Husband just threw a pillow at me

[Anonymous]

There must be other things going on, this pillow thing is just some childish prank. No one would ever take this as a serious assault. Although he was most likely wrong, your taking this to the extreme.

[Anonymous]

There must be other things going on, this pillow thing is just some childish prank. No one would ever take this as a serious assault. Although he was most likely wrong, your taking this to the extreme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd get out and contact the police. This is assault and battery, and domestic abuse. The police MUST arrest him for this if you report it, and I definitely would.

This is an indicator that he is prone to violence, and frankly, he should be in jail. How long is up to him. If he gets help, maybe he should receive a short sentence. If not, well, then he doesn't need to get out, period. It's not like there's a shortage of men out there.

Point is, he's clearly violent and out of control. Today it was a pillow, tomorrow he might be shooting you and your child. That is completely within the realm of possibility and you need to deal with him according

WE DON'T EVEN KNOW IF IT HIT HER

AND THERE IS OBVIOUSLY NO INJURY

So chill with the assault and battery nonsense. This is BEYOND stupid.

[Anonymous]

Does he have a history of abuse and violence?

[Anonymous]

Why wa there a pillow on the floor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why wa there a pillow on the floor?

Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he have a history of abuse and violence?

Emotional violence, yes. Emotional and financial abuse, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he have a history of abuse and violence?

Emotional violence, yes. Emotional and financial abuse, yes.

OP, you need to get out. It sounds like you know that, in your heart. I promise you this is just a hint of what's to come if he's already being abusive- trust me from someone who has been there.

How old is your baby? Do you work outside the home or SAHM? Have money?

[Anonymous]

OP, you both sound fatigued, making more, on each side, of a silly incident. There must be more to the story. Some of the above reactions are over the top. I suggest getting some rest and talking with your DH after you not tired. Rationally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If you are a male, you do not get to be violent with me- I don't care if it's a pillow or an apple, whatever- it can all hurt like hell when thrown fast.

I would be making moves to get out. He is already emotionally abusive, sounds like he's escalating to physicality now. Don't wait, you know what you should do.

Some of you ladies out here are really nuts and would advise a wife to leave her husband if god forbid he didn't say "bless you" when she sneezed! The above response is a gross overreaction and clearly comes from a damaged person. Op please don't listen to this nonsense. Your husband is human-- a sleep deprived human. Get some sleep if you can, love him, forgive him and move on from this. Good grief

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If you are a male, you do not get to be violent with me- I don't care if it's a pillow or an apple, whatever- it can all hurt like hell when thrown fast.

I would be making moves to get out. He is already emotionally abusive, sounds like he's escalating to physicality now. Don't wait, you know what you should do.

Some of you ladies out here are really nuts and would advise a wife to leave her husband if god forbid he didn't say "bless you" when she sneezed! The above response is a gross overreaction and clearly comes from a damaged person. Op please don't listen to this nonsense. Your husband is human-- a sleep deprived human. Get some sleep if you can, love him, forgive him and move on from this. Good grief

He has a history of emotional abuse and OP sounds frightened of him and it's just sleep deprivation? Gotcha. Is that the going excuse now?

[Anonymous]

This is going to be the worst time in your marriage (new baby). Don't spin this up.

[Anonymous]

Can you elaborate some on the emotional abuse/violence? And what is financial abuse?

[Anonymous]

Hey op, that pillow goes well with you being a doormat.

You say he wasn't a good husband, he cheated, and yet you still had a kid??! Maybe you need to learn from your own mistakes.

And clean up your damn pillows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I once had my ex pull the pillow out from under me and put it over my face. It was one of the scariest moments of my life. I don't want to minimize the emotional abuse. Was your current dh the perpetrator of this emotional abuse? If so, why are you with him and why did you have a child with him? If he was not, I think you are both horribly sleep deprived but may want to look into couples counseling for coping skills.

He's been emotionally abusive for years. I thought it wasn't that bad for a while because my prior relationship was extremely violent. I was in love with him anyway, but then I found out he cheated (I was already pregnant when I found out). Now I'm filled with rage. He treats me with disrespect on a regular basis. This is the last straw for me.

Wait, wait. He cheated on you while you were pregnant, and you are pissed about the pillow?