waiting for my link to the alleged "I am cutting my mother off because she wants to come for Thanksgiving" thread.

You’re talking about multiple posters who think you’re insane/super-aggressive/narcissistic. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a minor argument with my mother that spun her into a crazy fit because she simply wouldn't admit she was at fault.

So, like a totally normal person she called my work and told them lies about me, tried to get me fired. then she called my in laws and did the same. Not gettig what she wanted she then moved onto my neighbors ,so I cut her off.

She never met two of my three kids and died alone after calling me from Hospice 3 days before dying begging me to visit. I didn't take the call.

When she died, I hadn't spoken with or seen her in 14 years.

Think about that when you're treating your kids like sh*t

You refused to take her call 3 days before her death and you think you’re the better person?

Cutting off someone is infinitely better than treating someone like sh1t.

Did you really not know that?

It’s been 14 years. Maybe she wanted to apologize, who knows. It could have been good for both of you. But you’ll never know, and all you have is this ongoing rage.

1) Mother was free to apologize by letter before she died.

2) I see no evidence that PP has "ongoing rage". She responded to a prompt in a factual manner. If it feels aggressive to you, consider why.

3) How long will it be before you make a post referencing "that brat who cut her mother off for one minor argument and refused to let her mother apologize 3 days before she died"?

4) I'm still waiting for my link to the alleged "I am cutting my mother off because she wants to come for Thanksgiving" thread.

You’re talking about multiple posters who think you’re insane/super-aggressive/narcissistic. Good luck with that.

So...no link?