18yo about to be let go from summer job because of phone use

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave the phone at home during work time. Job is more important than boyfriend. He does not respect her time and responsibilities.

She's calling him. Is he supposed to remind her she's at work and it's inappropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would worry about whether the boyfriend is controlling, whether she has habitual issues with understanding verbal and non-verbal cues, and whether there could be a possibility the manager is being too exacting. Regardless, she's an at will employee, and this should be a valuable lesson, to prioritize her earning potential and to not ignore management.

If she's constantly calling him maybe she's the controlling one asking where he is all the time and what he's doing. Why does she call him so much? Does she not trust him?

[Anonymous]

Take away the phone

[Anonymous]

She says he’s mostly calling her, but I’d say it’s half and half. She is an extreme people pleaser and never says no to anyone. She doesn’t want to leave the phone at home. OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She says he’s mostly calling her, but I’d say it’s half and half. She is an extreme people pleaser and never says no to anyone. She doesn’t want to leave the phone at home. OP

She sounds just like her mother.

[Anonymous]

She needs to leave the phone at home. I know she’s 18 but she’s still living at home and you are supporting her. She needs to work or do volunteering during the summer. Take the phone during her working hours.

[Anonymous]

she should get fired. and hopefully learn a lesson. you can be upset that she will be home all summer.

[Anonymous]

Let her get fired and then insist she find another job, either paid or volunteer. Better to learn the lesson now while she doesn't have real bills to pay.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to apologize and ask for another chance. If not, she finds a new job or no spending money.

[Anonymous]

Her phone needs to stay in her bag during her shift. If she can't do that, it needs to stay in the car. If there's an emergency someone can calm the restaurant.

It's not just talking on her phone, phones are dirty and it's inappropriate to have someone touching a phone while handling food and plates. Talking on the phone all the time definitely is not acceptable for pretty much any job.

[Anonymous]

You need to work with her on not being such a people pleaser! Ffs, she needs to learn to say no. Especially to men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She says he’s mostly calling her, but I’d say it’s half and half. She is an extreme people pleaser and never says no to anyone. She doesn’t want to leave the phone at home. OP

If she was a real people pleaser she would want to please the people that hired her and are giving her money.

She can turn the phone off or exercise some self control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She says he’s mostly calling her, but I’d say it’s half and half. She is an extreme people pleaser and never says no to anyone. She doesn’t want to leave the phone at home. OP

Well apparently she doesn't care about pleasing her manager. She should apologize, tell manager she'll keep phone in car, and beg forgiveness.

[Anonymous]

Who pays for the phone? Because if it's you, she's not going to be on her phone all summer unless you keep paying for it, which I would not do. If she wants a phone for the rest of the summer, she gets a job to pay the bill.

She could go to the manager with a plan to eliminate phone use during her shifts: locking it in her glove box, for example. Or if there are lockers for employees, turning it off and leaving it in the locker. That's probably her only chance.

[Anonymous]

man there is a lot going on here. First figure out if the boyfriend is being controlling and getting mad that she isn't available or if SHE is the one who wants to be in constant contact with the boyfriend. Either way it's a problem.