18yo about to be let go from summer job because of phone use

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if OP is real or not, but in case she is, I have thoughts.

1. Your daughter probably has ADHD as well as an addiction to her phone. Suggest that she gets evaluated and work with a psychologist. I assume she's on your healthcare plan.

2. Grow some balls and be a parent. Just because she's 18 doesn't mean you are not in charge. She lives in your home and you pay her bills, including her cell phone, therefore you are in charge. You can absolutely (a) stop paying her cell phone bill and (b) configure your router so that her devices get cut off after midnight. You can also refuse to pay for gas or her car and since you think she's an adult, you can ask her pay rent. That will motivate her to find a new job real fast.

Why does everyone here jump on a possible adhd disorder? That’s a pretty serious brain disorder to mention it so casually. Her phone issue has nothing to do with adhd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is 18 and started a summer job in May. She’s working at a restaurant. Her manager has basically told her he’s going to let her go soon because she’s on the phone too much during shifts.
From what I understand it’s not social media, she doesn’t really use social media,she’s just constantly FaceTiming/calling her boyfriend during work. Apparently it’s been going on for weeks and she’s been warned multiple times, but it hasn’t changed enough so now they’re at the point of letting her go.

I only just found out it’s this serious.
Part of me gets it — obviously you can’t be on your phone during a shift like that. But part of me is also frustrated because now she’s basically going to be at home all summer (until September) on her phone.

She’s upset and says she didn’t think it was “that bad,” but clearly it was. She says her boyfriend kept calling her, and she didn’t want to say no.
I’m not sure what the right move is here. Do I just let the consequences happen and hope she learns from it, or is there something she can do at this point with the manager to try to fix it and not lose the job? I don’t want her just sitting at home glued to her phone all summer either.

Quit job immediately.
Tell manager its her problem now that they are short handed.
Buh bye.

There's a good chance manager started lining up someone new before they threatened to fire her. They're short handed now since she's not doing the work.

[Anonymous]

She sounds very codependent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is 18 and started a summer job in May. She’s working at a restaurant. Her manager has basically told her he’s going to let her go soon because she’s on the phone too much during shifts.
From what I understand it’s not social media, she doesn’t really use social media,she’s just constantly FaceTiming/calling her boyfriend during work. Apparently it’s been going on for weeks and she’s been warned multiple times, but it hasn’t changed enough so now they’re at the point of letting her go.

I only just found out it’s this serious.
Part of me gets it — obviously you can’t be on your phone during a shift like that. But part of me is also frustrated because now she’s basically going to be at home all summer (until September) on her phone.

She’s upset and says she didn’t think it was “that bad,” but clearly it was. She says her boyfriend kept calling her, and she didn’t want to say no.
I’m not sure what the right move is here. Do I just let the consequences happen and hope she learns from it, or is there something she can do at this point with the manager to try to fix it and not lose the job? I don’t want her just sitting at home glued to her phone all summer either.

Quit job immediately.
Tell manager its her problem now that they are short handed.
Buh bye.

I’m sure they’d be fine with her leaving. I hate going into a restaurant only to be greeted with silence because the host is texting. It’s a terrible impression of the restaurant and for people being there the first time they might not want to go back.

She should have only needed to be told once and shut off her phone. Something is off with her.

This is off topic but oh how I long for the restaurant of the future where I sit down, choose food on the screen, robot brings it to me, I pay using the screen and I leave. No tip, no hassle, no useless hostesses whose only function is to try and seat you at the worst table, no useless waiters expecting 20% tip!
Sorry, got carried away

LOL. They don't even need robots. That would be too far into the future. They can have conveyor belts deliver the food. I feel like this already exists though.

Both exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is 18 and started a summer job in May. She’s working at a restaurant. Her manager has basically told her he’s going to let her go soon because she’s on the phone too much during shifts.
From what I understand it’s not social media, she doesn’t really use social media,she’s just constantly FaceTiming/calling her boyfriend during work. Apparently it’s been going on for weeks and she’s been warned multiple times, but it hasn’t changed enough so now they’re at the point of letting her go.

I only just found out it’s this serious.
Part of me gets it — obviously you can’t be on your phone during a shift like that. But part of me is also frustrated because now she’s basically going to be at home all summer (until September) on her phone.

She’s upset and says she didn’t think it was “that bad,” but clearly it was. She says her boyfriend kept calling her, and she didn’t want to say no.
I’m not sure what the right move is here. Do I just let the consequences happen and hope she learns from it, or is there something she can do at this point with the manager to try to fix it and not lose the job? I don’t want her just sitting at home glued to her phone all summer either.

Quit job immediately.
Tell manager its her problem now that they are short handed.
Buh bye.

There's a good chance manager started lining up someone new before they threatened to fire her. They're short handed now since she's not doing the work.

Right? It's not like they are more short handed. They just aren't ALSO losing money on top of it.