Wife stopped at associates degree and now working at Wawa

[Anonymous]

I am surprised that she did this. Her main job is stay at home mom. She recently finished an AA degree and graduated with honors. She had a full scholarship and a high chance of getting several to pursue a bachelor's degree. Anyway, she's set on working for Wawa three shifts a week in the evening to be with the kids during the day. They offer 401k and stocks after working there for a year. It's very close to our house. I'm not sure what happened. She wanted to study education. She said she's over getting a college degree because she only plans on working part-time, and right now, she wants to focus her time on the kids aged 3 and 6. I am supportive of her not working. She knows this. I feel she has a better shot at getting a full scholarship now since she finished in December. She's not working on applying right now and says college is pointless because she wouldn't be able to study anything marketable, given her issues with math. She isn't the greatest with math, and I say this as someone with a Ph.D in math. However, she spent much time looking at majors where that's not an issue. Two of the degrees she could do without any more math than the two courses she took off her AA degree are criminal justice and communication. Any tips on ways to motivate her to continue, or should I drop it? I think she will regret it, and paying for college in the future will be hard. Before we had children, she worked at a bank headquarters for ten years. The job paid decently and had great benefits. She left the job because I finished college and got my first job in another state. She resented me for a long, long time because not only did age lose her job, but we moved from her family. Unfortunately, she hasn't been able to find a similar job with the pay she was getting, and the locations are all very far. Most of her family didn't attend more than two years of college and they work at the bank she previously was employed. I'm not sure what to do.

[Anonymous]

What exactly is your question if this isn’t the troll post it seems to be?

Honestly, she probably just wants to get out of the house a few times a week and Wawa probably pays better and is a better work environment than teaching right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised that she did this. Her main job is stay at home mom. She recently finished an AA degree and graduated with honors. She had a full scholarship and a high chance of getting several to pursue a bachelor's degree. Anyway, she's set on working for Wawa three shifts a week in the evening to be with the kids during the day. They offer 401k and stocks after working there for a year. It's very close to our house. I'm not sure what happened. She wanted to study education. She said she's over getting a college degree because she only plans on working part-time, and right now, she wants to focus her time on the kids aged 3 and 6. I am supportive of her not working. She knows this. I feel she has a better shot at getting a full scholarship now since she finished in December. She's not working on applying right now and says college is pointless because she wouldn't be able to study anything marketable, given her issues with math. She isn't the greatest with math, and I say this as someone with a Ph.D in math. However, she spent much time looking at majors where that's not an issue. Two of the degrees she could do without any more math than the two courses she took off her AA degree are criminal justice and communication. Any tips on ways to motivate her to continue, or should I drop it ? I think she will regret it, and paying for college in the future will be hard. Before we had children, she worked at a bank headquarters for ten years. The job paid decently and had great benefits. She left the job because I finished college and got my first job in another state. She resented me for a long, long time because not only did age lose her job, but we moved from her family. Unfortunately, she hasn't been able to find a similar job with the pay she was getting, and the locations are all very far. Most of her family didn't attend more than two years of college and they work at the bank she previously was employed. I'm not sure what to do.

[Anonymous]

Can you pay for kids college without her working? That should be a big motivator for her to pursue gainful employment.

[Anonymous]

Does she bring home Wawa food after her shift? Sizzlees? Asking the real questions here.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you could start by moving back to where you lived before, where she has family nearby and better job prospects. The theme I see running through your post uses how you keep expecting her to make sacrifices for your goals and preferences.

Also, there is a pretty big disconnect between you saying you’re fine with her not working but also wanting her to put herself in a position for a better job by finishing her bachelors. How much of this is about wanting to save for college, and how much is your embarrassment that your PhD-in-math self is married to someone who works at Wawa?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you pay for kids college without her working? That should be a big motivator for her to pursue gainful employment.

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It sounds like you want her to finish a 4 year degree just because. You mentioned you don't care if she works. She's working now and caring for your kids and house, so you can work full-time. A college degree doesn't magically get someone a fantastic job. She wants a flexible job so all the money doesn't go to childcare. Most people without a 4 year degree have the government supplement childcare costs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she bring home Wawa food after her shift? Sizzlees? Asking the real questions here. [/quote


Yep. She gets a free sandwich during her shift and can buy up to 6 items for 50 cents to $1.50 each. She brings home shorties, mac n cheese, and quesadillas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could start by moving back to where you lived before, where she has family nearby and better job prospects. The theme I see running through your post uses how you keep expecting her to make sacrifices for your goals and preferences.

Also, there is a pretty big disconnect between you saying you’re fine with her not working but also wanting her to put herself in a position for a better job by finishing her bachelor's. How much of this is about wanting to save for college, and how much is your embarrassment that your PhD-in-math self is married to someone who works at Wawa?

That won't work. My job allows us to pay the mortgage and save more. I need to be around big pharmaceutical companies. I'm not embarrassed by her education. Since she has an opportunity to pursue a bachelor's, it makes since to do it now. If something happens to me, she won't be able to pay the mortgage.

[Anonymous]

I feel dumb just reading this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you pay for kids college without her working? That should be a big motivator for her to pursue gainful employment.

How many parents paid for college, and their kids work retail now? It happens all of the time.

[Anonymous]

Wawa means “come come” in a different language. Care to guess which one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could start by moving back to where you lived before, where she has family nearby and better job prospects. The theme I see running through your post uses how you keep expecting her to make sacrifices for your goals and preferences.

Also, there is a pretty big disconnect between you saying you’re fine with her not working but also wanting her to put herself in a position for a better job by finishing her bachelor's. How much of this is about wanting to save for college, and how much is your embarrassment that your PhD-in-math self is married to someone who works at Wawa?

That won't work. My job allows us to pay the mortgage and save more. I need to be around big pharmaceutical companies. I'm not embarrassed by her education. Since she has an opportunity to pursue a bachelor's, it makes since to do it now. If something happens to me, she won't be able to pay the mortgage.

So you’re totally fine if she gets the degree but then goes back to working at Wawa?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could start by moving back to where you lived before, where she has family nearby and better job prospects. The theme I see running through your post uses how you keep expecting her to make sacrifices for your goals and preferences.

Also, there is a pretty big disconnect between you saying you’re fine with her not working but also wanting her to put herself in a position for a better job by finishing her bachelor's. How much of this is about wanting to save for college, and how much is your embarrassment that your PhD-in-math self is married to someone who works at Wawa?

That won't work. My job allows us to pay the mortgage and save more. I need to be around big pharmaceutical companies. I'm not embarrassed by her education. Since she has an opportunity to pursue a bachelor's, it makes since to do it now. If something happens to me, she won't be able to pay the mortgage.

Get life insurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel dumb just reading this.

Then move on. People have careers that don't require college. You sound entitled.