Sister hits her BF - Should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ahh calling the cops for domestic disputes. All they do is bring both to the station.

Although I will say, the one to shut up, remain calm and tell the police the other person is unhinged, usually wins. Usually the provoker and narcissist — who control their outbursts and masking - wins the police perception battle.

If she is with a narcisist she should leave him. She has that option.

Hitting anyone, even a narcissist, is against the law.

You sound like a rapist who excuses it by saying women should not dress provocatively. Eff off.

What about taunting someone?
And blocking their vehicle with yours or your body?
And taping them with your phone while you verbally assault them?
And blowing horns and whistles in someone’s face?
And throwing stuff at their taillight and kicking it off?

All good?

Again, go talk to your therapist. This is not your trauma session.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughters know self defense (and their rights!), and have our full authorization to use it if bullied, blocked, or threatened by any male. Dick kick, teste twister, jaw punches, chop the neck, blackout holds. All fair game.

Sure, sure and if they ever need to defend themselves it is nice that they'd be able to.

However, according to OP this guy is doing none of that.

I'm starting to think that you and OP are the same crazy person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You let him know, he is certainly not the first she has abused/assaulted and that she is unlikely to ever change. She will likely be smack happy with her kids as well. Ask him if this is the future he wants.

Exactly. If OP is to be believed and this post is real, her sister should be in jail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You let him know, he is certainly not the first she has abused/assaulted and that she is unlikely to ever change. She will likely be smack happy with her kids as well. Ask him if this is the future he wants.

I’d first ask her how he is.

And check for verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse. Him deliberate baiting her or threatening her. Behind closed doors.

And who knows, maybe they are two peas in a pod.

[Anonymous]

OP here again, yes this is real. I don’t know how to make her understand that what she’s doing isn’t okay. I’m not sure what’s going on—maybe it’s psychological or personality issues—but she won’t listen to me, our other siblings, or any family members, including my husband. I want her to get help. Her boyfriend isn’t the problem, they argue over little things that don’t matter. She’s been like this since her first relationship in high school, and she’s been in about five relationships since, they were all the same, so this behavior isn’t new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ahh calling the cops for domestic disputes. All they do is bring both to the station.

Although I will say, the one to shut up, remain calm and tell the police the other person is unhinged, usually wins. Usually the provoker and narcissist — who control their outbursts and masking - wins the police perception battle.

If she is with a narcisist she should leave him. She has that option.

Hitting anyone, even a narcissist, is against the law.

You sound like a rapist who excuses it by saying women should not dress provocatively. Eff off.

What about taunting someone?
And blocking their vehicle with yours or your body?
And taping them with your phone while you verbally assault them?
And blowing horns and whistles in someone’s face?
And throwing stuff at their taillight and kicking it off?

All good?

Again, go talk to your therapist. This is not your trauma session.

ICE is a victim of protester trauma now? Is that what the court defense is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughters know self defense (and their rights!), and have our full authorization to use it if bullied, blocked, or threatened by any male. Dick kick, teste twister, jaw punches, chop the neck, blackout holds. All fair game.

Sure, sure and if they ever need to defend themselves it is nice that they'd be able to.

However, according to OP this guy is doing none of that.

I'm starting to think that you and OP are the same crazy person.

Op lives with them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP here again, yes this is real. I don’t know how to make her understand that what she’s doing isn’t okay. I’m not sure what’s going on—maybe it’s psychological or personality issues—but she won’t listen to me, our other siblings, or any family members, including my husband. I want her to get help. Her boyfriend isn’t the problem, they argue over little things that don’t matter. She’s been like this since her first relationship in high school, and she’s been in about five relationships since, they were all the same, so this behavior isn’t new.

They argue over little things and then she suddenly what? Slaps him? Hits his arm? What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You let him know, he is certainly not the first she has abused/assaulted and that she is unlikely to ever change. She will likely be smack happy with her kids as well. Ask him if this is the future he wants.

Exactly. If OP is to be believed and this post is real, her sister should be in jail.

Sorry, who’s pressing charges and with what evidence?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You absolutely need to call the police if you witness her doing this. This is physical abuse. The fact that she is a woman is irrelevant. She needs to go to jail!!!

If someone is smaller and weaker and not actually going to seriously harm the other person, that’s relevant.

Totally irrelevant. You cannot, and I repeat CANNOT lay your hands on anyone for any reason. She will rightfully get arrested and taken to jail and prosecuted. I hope she does.

Much better for the big tall man to come screaming at you in the shower, follow you out, puff out his chest, corner you in a walk-in closet and rage at you while the children are downstairs.

But don’t dare push or shove or hit him. Then you be the bad guy.

Amirite family courts??

Well that's for you and your therapist to discuss. None of that happened to OP's sister as described here. Or did all of that trauma make it impossible to read and comprehend?

No. That’s a true story for the weirdos in her who think if you get someone to raise a hand to them in self defense you’re in the wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You absolutely need to call the police if you witness her doing this. This is physical abuse. The fact that she is a woman is irrelevant. She needs to go to jail!!!

If someone is smaller and weaker and not actually going to seriously harm the other person, that’s relevant.

Totally irrelevant. You cannot, and I repeat CANNOT lay your hands on anyone for any reason. She will rightfully get arrested and taken to jail and prosecuted. I hope she does.

Wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP here again, yes this is real. I don’t know how to make her understand that what she’s doing isn’t okay. I’m not sure what’s going on—maybe it’s psychological or personality issues—but she won’t listen to me, our other siblings, or any family members, including my husband. I want her to get help. Her boyfriend isn’t the problem, they argue over little things that don’t matter. She’s been like this since her first relationship in high school, and she’s been in about five relationships since, they were all the same, so this behavior isn’t new.

They argue over little things and then she suddenly what? Slaps him? Hits his arm? What?

Yes, when she’s mad at him. She doesn’t hit him every time they argue, but most times. She slaps/smacks him, punches, destroys his belongings, throws things at him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You absolutely need to call the police if you witness her doing this. This is physical abuse. The fact that she is a woman is irrelevant. She needs to go to jail!!!

If someone is smaller and weaker and not actually going to seriously harm the other person, that’s relevant.

Totally irrelevant. You cannot, and I repeat CANNOT lay your hands on anyone for any reason. She will rightfully get arrested and taken to jail and prosecuted. I hope she does.

Much better for the big tall man to come screaming at you in the shower, follow you out, puff out his chest, corner you in a walk-in closet and rage at you while the children are downstairs.

But don’t dare push or shove or hit him. Then you be the bad guy.

Amirite family courts??

Well that's for you and your therapist to discuss. None of that happened to OP's sister as described here. Or did all of that trauma make it impossible to read and comprehend?

No. That’s a true story for the weirdos in her who think if you get someone to raise a hand to them in self defense you’re in the wrong.

You're either playing dumb or actually dumb. OP clearly stated that he has never been physical with her and in fact is a nice guy who treats her sister well. So other than your imagination, no one is defending herself from any attacks. She is the attacker. She is the abuser. I imagine you are one too, The law doesn't give a shit that you're a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You let him know, he is certainly not the first she has abused/assaulted and that she is unlikely to ever change. She will likely be smack happy with her kids as well. Ask him if this is the future he wants.

I’d first ask her how he is.

And check for verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse. Him deliberate baiting her or threatening her. Behind closed doors.

And who knows, maybe they are two peas in a pod.

You really are a sick person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ahh calling the cops for domestic disputes. All they do is bring both to the station.

Although I will say, the one to shut up, remain calm and tell the police the other person is unhinged, usually wins. Usually the provoker and narcissist — who control their outbursts and masking - wins the police perception battle.

If she is with a narcisist she should leave him. She has that option.

Hitting anyone, even a narcissist, is against the law.

You sound like a rapist who excuses it by saying women should not dress provocatively. Eff off.

What about taunting someone?
And blocking their vehicle with yours or your body?
And taping them with your phone while you verbally assault them?
And blowing horns and whistles in someone’s face?
And throwing stuff at their taillight and kicking it off?

All good?

Again, go talk to your therapist. This is not your trauma session.

ICE is a victim of protester trauma now? Is that what the court defense is?

Again, what in the hell are you talking about?