Sister hits her BF - Should I be concerned?

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Anonymous wrote:You absolutely need to call the police if you witness her doing this. This is physical abuse. The fact that she is a woman is irrelevant. She needs to go to jail!!!

If someone is smaller and weaker and not actually going to seriously harm the other person, that’s relevant.

Totally irrelevant. You cannot, and I repeat CANNOT lay your hands on anyone for any reason. She will rightfully get arrested and taken to jail and prosecuted. I hope she does.

Much better for the big tall man to come screaming at you in the shower, follow you out, puff out his chest, corner you in a walk-in closet and rage at you while the children are downstairs.

But don’t dare push or shove or hit him. Then you be the bad guy.

Amirite family courts??

Well that's for you and your therapist to discuss. None of that happened to OP's sister as described here. Or did all of that trauma make it impossible to read and comprehend?

No. That’s a true story for the weirdos in her who think if you get someone to raise a hand to them in self defense you’re in the wrong.

No one said you can't defend yourself. OP did however say that her sister is the agressor multimple times with multiple men. So again, eff off and seek therapy you so desperately need.

Try to make a valid point next time and without cursing out someone. Both lose credibility. The second makes you look trashy.

I dont care what a lunatic like you has to say about anything.

There you go again. Name calling to attempt to make a weak point.

You’re also likely an abuser who hits your husband. And you’re still a lunatic. Am I mincing words?

#DARVOexample

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I know it happens because I see it and she tells me about it.

They do not live together.

Besides being disciplined with belts, switches, hangers, hot sauce, we didn’t experience any abuse/violence in our childhood, and had happy normal childhoods, so no trauma history.

You just outed yourself as a troll.

“Besides being hung upside down by our feet, we didn’t experience any abuse.”

[Anonymous]

Send him an anonymous email with domestic violence resources and info about physical and emotional abuse. It might jolt him into recognition.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I know it happens because I see it and she tells me about it.

They do not live together.

Besides being disciplined with belts, switches, hangers, hot sauce, we didn’t experience any abuse/violence in our childhood, and had happy normal childhoods, so no trauma history.

You just outed yourself as a troll.

“Besides being hung upside down by our feet, we didn’t experience any abuse.”

You can't tell someone else what trauma or abuse is to them. My dad hit me with a baseball bat when I was 11, for being a brat, I don't believe he was abusive. I have a coworker whose parents yelling at her is what she considers abuse, that's okay too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No it's not. If they keep on doing this eventually they will hurt someone. Want her to babysit your kids?

You mean my 6’ 5” 230 lb autistic teenage boy?
Sure.

The troll zingers just keep coming

Not a troll or a zinger. This is the only child I have who needs babysitting.

Personally, I think that the size you are and your actual physical threat to other people matters when it comes to hitting other people, and that’s something I have made very clear to my child.

You are one of the shittiest parents I have ever seen on DCUM and that says a lot.

Whatever. I really don’t care if you think I’m a shitty parent.

I tell my autistic child that since he is bigger than other kids it’s particularly bad if he hits or comes off as threatening. It’s true, and he has to live in the real world.

NP. I think the PP was too stupid to understand what you were saying. I think what you've told your son makes perfect sense.

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OP here again, yes this is real. I don’t know how to make her understand that what she’s doing isn’t okay. I’m not sure what’s going on—maybe it’s psychological or personality issues—but she won’t listen to me, our other siblings, or any family members, including my husband. I want her to get help. Her boyfriend isn’t the problem, they argue over little things that don’t matter. She’s been like this since her first relationship in high school, and she’s been in about five relationships since, they were all the same, so this behavior isn’t new.

I mean, your parents beat you, and now she's beating someone else. Color me SHOCKED.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I know it happens because I see it and she tells me about it.

They do not live together.

Besides being disciplined with belts, switches, hangers, hot sauce, we didn’t experience any abuse/violence in our childhood, and had happy normal childhoods, so no trauma history.

You just outed yourself as a troll.

“Besides being hung upside down by our feet, we didn’t experience any abuse.”

You can't tell someone else what trauma or abuse is to them. My dad hit me with a baseball bat when I was 11, for being a brat, I don't believe he was abusive. I have a coworker whose parents yelling at her is what she considers abuse, that's okay too.

Wrong

There are legal and social definitions of those things.
You, or any child, get to make up your own home-cooked definition of well-defined words. You are in for a lonely world of hurt if you’re self centered enough to keep doing that.

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* don’t get to

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Anonymous wrote:No it's not. If they keep on doing this eventually they will hurt someone. Want her to babysit your kids?

You mean my 6’ 5” 230 lb autistic teenage boy?
Sure.

The troll zingers just keep coming

Not a troll or a zinger. This is the only child I have who needs babysitting.

Personally, I think that the size you are and your actual physical threat to other people matters when it comes to hitting other people, and that’s something I have made very clear to my child.

You are one of the shittiest parents I have ever seen on DCUM and that says a lot.

Whatever. I really don’t care if you think I’m a shitty parent.

I tell my autistic child that since he is bigger than other kids it’s particularly bad if he hits or comes off as threatening. It’s true, and he has to live in the real world.

NP. I think the PP was too stupid to understand what you were saying. I think what you've told your son makes perfect sense.

It makes zero sense as a response to OP, which is how to stop her sister from abusing men. You two can pretend and invent other scenarios in which a person might need to defend him/herself, which of course is fine. OP's sister is clearly NOT defending herself but is the aggressor. She has done it to multiple men when she doesn't get her way or is frustrated in an argument. That is not excusable morally or in the court of law.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I know it happens because I see it and she tells me about it.

They do not live together.

Besides being disciplined with belts, switches, hangers, hot sauce, we didn’t experience any abuse/violence in our childhood, and had happy normal childhoods, so no trauma history.

You just outed yourself as a troll.

“Besides being hung upside down by our feet, we didn’t experience any abuse.”

Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I know it happens because I see it and she tells me about it.

They do not live together.

Besides being disciplined with belts, switches, hangers, hot sauce, we didn’t experience any abuse/violence in our childhood, and had happy normal childhoods, so no trauma history.

You just outed yourself as a troll.

“Besides being hung upside down by our feet, we didn’t experience any abuse.”

You can't tell someone else what trauma or abuse is to them. My dad hit me with a baseball bat when I was 11, for being a brat, I don't believe he was abusive. I have a coworker whose parents yelling at her is what she considers abuse, that's okay too.

Funny, that's not actually how the law works.

[Anonymous]

Yes..if they can’t get alone why re they together.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I know it happens because I see it and she tells me about it.

They do not live together.

Besides being disciplined with belts, switches, hangers, hot sauce, we didn’t experience any abuse/violence in our childhood, and had happy normal childhoods, so no trauma history.

Lots of troll postings in this thread

You just outed yourself as a troll.

“Besides being hung upside down by our feet, we didn’t experience any abuse.”

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Anonymous wrote:No it's not. If they keep on doing this eventually they will hurt someone. Want her to babysit your kids?

You mean my 6’ 5” 230 lb autistic teenage boy?
Sure.

The troll zingers just keep coming

Not a troll or a zinger. This is the only child I have who needs babysitting.

Personally, I think that the size you are and your actual physical threat to other people matters when it comes to hitting other people, and that’s something I have made very clear to my child.

You are one of the shittiest parents I have ever seen on DCUM and that says a lot.

Whatever. I really don’t care if you think I’m a shitty parent.

I tell my autistic child that since he is bigger than other kids it’s particularly bad if he hits or comes off as threatening. It’s true, and he has to live in the real world.

NP. I think the PP was too stupid to understand what you were saying. I think what you've told your son makes perfect sense.

It makes zero sense as a response to OP, which is how to stop her sister from abusing men. You two can pretend and invent other scenarios in which a person might need to defend him/herself, which of course is fine. OP's sister is clearly NOT defending herself but is the aggressor. She has done it to multiple men when she doesn't get her way or is frustrated in an argument. That is not excusable morally or in the court of law.

So amazing that you know exactly what is going on despite only reading a third party splotchy anonymous post and hilarious follow up op posts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No it's not. If they keep on doing this eventually they will hurt someone. Want her to babysit your kids?

You mean my 6’ 5” 230 lb autistic teenage boy?
Sure.

The troll zingers just keep coming

Not a troll or a zinger. This is the only child I have who needs babysitting.

Personally, I think that the size you are and your actual physical threat to other people matters when it comes to hitting other people, and that’s something I have made very clear to my child.

You are one of the shittiest parents I have ever seen on DCUM and that says a lot.

Whatever. I really don’t care if you think I’m a shitty parent.

I tell my autistic child that since he is bigger than other kids it’s particularly bad if he hits or comes off as threatening. It’s true, and he has to live in the real world.

NP. I think the PP was too stupid to understand what you were saying. I think what you've told your son makes perfect sense.

It makes zero sense as a response to OP, which is how to stop her sister from abusing men. You two can pretend and invent other scenarios in which a person might need to defend him/herself, which of course is fine. OP's sister is clearly NOT defending herself but is the aggressor. She has done it to multiple men when she doesn't get her way or is frustrated in an argument. That is not excusable morally or in the court of law.

So amazing that you know exactly what is going on despite only reading a third party splotchy anonymous post and hilarious follow up op posts.

Well I'm going off of what OP wrote and you're going off of your imagination, so there is that.