Sister hits her BF - Should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

Talk to the boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Maybe they met on KinkyKinks.com and they’re both hitters in bed. It’s all part of the role player.

Otherwise that dude should have left by now. Theyre not married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brother hits his GF - Should I be concerned?

He’s in his late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. He's been hitting his girlfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling her hair, kicking her, throwing things, or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

She’s a really nice girl, and I don’t believe she’s violent toward him in any way. From what I can tell and what he says, she’s good to him. I’ve already talked to my brother about it, but he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. He gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so he doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s been physical in a relationship. He’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Let's switch things up a bit and see if that provides any clarity.

[Anonymous]

Was that the big experiment? Asked and answered OP/PP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You absolutely need to call the police if you witness her doing this. This is physical abuse. The fact that she is a woman is irrelevant. She needs to go to jail!!!

If someone is smaller and weaker and not actually going to seriously harm the other person, that’s relevant.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No it's not. If they keep on doing this eventually they will hurt someone. Want her to babysit your kids?

You mean my 6’ 5” 230 lb autistic teenage boy?
Sure.

The troll zingers just keep coming

Not a troll or a zinger. This is the only child I have who needs babysitting.

Personally, I think that the size you are and your actual physical threat to other people matters when it comes to hitting other people, and that’s something I have made very clear to my child.

True

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She’s in her late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. Shea been hitting her boyfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling his hair, kicking him, throwing things,or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

He’s a really nice guy, and I don’t believe he’s violent toward her in any way. From what I can tell and what she says, he’s good to her. I’ve already talked to my sister about it, but she doesn’t think she’s doing anything wrong. She gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so she doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time she’s been physical in a relationship. She’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Until you know or see exactly what led up to that, you really can’t take a view. Like what’s the argument about and is it the same issue as last argument.

This is all hearsay and you don’t even state from whom.

Sure hitting someone is wrong.
But self defense isn’t.

Aggravating someone deliberately is wrong too.
Stonewalling someone deliberately is wrong as well.

If any of the above is going on, which is escalating, she will need to leave the relationship instead of fighting back verbally or physically.

Unfortunately you can’t slap sense into someone who’s a jerk behind closed doors.

Similarly, if she’s the jerk, why ain’t the dude leaving already. That’s telling.

WOW just WOW.

There is no scenario is which hitting someone is ok no matter how angry you are. No, nothing he says justifies her physically abusing him. Are you also physically abusing your husband?

Self defense

War

What the hell are you even prattling on about? Nowhere did OP say anything about self defense.

Some people absolutely refuse to believe women can do wrong. It's the oddest thing.

Yet, they would be outraged if anyone hit them. Total insanity.

So peculiar. It’s almost as if males and females have different body masses, muscle composition, BMIs, height, testosterone, and hand sizes.
No way.

Yup

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She’s in her late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. Shea been hitting her boyfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling his hair, kicking him, throwing things,or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

He’s a really nice guy, and I don’t believe he’s violent toward her in any way. From what I can tell and what she says, he’s good to her. I’ve already talked to my sister about it, but she doesn’t think she’s doing anything wrong. She gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so she doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time she’s been physical in a relationship. She’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

you know this, how?

the trolling is really wild these days. they posts all sound the same: Counterintuitive or outrageous scenario, some weird details, and then a just fell off the turnip truck kind of "what should I do?"

These posts are written by men who think it'll be some "gotcha!" where they'll catch feminist women being like "Hell no girl! Men deserve to be hit!" and then, surprise, surprise, women are like, "She shouldn't hit him, abuse can happen even when it's a woman perpretator!"

Which is why it took every fiber of my being not to give this shitty OP the snarky response they warranted which is: No, OP, tell her to hit him harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brother hits his GF - Should I be concerned?

He’s in his late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. He's been hitting his girlfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling her hair, kicking her, throwing things, or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

She’s a really nice girl, and I don’t believe she’s violent toward him in any way. From what I can tell and what he says, she’s good to him. I’ve already talked to my brother about it, but he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. He gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so he doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s been physical in a relationship. He’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Let's switch things up a bit and see if that provides any clarity.

Do you not see how a man hitting a (presumably) much smaller woman is different from a much smaller woman hitting a man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brother hits his GF - Should I be concerned?

He’s in his late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. He's been hitting his girlfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling her hair, kicking her, throwing things, or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

She’s a really nice girl, and I don’t believe she’s violent toward him in any way. From what I can tell and what he says, she’s good to him. I’ve already talked to my brother about it, but he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. He gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so he doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s been physical in a relationship. He’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Let's switch things up a bit and see if that provides any clarity.

Do you not see how a man hitting a (presumably) much smaller woman is different from a much smaller woman hitting a man?

I think we have all had enough experience with the “man cold” to know that a man getting a bruise is basically the same amount of trauma as a woman getting her jaw broken.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brother hits his GF - Should I be concerned?

He’s in his late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. He's been hitting his girlfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling her hair, kicking her, throwing things, or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

She’s a really nice girl, and I don’t believe she’s violent toward him in any way. From what I can tell and what he says, she’s good to him. I’ve already talked to my brother about it, but he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. He gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so he doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s been physical in a relationship. He’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Let's switch things up a bit and see if that provides any clarity.

Do you not see how a man hitting a (presumably) much smaller woman is different from a much smaller woman hitting a man?

I think we have all had enough experience with the “man cold” to know that a man getting a bruise is basically the same amount of trauma as a woman getting her jaw broken.

Tell that to a judge and see it holds up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brother hits his GF - Should I be concerned?

He’s in his late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. He's been hitting his girlfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling her hair, kicking her, throwing things, or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

She’s a really nice girl, and I don’t believe she’s violent toward him in any way. From what I can tell and what he says, she’s good to him. I’ve already talked to my brother about it, but he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. He gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so he doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s been physical in a relationship. He’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Let's switch things up a bit and see if that provides any clarity.

Even then, what can one do? Call the police?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brother hits his GF - Should I be concerned?

He’s in his late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. He's been hitting his girlfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling her hair, kicking her, throwing things, or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

She’s a really nice girl, and I don’t believe she’s violent toward him in any way. From what I can tell and what he says, she’s good to him. I’ve already talked to my brother about it, but he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. He gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so he doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s been physical in a relationship. He’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Let's switch things up a bit and see if that provides any clarity.

Even then, what can one do? Call the police?

The performative call to the police has already been covered in this thread.

He needs to leave if any of this is true and actually happening, unprovoked.

They don’t have kids. They aren’t married. She isn’t paying all his bills. She’s not 6’3” 220# w muscles.

Whole OP makes zero sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brother hits his GF - Should I be concerned?

He’s in his late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. He's been hitting his girlfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling her hair, kicking her, throwing things, or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

She’s a really nice girl, and I don’t believe she’s violent toward him in any way. From what I can tell and what he says, she’s good to him. I’ve already talked to my brother about it, but he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. He gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so he doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s been physical in a relationship. He’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Let's switch things up a bit and see if that provides any clarity.

Even then, what can one do? Call the police?

The performative call to the police has already been covered in this thread.

He needs to leave if any of this is true and actually happening, unprovoked.

They don’t have kids. They aren’t married. She isn’t paying all his bills. She’s not 6’3” 220# w muscles.

Whole OP makes zero sense.

Your defense of the abuser because she is a woman is beyond disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Brother hits his GF - Should I be concerned?

He’s in his late 20s and has a bit of a short temper. He's been hitting his girlfriend during arguments—slapping, pulling her hair, kicking her, throwing things, or whatever else happens in the heat of the moment.

She’s a really nice girl, and I don’t believe she’s violent toward him in any way. From what I can tell and what he says, she’s good to him. I’ve already talked to my brother about it, but he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. He gets defensive when I bring it up and is very stubborn, so he doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s been physical in a relationship. He’s done this to past partners as well. I’m worried this could escalate, and I’m not sure how to handle it. What’s the best way to approach something like this without making things worse? I’m concerned about her safety.

Let's switch things up a bit and see if that provides any clarity.

Even then, what can one do? Call the police?

The performative call to the police has already been covered in this thread.

He needs to leave if any of this is true and actually happening, unprovoked.

They don’t have kids. They aren’t married. She isn’t paying all his bills. She’s not 6’3” 220# w muscles.

Whole OP makes zero sense.

Your defense of the abuser because she is a woman is beyond disgusting.

Not clear what you read but the PPP you’re harping on said he should leave. They’re only dating.

wtf is his problem that he’s staying? Is he depend to her for something major? Money, housing, a job? wtf?