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If you had to do it all over again would you?
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Anonymous
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YES! He is an awesome father and spectacular husband. After 13 years we are happy. We argue and disagree and even fight but the pros outweigh the cons.
I do know kids don't bring you together. They will tear you apart unless you have something solid to start with. You have to take of each other. |
Anonymous
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He is my best friend and my life partner. I would do it over again today, tomorrow, 10 years from now - whatever. Oh, there are days when I want to strangle him and days when I just want to scream at him for hours.
In the end, no one puts up with my craziness, laughs at my jokes (Im not funny), talks with me until all hours of the night, still finds me sexy these many years later - and just loves me. He's my partner in life and the father of my children. |
stpickrell
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Yes. Absolutely.
I would have found somewhere more family-friendly to have moved before kids and the RE bubble, my wife and I are not huge partiers. |
Anonymous
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No, I would not marry spouse again. It has been a 14-year emotional ice age. We recently entered counseling, and we are finally talking about it, but I still feel doomed.
By the way, of 93 posts in this thread (including mine), I counted 62 who responded unambiguously to the question. Results so far: YES, I would do it over: 30 NO, I would not do it over: 32 Sigh. I want to cry. |
Anonymous
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Add one more to "team yes" -
I was in a bad relationship, and I left. Found a wonderful husband and father to my child. Life is way to short to spend my time with someone whom I don't love. I can't imagine it. I would marry my current husband again and again and again. We've been together 5 wonderful years. |
Anonymous
| I don't think so. |
Anonymous
| No. Not even close. |
Anonymous
Add 1 to the yes column and 2 to the No. It's sad. |
Anonymous
| Hell NO!! I've been mad and resentful almost every single day for the past three years. But since we have a child I kind of feel I've lost my "right" to leave him. |
Anonymous
| Ok, I can understand not wanting to be with your spouse but the responses that say they don't want their children absolutely kill me. I cannot even imagine wishing my DD wasn't here. Yes, it makes life harder but it also makes life so much better. I hope these posters maybe seek some help in order to enjoy their children. |
Anonymous
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Was just thinking yesterday how lucky I am to have my husband in my life. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Married six years, known him for 10. He is my best friend and I love him so much.
I am so sorry to read so many wouldn't do it again. |
Anonymous
| Add me to the yes column. DH is the best man I've ever met, and I couldn't have asked for better DCs. Not that everything is perfect - we just try to do our best for each other every day, and work through / forgive the bad stuff rather than letting it fester. |
Anonymous
| No. Not a chance. 14 years and not one that i can say was better than the other. |
Anonymous
| Not a snowball's chance in hell. I'm angry and resentful that I made such a poor choice. |
Anonymous
anger you Ouch. I feel your pain but is there anything good that's come from it? Children? Security? Try to find something, anything good and that might help alleviate your feelings. |