Husband just threw a pillow at me

[Anonymous]

this is sleep deprivation OP. you both need to remember not to say or do permanent things in a temporary situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Then don't leave pillows in the middle of the hallway! Sounds like it was your fault.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then don't leave pillows in the middle of the hallway! Sounds like it was your fault.

+1

Yep sounds like a tripping hazard.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had my ex pull the pillow out from under me and put it over my face. It was one of the scariest moments of my life. I don't want to minimize the emotional abuse. Was your current dh the perpetrator of this emotional abuse? If so, why are you with him and why did you have a child with him? If he was not, I think you are both horribly sleep deprived but may want to look into couples counseling for coping skills.

Your story sound horrible, but this is NOT what happened to OP

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. If you are a male, you do not get to be violent with me- I don't care if it's a pillow or an apple, whatever- it can all hurt like hell when thrown fast.

I would be making moves to get out. He is already emotionally abusive, sounds like he's escalating to physicality now. Don't wait, you know what you should do.

Oh puh-lease. You cannot break up your marriage while you are both crazy from baby sleep deprivation because someone threw a PILLOW. God, I would have been divorced so long ago if I listened to advice like this. Just because your husband is aggravated and you had a fight does not mean that there is "abuse" in the marriage. Sometimes things get better, and every marriage is different.

Ahahah you and me both!

[Anonymous]

Damn...8 pages over a pillow being thrown.
Either people are running out of juicy tales to share or y'all are thirsty as hell for debate/discussion and will take anything you can get.

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Anonymous wrote:

Another agreement with this. As someone who has lived through abuse, it almost starts with things that, when you tell them to others who are clueless about abuse dynamics, don't seem abusive, like throwing a pillow. Or punching a wall far away from you. Or, in my case, pretending to hyperventilate. All things designed to stimulate the person losing all emotional control, and usually some kind of physicality to 'get out their rage'.

Let me provide some logical perspective here. Just because some abuser might have once thrown a pillow does not mean that everyone who throws a pillow is an abuser. Nor does it mean that throwing pillows will "inevitably" escalate into significant physical abuse.

you may now continue with your regularly scheduled DCUM abuse freakout.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn...8 pages over a pillow being thrown.
Either people are running out of juicy tales to share or y'all are thirsty as hell for debate/discussion and will take anything you can get.

It’s over a year old....

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is an absolute joke. I know the OP's soon-to-be ex-husband and this man is genuinely a great person. Think about it people...You don't think a woman can be emotionally abusive too, creating or adding to the toxicity of the relationship? Get over yourself and move on because people in a volatile relationship are going to be ugly to one another, from both sides!

Have you been married to him? No. Let me guess - you're in a new relationship with him. Great! Check back with us in five years and let us know how it's going.

[Anonymous]

Another pillow thrower! It seems to be going around!

https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/07/your-friends-lavish-extravagant-wedding-and-more-advice-from-dear-prudence.html

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, get the F out now. Advise I wish i had taken. I promise you this is just the beginning. Take your baby and get out.

It could be a couch cushion next. Or a whole Futon. Where does it end?

Stuffed animals next. Remove all teddy bears from the house.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot more is going on here than the pillow incident, which doesn't sound like it is really the crux of your problems.

Very true. One time he intentionally left the cap off our toothpaste.