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If you had to do it all over again would you?
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Anonymous
| Just wondering......would you? |
Anonymous
| Well, I'm only 5 years into my marriage, but I would absolutely do it again- in a heartbeat. |
Anonymous
| Yup. |
Anonymous
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No, but I don't know if I would be any happier.
But yeah, I would like to be single but still have the same kids if there was a choice. |
Anonymous
| No. Not a chance in hell. We used donor sperm, so theoretically I could even have had the same kids. We are 6 years in and the facade is really coming down now. If I had any idea what he was really like back then, no way. Right now I'm stuck, only 1 income and 3 kids. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely. Better today than 8 years ago when we married. Love him to pieces. |
Anonymous
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Good question. Maybe not. I always wonder what identity I would have developed for myself and who I might have met if I had waited a little (I married and had children very young compared to what seems to be the norm in DC).
My DH is intelligent and quirky and has certainly intellectually enriched my life and made me think more critically. I am very grateful for all of this. And of course, I adore my son! But DH is also stubborn, controlling and singularly devoid of empathy skills - although he has made reasonable improvement in the past few years due to a significant communication effort on my part. I have had serious issues (read divorce) with this in the past, and who knows what bad habits might resurface if additional stress comes again in our lives (ex: the impending birth of DC2). What I really believe is that except for cases of abuse, you can make happiness out of any marriage if both partners work for it. |
Anonymous
You stole the words right out of my mouth! Marrying him was the best decision of my life. |
Anonymous
| NO way not a chance in HELL |
Anonymous
| Yes, yes... approaching 10 years... He is AWESOME and we love having our crazy, insane family of four! |
Anonymous
| Wish I could jump up and down with the majority. I would have to say no I wouldn't repeat the same mistake. Sad! |
Anonymous
| Absolutely. There are things that drive me crazy (the same for him, I'm sure.) There are high-highs and low-lows. But I feel like my life is 100% better for having met him and married him. I love our family, and I love sharing my life with him. |
Anonymous
NP here- These words say it perfectly for me too. I'll add that I didn't realize how hard being a stepparent would be, and am now figuring out how hard parenting a teen is, but I still would do it over again. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely. We began dating when we were juniors in high school and are coming up on our 10 year anniversary this year. I love him very much and even though there have been times I wanted to throttle him (kidding! sort of) I can't imagine life without him. He is a part of me that makes me who I am. |
Anonymous
| Definitely don't have any regrets, but I can't say I haven't thought about living the single life from time to time. Not because of anything to do with my spouse, but just curiosity on my part. |