18yo about to be let go from summer job because of phone use

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She says he’s mostly calling her, but I’d say it’s half and half. She is an extreme people pleaser and never says no to anyone. She doesn’t want to leave the phone at home. OP

You need to work on this now. I would be through the roof if my kid was being fired from a job for insubordination. She is refusing to listen to the manager. Why is this ok with you?

She liked the job and didn’t want to get fired, but she also likes her boyfriend and couldn’t stop prioritizing talking to her boyfriend and over actually listening or doing what she was supposed to do. She never said no to her boss or argued with him, and he only talked to her once about it. The other times he gave her warnings, but I don’t think she understood because she wasn’t focusing. Being fired isn’t great and I’m not okay with it, but at 18 there’s only so much control you I left and she does whatever she wants. There’s not a lot I can do.

Her boyfriend is a very nice young man. He’s in college and is home working and being productive this summer.

She doesn’t want anything outdoors like lifeguarding or camps. She says she’ll work any hours, but now that she’s been fired I’m not sure she’ll even be motivated to try again unless it’s something more engaging. She spends over 8 hours on the phone, mostly talking to him or watching videos. Open to ideas for jobs that might actually hold her attention.

[Anonymous]

OP, the way you talk about your daughter it sounds like she’s 5 years old and incapable of making different choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She says he’s mostly calling her, but I’d say it’s half and half. She is an extreme people pleaser and never says no to anyone. She doesn’t want to leave the phone at home. OP

You need to work on this now. I would be through the roof if my kid was being fired from a job for insubordination. She is refusing to listen to the manager. Why is this ok with you?

She liked the job and didn’t want to get fired, but she also likes her boyfriend and couldn’t stop prioritizing talking to her boyfriend and over actually listening or doing what she was supposed to do. She never said no to her boss or argued with him, and he only talked to her once about it. The other times he gave her warnings, but I don’t think she understood because she wasn’t focusing. Being fired isn’t great and I’m not okay with it, but at 18 there’s only so much control you I left and she does whatever she wants. There’s not a lot I can do.

Her boyfriend is a very nice young man. He’s in college and is home working and being productive this summer.

She doesn’t want anything outdoors like lifeguarding or camps. She says she’ll work any hours, but now that she’s been fired I’m not sure she’ll even be motivated to try again unless it’s something more engaging. She spends over 8 hours on the phone, mostly talking to him or watching videos. Open to ideas for jobs that might actually hold her attention.

Like, what? Give examples, OP. You know her. We don't.

[Anonymous]

How about kicking her off the family phone plan and changing the wifi password? Seems like a fitting consequence for getting fired for being on the phone. She can pay for her own phone plan once she has a job.

[Anonymous]

Also teen jobs are not meant to be “engaging.” As Don Draper says, “That’s what the money is for!”

[Anonymous]

These response are odd. It’s just a part time summer job. Obviously at her age she prioritizes her boyfriend over her part time summer job. It doesn’t mean she’s a loser or that he’s a loser either. And alot of bosses are unfair, and target young people so I wouldn’t think my son was a bad evil kid because he got fired from his part time job at a restaurant. There’s a obvious superiority complex coming from a lot of people on this forum.

[Anonymous]

I really hope Op is a troll. What an infuriating post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These response are odd. It’s just a part time summer job. Obviously at her age she prioritizes her boyfriend over her part time summer job. It doesn’t mean she’s a loser or that he’s a loser either. And alot of bosses are unfair, and target young people so I wouldn’t think my son was a bad evil kid because he got fired from his part time job at a restaurant. There’s a obvious superiority complex coming from a lot of people on this forum.

Got fired .. for spending too much time on his cell phone, during hours he was scheduled to be working (and getting paid)?

Nobody is saying evil. It is, however, dumb. This is not someone with any sort of good work ethic.

Does that mean she fries newborn babies and makes soup out of puppies? No. Nobody said she was evil. She's dumb and immature. That's enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These response are odd. It’s just a part time summer job. Obviously at her age she prioritizes her boyfriend over her part time summer job. It doesn’t mean she’s a loser or that he’s a loser either. And alot of bosses are unfair, and target young people so I wouldn’t think my son was a bad evil kid because he got fired from his part time job at a restaurant. There’s a obvious superiority complex coming from a lot of people on this forum.

You have to be kidding me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really hope Op is a troll. What an infuriating post.

It's trending that way with each new response.

[Anonymous]

She’s going to marry this loser boyfriend. Blech.

[Anonymous]

Welp. If you don't learn the lesson that you need to learn, life will keep presenting it to you again.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter quit because she can’t use her phone? Smh.

[Anonymous]

There might be an opening at an indoor golf range soon.

[Anonymous]

Did she kiss this Swedish bozo over FaceTime?