Should a DW have to earn her role as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:Personally? Unless there are special needs children, or you have hundreds of millions of dollars, no reason to have either parent SAH.

Cool then don't. Are you the person who decides what everyone else should do? Can you provide your contact info?

Hysterical! Are you a comedian?

Oh no, wait.

I'm not the PP but I will admit I found that pretty damn funny- in fact I genuinely laughed out loud.

I think you are butthurt because you got called out for being an ass.

I'm not pp. And "butthurt?" Are you 12? Go back to spending hubby's cash.

Bahaha. I am not a SAHM. And yet, oddly enough... I dont have a vendetta against them because IT'S NOT UP TO ME TO DICTATE HOW OTHER PEOPLE LIVE.

Are you capable of wrapping your head around that concept? That a lifestyle you may not endorse may work perfectly well for others?

Flaw in your logical analysis. Having an opinion as to whether or not people should SAH is not the same thing as dictating how other people live. Do you get that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Personally? Unless there are special needs children, or you have hundreds of millions of dollars, no reason to have either parent SAH.

Cool then don't. Are you the person who decides what everyone else should do? Can you provide your contact info?

No, I will not provide my contact info. I was answering the question, "Should a DW have to earn her role as a SAHM?" Sorry you don't like my opinion.

It's funny that you act like the PP was dogmatic in "not liking your opinion" when your opinion is in fact extremely dogmatic and totally rude towards a large group of people (not to mention a large portion of posters on this site).

How is it rude? That's her opinion. I agree with it. Nothing she said was rude. Stop being so defensive - it isn't a good look.

Yeah, if you could stop sockpuppeting and own that you are the same person, that would be great...

Nope. I'm the person who posted the comment that began "Personally." Another poster sees this was not an attack, and has chimed in.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG... SAHM are so incredibly sad. You do realize that no matter how much you bitch and moan, some women will continue to SAHM and their husbands will support them? Right?

Oops... *SAHM haters.

Your post, which conveyed no sensible meaning whatsoever before the correction, is not going to convince me that SAH was a choice in your case.

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Why are people so rude and hateful about SAHMing? Is it just jealousy, resentment or a combo?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people so rude and hateful about SAHMing? Is it just jealousy, resentment or a combo?

Neither. SAH if you want, just don't pretend it's a superior way to live for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people so rude and hateful about SAHMing? Is it just jealousy, resentment or a combo?

Neither. SAH if you want, just don't pretend it's a superior way to live for everyone.

Then don't pretend it's an inferior way either.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people so rude and hateful about SAHMing? Is it just jealousy, resentment or a combo?

Neither. SAH if you want, just don't pretend it's a superior way to live for everyone.

Then don't pretend it's an inferior way either.

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[Anonymous]

I am a SAHM and my kids are in school and college. I have time, energy and resources on my hand and I have outsourced some of the household work. I am lucky I married a good man who is a high earner and can support a family financially. I worked before I stayed at home and have multiple degrees in my chosen field. I have used my education to help supplement my kid's public school education and they are in top magnet programs and colleges. We are financially very secure because we have always lived below our means.

I do not have to earn anything for my own existence, however, there were things I wanted in my marriage, for my kids, for our lifestyle and for our financial future, and we have achieved those. In the end, the kind of house and home I have is a result of our (DH and I) combined vision and effort.

I find it pathetic when women claim that earning a pay gives them equality. Does that mean that if they choose to stay home their husbands will not consider them equal or respect them? In that case, what kind of losers have they married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM and my kids are in school and college. I have time, energy and resources on my hand and I have outsourced some of the household work. I am lucky I married a good man who is a high earner and can support a family financially. I worked before I stayed at home and have multiple degrees in my chosen field. I have used my education to help supplement my kid's public school education and they are in top magnet programs and colleges. We are financially very secure because we have always lived below our means.

I do not have to earn anything for my own existence, however, there were things I wanted in my marriage, for my kids, for our lifestyle and for our financial future, and we have achieved those. In the end, the kind of house and home I have is a result of our (DH and I) combined vision and effort.

I find it pathetic when women claim that earning a pay gives them equality. Does that mean that if they choose to stay home their husbands will not consider them equal or respect them? In that case, what kind of losers have they married?

I totally agree with everything youve said.

Also, most of the women who seem to be opposed to SAHMs dont seem to be doing it out of genuine concern for "inequality"- such as, the genuine risk that happens for a SAHM if a divorce happens, in terms of reentering the workplace. No, they seem to be more having a tantrum over "it's not fair!" and if you prod them over it they will say disgusting things like, "just because you have a vagina doesnt mean you dont have to work!"

It makes me wonder if these people are just misogynistic angry men trolling and pretending to be SAHMs... but it blows my mind how much women can hate other women, especially when they feel that another woman has gotten a "larger slice of pie" than them.

I think it's mainly rooted in jealousy.

And I remember one SAHM hater, when prodded, admitted she had a very poor relationship with her own mother. I think the hatred of SAHMs comes from people who have issues with the female gender as a whole, and hate SAHMing because they see it as the epitome of feminine behavior. JMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM and my kids are in school and college. I have time, energy and resources on my hand and I have outsourced some of the household work. I am lucky I married a good man who is a high earner and can support a family financially. I worked before I stayed at home and have multiple degrees in my chosen field. I have used my education to help supplement my kid's public school education and they are in top magnet programs and colleges. We are financially very secure because we have always lived below our means.

I do not have to earn anything for my own existence, however, there were things I wanted in my marriage, for my kids, for our lifestyle and for our financial future, and we have achieved those. In the end, the kind of house and home I have is a result of our (DH and I) combined vision and effort.

I find it pathetic when women claim that earning a pay gives them equality. Does that mean that if they choose to stay home their husbands will not consider them equal or respect them? In that case, what kind of losers have they married?

I have a different marriage than you do. Shrug. When I say equality, I mean I make a salary literally equal to my DH's, not equality in some sociopolitical sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM and my kids are in school and college. I have time, energy and resources on my hand and I have outsourced some of the household work. I am lucky I married a good man who is a high earner and can support a family financially. I worked before I stayed at home and have multiple degrees in my chosen field. I have used my education to help supplement my kid's public school education and they are in top magnet programs and colleges. We are financially very secure because we have always lived below our means.

I do not have to earn anything for my own existence, however, there were things I wanted in my marriage, for my kids, for our lifestyle and for our financial future, and we have achieved those. In the end, the kind of house and home I have is a result of our (DH and I) combined vision and effort.

I find it pathetic when women claim that earning a pay gives them equality. Does that mean that if they choose to stay home their husbands will not consider them equal or respect them? In that case, what kind of losers have they married?

I totally agree with everything youve said.

Also, most of the women who seem to be opposed to SAHMs dont seem to be doing it out of genuine concern for "inequality"- such as, the genuine risk that happens for a SAHM if a divorce happens, in terms of reentering the workplace. No, they seem to be more having a tantrum over "it's not fair!" and if you prod them over it they will say disgusting things like, "just because you have a vagina doesnt mean you dont have to work!"

It makes me wonder if these people are just misogynistic angry men trolling and pretending to be SAHMs... but it blows my mind how much women can hate other women, especially when they feel that another woman has gotten a "larger slice of pie" than them.

I think it's mainly rooted in jealousy.

And I remember one SAHM hater, when prodded, admitted she had a very poor relationship with her own mother. I think the hatred of SAHMs comes from people who have issues with the female gender as a whole, and hate SAHMing because they see it as the epitome of feminine behavior. JMO.

Why would SAH be the epitome of feminine behavior? Meaning, depending on a man for money? Is THAT what you or this school of thought thinks is feminine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are people so rude and hateful about SAHMing? Is it just jealousy, resentment or a combo?

I don't see the need for it. That's not jealousy or resentment. Also, I just relate better to women who are professionally ambitious. Very part time WOHs or poorly educated WOHMs who work full time don't do it for me either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM and my kids are in school and college. I have time, energy and resources on my hand and I have outsourced some of the household work. I am lucky I married a good man who is a high earner and can support a family financially. I worked before I stayed at home and have multiple degrees in my chosen field. I have used my education to help supplement my kid's public school education and they are in top magnet programs and colleges. We are financially very secure because we have always lived below our means.

I do not have to earn anything for my own existence, however, there were things I wanted in my marriage, for my kids, for our lifestyle and for our financial future, and we have achieved those. In the end, the kind of house and home I have is a result of our (DH and I) combined vision and effort.

I find it pathetic when women claim that earning a pay gives them equality. Does that mean that if they choose to stay home their husbands will not consider them equal or respect them? In that case, what kind of losers have they married?

I totally agree with everything youve said.

Also, most of the women who seem to be opposed to SAHMs dont seem to be doing it out of genuine concern for "inequality"- such as, the genuine risk that happens for a SAHM if a divorce happens, in terms of reentering the workplace. No, they seem to be more having a tantrum over "it's not fair!" and if you prod them over it they will say disgusting things like, "just because you have a vagina doesnt mean you dont have to work!"

It makes me wonder if these people are just misogynistic angry men trolling and pretending to be SAHMs... but it blows my mind how much women can hate other women, especially when they feel that another woman has gotten a "larger slice of pie" than them.

I think it's mainly rooted in jealousy.

And I remember one SAHM hater, when prodded, admitted she had a very poor relationship with her own mother. I think the hatred of SAHMs comes from people who have issues with the female gender as a whole, and hate SAHMing because they see it as the epitome of feminine behavior. JMO.

Why would SAH be the epitome of feminine behavior? Meaning, depending on a man for money? Is THAT what you or this school of thought thinks is feminine?

In our culture, sure- that would be considered feminine. Also just having your life essentially centered around the act of mothering- extremely traditionally feminine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people so rude and hateful about SAHMing? Is it just jealousy, resentment or a combo?

Neither. SAH if you want, just don't pretend it's a superior way to live for everyone.

Then don't pretend it's an inferior way either.

What's interesting is discussing whether dual WOHP or WOHP/SAHP is good or bad for specific families and circumstances.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM and my kids are in school and college. I have time, energy and resources on my hand and I have outsourced some of the household work. I am lucky I married a good man who is a high earner and can support a family financially. I worked before I stayed at home and have multiple degrees in my chosen field. I have used my education to help supplement my kid's public school education and they are in top magnet programs and colleges. We are financially very secure because we have always lived below our means.

I do not have to earn anything for my own existence, however, there were things I wanted in my marriage, for my kids, for our lifestyle and for our financial future, and we have achieved those. In the end, the kind of house and home I have is a result of our (DH and I) combined vision and effort.

I find it pathetic when women claim that earning a pay gives them equality. Does that mean that if they choose to stay home their husbands will not consider them equal or respect them? In that case, what kind of losers have they married?

I totally agree with everything youve said.

Also, most of the women who seem to be opposed to SAHMs dont seem to be doing it out of genuine concern for "inequality"- such as, the genuine risk that happens for a SAHM if a divorce happens, in terms of reentering the workplace. No, they seem to be more having a tantrum over "it's not fair!" and if you prod them over it they will say disgusting things like, "just because you have a vagina doesnt mean you dont have to work!"

It makes me wonder if these people are just misogynistic angry men trolling and pretending to be SAHMs... but it blows my mind how much women can hate other women, especially when they feel that another woman has gotten a "larger slice of pie" than them.

I think it's mainly rooted in jealousy.

And I remember one SAHM hater, when prodded, admitted she had a very poor relationship with her own mother. I think the hatred of SAHMs comes from people who have issues with the female gender as a whole, and hate SAHMing because they see it as the epitome of feminine behavior. JMO.

Why would SAH be the epitome of feminine behavior? Meaning, depending on a man for money? Is THAT what you or this school of thought thinks is feminine?

In our culture, sure- that would be considered feminine. Also just having your life essentially centered around the act of mothering- extremely traditionally feminine.

Ok. In 2015, when families are no longer large, it's hard for me to see that but I concede. I'm very feminine in appearance, but not like this.