Anonymous wrote:I remember once I went on a long, strenuous hike with some friends. I was so embarassed because I was lagging behind, out of breath and red faced. I felt so out of shape and humiliated.

Turned out, I came down with a horrific illness that put me out of commission and bed ridden for about 3 weeks a day or so later.

The point is... you never know what someone is going through and what's happening for them at that exact moment. So withhold judgement

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Anonymous wrote:Over 50 is when differences in genetics and lifestyles really begin to show. Also, not everyone has time to work out 6 days/week. Maybe you could put more time and effort into being a kinder, more generous person.

OP here. I work a full time job, which means I get up at 4:30 to work out M-F. I’m sad that my friends DGAF about their health. I don’t understand why people don’t prioritize their health. I don’t want to be in a nursing home and decrepit. They’re on that path. If you cannot handle stairs in a house in your mid50s, you are looking at a sad life in your 60s and 70s! Why aren’t there alarms going off for them??

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP? Or you just work and work out a lot?

Anonymous wrote:I have a handful of friends that I have been friends with for years. We are all over 50. I workout 6 days a week. I really got in the habit during the beginning of the pandemic. The thing I am struggling with is my friends have not made this decision and it has become a constant annoyance because they cannot keep up with me. I have a friend staying with me who has complained nonstop about the stairs in my house. They have been constantly out of breath walking around, like gasping for air. My other friend constantly complains that I walk too fast when we go anywhere. In my defense, I’m not really even walking, it’s a very slow pace. They’re all always complaining about aches and pains, which is mind blowing to me because I have RA (which has dramatically improved with working out!) If you workout and are older, do you have this issue? I feel like all my friends have suddenly gotten very old. It’s like hanging out with grandparents. Help me work through this. What happened to my fun friends?!

OP here. I work a full time job, which means I get up at 4:30 to work out M-F. I’m sad that my friends DGAF about their health. I don’t understand why people don’t prioritize their health. I don’t want to be in a nursing home and decrepit. They’re on that path. If you cannot handle stairs in a house in your mid50s, you are looking at a sad life in your 60s and 70s! Why aren’t there alarms going off for them??

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP? Or you just work and work out a lot?

Anonymous wrote:You've been lucky so far. I'm 52 and have been a daily exerciser for decades and eat pretty well. No previous health problems. Since 48, I haven't felt great, can't figure out why, and things that were easy before are a struggle. You can prioritize health all you like and still end up not aging the way you want. Try to give your friends some grace, even if they aren't living life the way you think they should.