I feel like I won the parenting wars

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The title says a lot about you, op. It's not a parenting war.

Agree. So obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Dear OP, Congratulations on winning a race that your child ran, not you, your child. I hope this was their choice and not yours. I hope your child knows that if this school is not a good fit you will gracefully encourage them to find a school that is a better fit. People find success in life in a lot of different ways. I fear your definition is too narrow and doesn't leave room for other options. Best to your child. I hope they wanted to win the race they just ran.

[Anonymous]

Wow reading through this thread makes me realize that maybe I won the parenting "lottery" because I am blessed with a smart, motivated, happy kid who just got into a T25 (not ED!!). I don't take credit for this in the least. She's just a hard worker who had good modeling from her older brother and parents. She doesn't drink or do drugs. She's dated a bit but not interested in a sexual relationship due to her deep respect for her faith. Over Christmas, we served her wine and after diner liquors...she only had interest in a few sips of wine and the Bailey's. She says she doesn't really like the taste of liquor. Yup, we are lucky to have hit the lottery.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on having WON at PARENTING unlike your SLACKER SIBLINGS! I am sure your VICTORY is all the SWEETER since the specter of your LOSER nieces and nephews is before you!

ffs.

[Anonymous]

A few years ago I had a friend who bragged about how she got her kid into University of Alabama and then into a particular sorority. She talked about all the strings she pulled to make it happen. It took all the control I could muster to avoid laughing in her face. After than, I could no longer be her friend...just couldn't unsee that side of her.

[Anonymous]

You guys are rich

[Anonymous]

I think many of you who are criticizing OP for her lack of social intelligence and similar are forgetting that DCUM is anonymous. Many of us post things on here that we would never breathe a word of in real life. In fact, that is why we post on here. Because we have solid family and friend relationships and a high social EQ and never say a braggy or obnoxious thing to others (and never on social media) but there is a tiny part of us us that just wants to say out loud:

"I am so excited for my kid!!! We were at an incredibly low point when he came home drunk and we took him to the hospital but HOLY CRAP IT ALL WORKED OUT OK!" but there is no way to say this to ANYONE in real life--not to best friends, not even to grandparents.

I imagine that this is what is going on here. DCUM serves an anonymous brain dump and form of therapy for so many of us. I am not OP but I can completely imagine posting what she did.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This post seems fake and designed to elicit outrage.

It's not fake. Definitely not trying to elicit outrage. The process to get one's child successfully through high school and into the best university where they will have the most opportunities lasts for years. I imagine many parents feel this way when their child is accepted to elite schools. It is a marker of a certain level of accomplishment. Especially if there were bumps along the way. Why would this post elicit outrage?

Because your kid seems kind of f**ked up and it appears you helicoptered him to a top 10 school.

Most people reading your post (especially someone like me with an adjusted kid at a top 10 school) don’t see your kid having a great experience.

+1 They definitely helicoptered him to a top 10 school.

Np.

So what? Did the same here.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations OP. I know it’s a relief to see your kid have a win after a bumpy road. Wishing him all the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you who are criticizing OP for her lack of social intelligence and similar are forgetting that DCUM is anonymous. Many of us post things on here that we would never breathe a word of in real life. In fact, that is why we post on here. Because we have solid family and friend relationships and a high social EQ and never say a braggy or obnoxious thing to others (and never on social media) but there is a tiny part of us us that just wants to say out loud:

"I am so excited for my kid!!! We were at an incredibly low point when he came home drunk and we took him to the hospital but HOLY CRAP IT ALL WORKED OUT OK!" but there is no way to say this to ANYONE in real life--not to best friends, not even to grandparents.

I imagine that this is what is going on here. DCUM serves an anonymous brain dump and form of therapy for so many of us. I am not OP but I can completely imagine posting what she did.

OP here. This. I would never say this in real life. It was nice to anonymously say exactly what this poster states. That I'm excited for my kid. And we were at an all time low with the hospital (that we couldn't talk to any family about, even my mom with whom I'mso close. But she wouldn'tbe able to take it). And that it is nice to celebrate wins (while fully understanding the luck and privilege we have).

[Anonymous]

elite or ivy?

[Anonymous]

Congrats to OP! Parenting is hard and I think it is totally OK to feel great when kid has a positive outcome. After all, many parents feel guilt, remorse, and responsibility when things go poorly - so I think we should all celebrate and embrace the positive outcomes when we can!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You got your kid to the finish line after high school in a winning position. That is great. Do you have older kids? I do and shit can really hit the fan in and after college no matter what 18yo parenting wars were won.

+1

[Anonymous]

I can understand being happy for your kid, but you’re making it all about you. How YOU won some “parenting war.” How YOU did this or that. How YOU feel validated. This is his accomplishment and his life, not yours. It’s so distasteful when a parent acts like this.

[Anonymous]

There is no wars. It is all in your head.

Good that you are happy and are feeling like a winner.