My friends got old

[Anonymous]

Extending your life by working out increases the odds you will spend the last ten years with dementia in a decrepit nursing home. Your friends will be dead and in heaven already.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, that's pretty damn ableist of you.

-Someone who has chronic pain despite walking 2 to 4 miles a day year round and swimming 25 minutes a day during the summer.

+1. I have a disease similar to RA but for which there are fewer treatments that work. Despite walking 7 days per week, I am in pain most days. In a flare and I'm in bed on ice packs. So thankful I don't have friends like OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Have your friend that is gasping for air see a cardiologist. That symptom can be a sign of cardiac issues. A lot of people dismiss it and let it go on for too long.

Yes, they need to check out. I am over 60 and overweight (a lot), and I have no problem climbing stairs. Two years ago, I went to hike with my friend who was slim and fit, and I was alarmed that she was huffing and putting when we were hiking up hill. I suggested that she need to see her doctor. Turned out her artery was 60% blocked. Early this year she was finally 70% blocked, and had triple bypass in April. Now she can out walk me.

[Anonymous]

You are in for hard times ahead. It is rough aging and watching your friends age. You a e in denial right now that exercise is going to keep you just where you are.. You are one icy step away from bit bring able to work out for 6 months. I only hope your friends will be there for you

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, that's pretty damn ableist of you.

-Someone who has chronic pain despite walking 2 to 4 miles a day year round and swimming 25 minutes a day during the summer.

+1. I swim 4–5 times a week and walk at least a mile a day, in addition to working and having two children to care for. I am very active. I’m sorry my autoimmune disorder that makes it hard for me to climb stairs or even bend over is such a “bummer” for you, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Over 50 is when differences in genetics and lifestyles really begin to show. Also, not everyone has time to work out 6 days/week. Maybe you could put more time and effort into being a kinder, more generous person.

OP here. I work a full time job, which means I get up at 4:30 to work out M-F. I’m sad that my friends DGAF about their health. I don’t understand why people don’t prioritize their health. I don’t want to be in a nursing home and decrepit. They’re on that path. If you cannot handle stairs in a house in your mid50s, you are looking at a sad life in your 60s and 70s! Why aren’t there alarms going off for them??

You haven’t gained much wisdom if you think you can control the effects of aging. Genetics trump lifestyle.

Sorry, but this has been debunked. Lifestyle can offset genetics: https://www.theguardian.com/science/2024/apr/30/healthy-lifestyle-may-offset-genetics-by-60-and-add-five-years-to-life-study-says

I don't think so. Otherwise my mother would have been a lot healthier than my Dad, who never excised, ate junk and now at 92 is still mobile, smart with no joint pain and no cardiovascular issue.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a handful of friends that I have been friends with for years. We are all over 50. I workout 6 days a week. I really got in the habit during the beginning of the pandemic. The thing I am struggling with is my friends have not made this decision and it has become a constant annoyance because they cannot keep up with me. I have a friend staying with me who has complained nonstop about the stairs in my house. They have been constantly out of breath walking around, like gasping for air. My other friend constantly complains that I walk too fast when we go anywhere. In my defense, I’m not really even walking, it’s a very slow pace. They’re all always complaining about aches and pains, which is mind blowing to me because I have RA (which has dramatically improved with working out!) If you workout and are older, do you have this issue? I feel like all my friends have suddenly gotten very old. It’s like hanging out with grandparents. Help me work through this. What happened to my fun friends?!

I have zero patience for friends who complain about aches and pains that could EASILY be remedied by even the smallest amount of exercise. Same with the friends who complain about marital issues or small mental health issues that could EASILY be solved with a little bit of introspection, therapy, less alcohol. I am starting to steer away from those kinds of people because if this is 50 then it's going to be a long slog with them.

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Well, let's hope you don't develop a debilitating illness, or anything else in your life that you believe is preventable by a healthy lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

I'm 57, and most of my closest friends can keep up and are avid exercisers. The exceptions are my friends who are cancer survivors. A couple didn't survive. Life is precious, and we find a way to be together no matter what.

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You are the worst sort of friend OP

[Anonymous]

I also got walking early in the morning to get my exercise in. I am over 60 and was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's when I was 55. I haven't told many friends about my Parkinson's because I would rather keep it private.

I can get quite sweaty when walking a few blocks. I'm not sure how much is my Parkinson's meds or menopause, I certainly would not want someone telling me about my lack of physical activity.

You simply don't know what other people are going through.

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Anonymous wrote:Extending your life by working out increases the odds you will spend the last ten years with dementia in a decrepit nursing home. Your friends will be dead and in heaven already.

Except for the studies showing dementia being staved off my regular exercise.

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If they really see you as a friend and are kind people they will rally round you when you have an accident and are bedbound or get a bad diagnosis that even your fitness didn't let you escape.

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Nice humble brag!

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Anonymous wrote:Over 50 is when differences in genetics and lifestyles really begin to show. Also, not everyone has time to work out 6 days/week. Maybe you could put more time and effort into being a kinder, more generous person.

OP here. I work a full time job, which means I get up at 4:30 to work out M-F. I’m sad that my friends DGAF about their health. I don’t understand why people don’t prioritize their health. I don’t want to be in a nursing home and decrepit. They’re on that path. If you cannot handle stairs in a house in your mid50s, you are looking at a sad life in your 60s and 70s! Why aren’t there alarms going off for them??

Op just wondering - is it good to work out 6 days a week tho?

Im mid-50s and fit - i tend to workout 3 days a week. I can feel my muscles tingling and recouperating the day after workouts.