Husband just threw a pillow at me

[Anonymous]

You are both sleep deprived. He should not have thrown the pillow, but yeah, you shouldn't leave out tripping hazards. What may well have seemed like a "nudge" to you could have registered as much more to him in a sleepy state.

Move on.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of men who should have taken the kids and left their wives according to this thread.

If you wife expresses strong emotion, gets frustrated and does anything physical, or gets really upset with you...that is a sign she is a dangerous abuser and you should take the child and get far away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, get the F out now. Advise I wish i had taken. I promise you this is just the beginning. Take your baby and get out.

Overreact much? It's a pillow, not a samurai sword!

[Anonymous]

This thread is an absolute joke. I know the OP's soon-to-be ex-husband and this man is genuinely a great person. Think about it people...You don't think a woman can be emotionally abusive too, creating or adding to the toxicity of the relationship? Get over yourself and move on because people in a volatile relationship are going to be ugly to one another, from both sides!

[Anonymous]

New baby and sleep deprivation. Been there, done that. Hang in there, it will get better in few months when baby (and both of you) will be getting more sleep and the new family routine will set in. A new baby is often an ‘earthquake’’ on a couple life. Ask for some help so you a get enough rest and maybe considered couple counseling too. Praying for your family.

[Anonymous]

This post is over 1 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd get out and contact the police. This is assault and battery, and domestic abuse. The police MUST arrest him for this if you report it, and I definitely would.

This is an indicator that he is prone to violence, and frankly, he should be in jail. How long is up to him. If he gets help, maybe he should receive a short sentence. If not, well, then he doesn't need to get out, period. It's not like there's a shortage of men out there.

Point is, he's clearly violent and out of control. Today it was a pillow, tomorrow he might be shooting you and your child. That is completely within the realm of possibility and you need to deal with him according

agreed. This is assault and battery. You should have called 911 the moment it happened. Once he is in jail you will have a much better ability to gain custody of your child and protect your child from his out of control rage and violence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is an absolute joke. I know the OP's soon-to-be ex-husband and this man is genuinely a great person. Think about it people...You don't think a woman can be emotionally abusive too, creating or adding to the toxicity of the relationship? Get over yourself and move on because people in a volatile relationship are going to be ugly to one another, from both sides!

A "genuinely great person" doesn't cheat on his wife, not for any reason, not ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you elaborate some on the emotional abuse/violence? And what is financial abuse?

Posting again for those that need a guide:

You get angry and raise your voice? That's verbal abuse
Try to ignore it and not say anything? That's emotional abuse
Spend your money in a way she doesn't agree? That's financial abuse
Ask her for sex more often than she wants it? That's sexual abuse
Try to get physical anyway? Of course, that's physical abuse. Also sexual abuse.
Likewise, don't give it to her as often as she wants. That's sexual deprivation...abuse
Call her out on her crazy? That's mental abuse..oh and, Gaslighting, but that's another thread
Tracking her social media because you don't trust her? That's...wait for it...I swear this is real... Technological abuse
Sending her text messages, expecting a response but getting nothing? That's Cyber abuse
Harassing her about an actual affair when you catch her? That's Psychological abuse
Telling her you wish she would eat healthy and maybe lose a few? Fat shaming, emotional abuse
Belittling her academic focus or worthless degree? That's academic abuse
Not being nice to her in public if, for example, she is drunk and flirting with other men? That's Social abuse
Driving too fast with her in the car? That's Environmental abuse, or maybe, Vehicular abuse if it's her car.
You throw a pillow at her? That's..... someone fill in this blank for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd get out and contact the police. This is assault and battery, and domestic abuse. The police MUST arrest him for this if you report it, and I definitely would.

This is an indicator that he is prone to violence, and frankly, he should be in jail. How long is up to him. If he gets help, maybe he should receive a short sentence. If not, well, then he doesn't need to get out, period. It's not like there's a shortage of men out there.

Point is, he's clearly violent and out of control. Today it was a pillow, tomorrow he might be shooting you and your child. That is completely within the realm of possibility and you need to deal with him according

Imagine this guy in the slammer and the other inmates ask what he is in there for. Hard core MFers talking to him and he says, I threw a pillow at my wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, get the F out now. Advise I wish i had taken. I promise you this is just the beginning. Take your baby and get out.

It could be a couch cushion next. Or a whole Futon. Where does it end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd get out and contact the police. This is assault and battery, and domestic abuse. The police MUST arrest him for this if you report it, and I definitely would.

This is an indicator that he is prone to violence, and frankly, he should be in jail. How long is up to him. If he gets help, maybe he should receive a short sentence. If not, well, then he doesn't need to get out, period. It's not like there's a shortage of men out there.

Point is, he's clearly violent and out of control. Today it was a pillow, tomorrow he might be shooting you and your child. That is completely within the realm of possibility and you need to deal with him according

Imagine this guy in the slammer and the other inmates ask what he is in there for. Hard core MFers talking to him and he says, I threw a pillow at my wife.

In for assault with a soft and cuddly weapon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd get out and contact the police. This is assault and battery, and domestic abuse. The police MUST arrest him for this if you report it, and I definitely would.

This is an indicator that he is prone to violence, and frankly, he should be in jail. How long is up to him. If he gets help, maybe he should receive a short sentence. If not, well, then he doesn't need to get out, period. It's not like there's a shortage of men out there.

Point is, he's clearly violent and out of control. Today it was a pillow, tomorrow he might be shooting you and your child. That is completely within the realm of possibility and you need to deal with him according

Imagine this guy in the slammer and the other inmates ask what he is in there for. Hard core MFers talking to him and he says, I threw a pillow at my wife.

In for assault with a soft and cuddly weapon

lol

[Anonymous]

Team man. Stop smacking him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not hit him. He knew where I was laying and he threw it with force. Furthermore, he didn't apologize - he told me I shouldn't have left it in the walkway.

You sound like a egomaniac princess who doesn’t have the emotional maturity to be married or having babies.