Who is unreasonable here: Friend A or Friend B?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a made up story, I started thinking that when I got to the part about the two ponies. I will say that it's a good made up story though! Lots of people have plenty to say about it, that's the hallmark of both a good true post and a good made up post.

[Anonymous]

Your friend sounds like B, OP

[Anonymous]

a* B

[Anonymous]

OP here. She's here. She brought her husband for some reason. She knows it is awkward and they are avoiding me. I am fuming.

Yes, it is my fault for saying yes. I am horrible with conflict and am I am going to be a more selfish person in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a made up story, I started thinking that when I got to the part about the two ponies. I will say that it's a good made up story though! Lots of people have plenty to say about it, that's the hallmark of both a good true post and a good made up post.

OP here. Unfortunately, it is all true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She's here. She brought her husband for some reason. She knows it is awkward and they are avoiding me. I am fuming.

Yes, it is my fault for saying yes. I am horrible with conflict and am I am going to be a more selfish person in the future.

ok well good look with that. You got a lot of advice here but was just a doormat.

[Anonymous]

Next time just say no. I know the lure of just saying yes to keep the peace but stand up for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She's here. She brought her husband for some reason. She knows it is awkward and they are avoiding me. I am fuming.

Yes, it is my fault for saying yes. I am horrible with conflict and am I am going to be a more selfish person in the future.

OP again. Can I just reiterate how irritated I am that she brought her husband and the two of them are now in the room with the treadmill, watching them dismantle it. He didn't even greet me; they walked past me as if I am the help. So, yeah, I guess the PP who observed earlier that the "friendship" is just one of convenience to her was correct.

Anyway, thanks for those who commented here, even to tell me I'm irresponsible (I probably am). This is something I've known I need to work on with myself (learning to back away from friendships that are one-sided). I lost my parents young (in college) and I've long had a tendency to hold onto relationships I should let go because of that, I think. I'm working on it with my online therapist. I'm going to be more selfish and more guarded in my new location.

[Anonymous]

Friend A sounds really not smart. She had an item she wanted to sell. She failed to sell it. She gave it to a friend who really wanted it.

Friend B did nothing wrong other than being friends with a judgmental incompetent who blames others for their problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend A sounds really not smart. She had an item she wanted to sell. She failed to sell it. She gave it to a friend who really wanted it.

Friend B did nothing wrong other than being friends with a judgmental incompetent who blames others for their problems.

Sounds like you are a shameless user too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend A sounds really not smart. She had an item she wanted to sell. She failed to sell it. She gave it to a friend who really wanted it.

Friend B did nothing wrong other than being friends with a judgmental incompetent who blames others for their problems.

This is a good read if you are a robot with no feelings. Otherwise, zero stars.

Friend B prioritized her desire for a free treadmill over being a good friend. She sucks, and probably was never much of a friend to begin with.

Friend A made a mistake in not seeing Friend B for the user she was earlier and freezing her out, and ultimately letting her take the treadmill (seriously, there is always a price at which you can move an item like that fast -- $50, $100, something). But, notably, Friend A is acknowledging that this was a mistake. So Team OP all the way here.

[Anonymous]

donate it to somebody who cant pay but really wants it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you think Friend B's husband's friend (whew) who was going to buy it was set up by Friend B to back out so that Friend A/OP would be scrambling at the last minute?

I thought of that. The husband's colleague/friend was at their house for a few barbecues recently, and his wife is also friends with Friend B. But probably not? I hope not.

I'm petty, the friendship is over, I think. But she gets the treadmill on Sunday, and I move on.

I think you are right, the friendship is over. But, since I'm petty like you, if the friendship is over anyway, I wouldn't give her the treadmill. I'd rather see it trashed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:donate it to somebody who cant pay but really wants it

Not realistic if one must hire movers with the ability to dismantle the machine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you had an alternative buyer, that would be a different situation. You don’t. The options are give it to a stranger or give it to one of your best friends. Seems like a really obvious answer to me.

As for your friend, maybe her spending habits have gotten her in trouble and she needs to cut back. I’d accept what she told you about her financial status.

Good luck with the move!

The friend (who wants the treadmill) is not a best friend. Not even a friend. This is a user.

Leave it in the apartment and leave this person behind. Enjoy your new location and the new (hopefully genuine this time) friends that you will make there.