S/O teen pregnancy- would you rather be the parent of the pregnant girl or the baby daddy?
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Anonymous
Yes, even my hypothetical children will not behave like children of trailer trash. Or do drugs. Or fail at school or life. Or date ràpe someone. Parenting and attitudes matter. And here are pages of people who are sharing their beliefs. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
Either one can walk away from the “responsibility.” Or either one can decide that the baby will know who both birth parents are, whether parent #2 wants that or not. There’s no consensus here, so not sure where you got that idea. Also not sure where you got the idea that posters don’t care about kids in cages or actual, non theoretical children. |
Anonymous
You’re an idiot with her head in the sand. |
Anonymous
It's not 1950 anymore... that is not how it works. They will expect the mother to work, they will not give her child support for her to live.... the money is for the child's needs and if she can't support the child and the man can she will be fighting for custody. The grandparents with more money win actually. |
Anonymous
| IDK I think rather parent of boy. As parent of girl it’s a terrible decision to make either way to keep pregnancy or not. I would feel responsible making or supporting my daughter’s choice and if things didn’t turn out well. |
Anonymous
| The parent for sure. More access. It would devastate me to have a grandchild out there whose life I couldn’t be a part of. |
Anonymous
No. I am the person who believes in good parenting and morals. I am not a failed parent. I might be a rare breed and in minority, but just because many people have messed up kids, dysfunctional family lives, broken marriages, horrible relationships with their children, does not mean that it is normal and desirable way to live life. Take responsibility of your choices. |
Anonymous
Yeah but I would be more devastated if said child was in a situation I’m forced to be a part of 24/7 and witness the train wreck |
Anonymous
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My parents told me, a girl, that if I got pregnant they would force.mw to have an abortion. My parents told my brother they didn't believe in abortion, and that if he got any girl pregnant they would force him to marry her and support the child.
So they worked both angles, and both of us took a lot of precautions. Had no idea, until we were older and discussing our parents views on abortion and figured out they fed us two different stories because they were too tired and broke to take care of grandkids. |
Anonymous
No your an idiot with your head in the sand. |
Anonymous
You would be more devastated to see your grandchild 24/7 than never? Just wow! |
Anonymous
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I'd rather be the parent of baby daddy. I have a son and feel blessed to have a kind, compassionate and generous one. In 2016 (he was 12) after Trump won, his group chats were on fire. His friends, one girl in particular was terrified that her parents would be sent back to their country and she'd be left here. I was checking his messages at that age. He told her he'd marry her in a text. Ugh
He's the type of kid that would step up and take it very seriously. He has an incredible paid internship (16 yo now) and works 2x week and manages school, junior year testing grind and a seasonal varsity sport. He's a responsible kid. His boss/owner (who I met once) said DS has a job for life. And this is a very wealthy business owner and high tech visionary with big plans. I was floored. Despite son's level of maturity, he has a foot in two worlds and is a youngish 16. He'd fall in love easily and not necessarily with eyes wide open. Please dear Gd have mercy on us all in this thread. |
Anonymous
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I don't know why people think that a boy can just walk away from his own child. He can't. He is legally responsible for that baby and is just as much a parent to the baby as the girl is.
I think that the physical aspects of pregnancy/birth would be hard to watch your teenage daughter go through. It's just a lot for a teenager to handle and I think that they underestimate and romanticize what it's like to have a baby before you are a self sufficient adult. |
Anonymous
+1 |