S/O teen pregnancy- would you rather be the parent of the pregnant girl or the baby daddy?

[Anonymous]

Boy.
He would relinquish custody and pay child support from his zero income.

[Anonymous]

The Nazis killed innocent lives because
Hitler considered those lives to be leaches.

That was the first Holocaust...

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Anonymous wrote:Discussion about how much control we have over daughters makes me cringe a bit.

I didn't post that, but many daughters will come to their parents for advice with a pregnancy. NO girl is going to go to her boyfriend's parents for advice. Boyfriend and boyfriend's parents have ZERO say over what happens to baby.

Depends on the situation. My parents were very into appearances, hard to approach, and very sure I would never get into this type of situation. But I got pregnant when I was a teen (18, end of my senior year of HS). My boyfriend and I went to his parents. They were going to pay for an abortion or help us figure out how to raise the baby. I think I would have had an abortion but I miscarried. My parents never knew, his mom took me to the doctor and helped me afterwards. We broke up a couple years later, but I’m so grateful they were there for us. I would have been lucky to have them as in-laws.

I try to be very supportive and open with my children. I don’t ever want them to feel like they can’t tell me something like this. I also have huge boxes of condoms and plan b in the house, and make sure everyone knows where they are.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about this. What rights do boys parents have over the baby? You all keep saying they sue for custody. I would fight so hard to keep my baby and not give my in-laws custody if she died or we had a baby as unmarried teens. I thought grandparents had zero rights?

They have absolutely no rights. Some states grandparents can sue and do get visitation but parents cannot sue. Father can sue for visits or custody but if its just visits its hard to get them enforced if the mom refuses.

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This is terrible but the boy has it way easier. He has so many more options at every step of the way. He’s not the one going through pregnancy, so his body and routine stays the same. He can walk away or not. Once the girl decides to keep the pregnancy her options are done.

He cannot walk away. He is responsible for child support payments for 18 years.

With what income???

They will both need to get incomes. He eventually will not pay child support because he’ll have 50/50 custody

Many people still pay CS with 50/50 because it is based on income.

So the teen parent making $13.00/hr will have to pay CS to the teen parent making $10.50/hr?

If 50/50 custody, yes, but it would probably be minimal. Its a calculator. If it was just weekly visitation they would have to pay full child support as it is time share and income which is why many moms refuse 50/50 or fight hard to stop it as it impacts child support.

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Anonymous wrote:If a boy terminated parental rights before a baby is born does he still owe child support?

Yes.

He can give up legal custody. He can not terminate his parental responsibility to pay child support.

The only exception is if the mom wants another man - like a husband or boyfriend to adopt the baby. Then the father can completely terminate his rights/responsibilities. However, that only happens if the mom has someone else willing to adopt the baby which is highly unlikely with a teen mom.

I’m female but honestly that sucks for the guy. He doesn’t get to choose if the baby goes up for adoption. Kind of sad all around.

This is not true. A mother can not put the child up for adoption against the father's will. There have been court cases where the mother tried to do this (never named the father) and years later the father finds out he has a child that has been adopted. In some of these cases the father has gone to court to get custody of the child and the child is taken away from the adoptive family.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who say abortion- do you really think you can force your daughter down that path? Would you be OK with them blaming you for the rest of their lives if they didn't really want it?

I’d NEVER forgive my mother or anyone else if they tried to pressure me to kill my unplanned child. Actually, my employer tried to convince me to kill her, just like Michael Bloomberg did to his pregnant employees.

I took a new job, and then went on to have a beautiful baby daughter. Thank God!!!

Good thing you do not get to choose for others.

Right now abortion is settled law.

You do you and the rest of us will be realistic. Pro Choice!

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Anonymous wrote:If a boy terminated parental rights before a baby is born does he still owe child support?

Yes.

He can give up legal custody. He can not terminate his parental responsibility to pay child support.

The only exception is if the mom wants another man - like a husband or boyfriend to adopt the baby. Then the father can completely terminate his rights/responsibilities. However, that only happens if the mom has someone else willing to adopt the baby which is highly unlikely with a teen mom.

I’m female but honestly that sucks for the guy. He doesn’t get to choose if the baby goes up for adoption. Kind of sad all around.

This is not true. A mother can not put the child up for adoption against the father's will. There have been court cases where the mother tried to do this (never named the father) and years later the father finds out he has a child that has been adopted. In some of these cases the father has gone to court to get custody of the child and the child is taken away from the adoptive family.

Not true in every state and you apparently watch a lot of Law and order.

[Anonymous]

Who knew there were so many disgusting posters on this board? I can’t imagine being so cavalier about terminating what would be a grandchild. Very disturbing that there are people who think this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The Nazis killed innocent lives because
Hitler considered those lives to be leaches.

That was the first Holocaust...

You should go back to history class. Hitler killed people who he considered genetically inferior or enemies to the Arian state.
And how is that relevant to the discussion?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
The Nazis killed innocent lives because
Hitler considered those lives to be leaches.

That was the first Holocaust...

You should go back to history class. Hitler killed people who he considered genetically inferior or enemies to the Arian state.
And how is that relevant to the discussion?

Hitler considered Jews and others to be a problem for him. So he just arranged for “procedures” to get rid of them, while most of the world simply looked the other way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
The Nazis killed innocent lives because
Hitler considered those lives to be leaches.

That was the first Holocaust...

You should go back to history class. Hitler killed people who he considered genetically inferior or enemies to the Arian state.
And how is that relevant to the discussion?

He considered them (a) inconvenient, and (b) not people.

Exactly like "pro choice" people consider unborn children.

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend and boyfriend's parents have ZERO say over what happens to baby.

This is why the father should have ZERO financial obligation of she decides to keep it.

With total authority should come total responsibility.

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Anonymous wrote:Who knew there were so many disgusting posters on this board? I can’t imagine being so cavalier about terminating what would be a grandchild. Very disturbing that there are people who think this way.

Lots of people think this way. Otherwise you'd be forcing a teenager to carry an unwanted baby to term. I know which option I'd prefer for my teenage daughter.

[Anonymous]

I think baby daddy. Mostly that's because I only have boys. If the girl decided to have the baby, I'd work like crazy to keep a relationship between me and the girl on good terms, even if her relationship with my son sours. It's not a given that I could succeed in keeping the relationship positive, particularly if she makes really stupid choices, but I'd try.