He's vacationing with his ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

There's a guy I've been seeing casually for a little while. We lost touch for a month or so, but he reached out to me and said he wanted to see me again, apologized for the silence, and said he would do better with his communication (which he has). However, he told me he is vacationing with his ex-wife and their twin girls (kids are 10) to see her family in Colorado for Christmas. I find this super weird, and I don't really want to be involved with anyone who is vacationing with their ex-spouse. I know we're not committed to one another or anything like that yet, but it still gives me all kinds of red flags.

Am I alone in this? I'm thinking of just walking away from the situation.

[Anonymous]

Wouldn't touch it with a 10-foot pole, honey.

[Anonymous]

lol no thanks

[Anonymous]

It could be okay. It’s a way for him to actually spend Christmas with his girls.
Would you rather he prefer to hang with his new girlfriend? Yes, it could be weird or it could be a sign he’s a connected involved dad that’s willing to compromise. I’d reserve judgement.

[Anonymous]

I think you are perfectly fine to walk away. But I would walk because he's ghosted you for a solid month, not because he's spending Christmas with his kids. That could be great (coparents of the year!) or terrible (still sleeping with his ex), but you'll never be sure because he doesn't communicate well so you will suspect that silence is covering sins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It could be okay. It’s a way for him to actually spend Christmas with his girls.
Would you rather he prefer to hang with his new girlfriend? Yes, it could be weird or it could be a sign he’s a connected involved dad that’s willing to compromise. I’d reserve judgement.

OP: Part of being divorced is splitting holidays though. You don't continue to act like you're a nuclear family.

[Anonymous]

You’re not married or engaged. Only “casual”. Therefore, he’s a free agent. Own it.

[Anonymous]

You’re insecure AF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re insecure AF.

You'd be cool with the guy you're seeing traveling across the country to spend a major holiday with his ex-wife? I guess I must be insecure too then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re not married or engaged. Only “casual”. Therefore, he’s a free agent. Own it.

OP: I mean, I know. But we've been seeing one another/sleeping together, and we've both expressed interest in this developing further. Relationships have to begin somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re insecure AF.

You'd be cool with the guy you're seeing traveling across the country to spend a major holiday with his ex-wife? I guess I must be insecure too then.

+2 for apparently being insecure/ having standards for my men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re insecure AF.

You'd be cool with the guy you're seeing traveling across the country to spend a major holiday with his ex-wife? I guess I must be insecure too then.

If you’re going to date a guy with kids, you should be glad he’s making the effort.

[Anonymous]

I would not date a guy who ghosted me for a month.

I also would not date a guy who vacationed with his ex.

Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re insecure AF.

You'd be cool with the guy you're seeing traveling across the country to spend a major holiday with his ex-wife? I guess I must be insecure too then.

If you’re going to date a guy with kids, you should be glad he’s making the effort.

Effort would be him taking spending time with them or taking them on a trip with him to see his parents.
His ex-wife should NOT be involved. No wonder you women get cheated on so often in this forum.
Y'all are delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re insecure AF.

You'd be cool with the guy you're seeing traveling across the country to spend a major holiday with his ex-wife? I guess I must be insecure too then.

I’m sure he wants to be with his kids. I for one admire that he is able to have a good relationship with his ex for the sake of his kids.