My friends got old

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, that's pretty damn ableist of you.

-Someone who has chronic pain despite walking 2 to 4 miles a day year round and swimming 25 minutes a day during the summer.

+1. I swim 4–5 times a week and walk at least a mile a day, in addition to working and having two children to care for. I am very active. I’m sorry my autoimmune disorder that makes it hard for me to climb stairs or even bend over is such a “bummer” for you, OP.

OP said s/he has RA.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Over 50 is when differences in genetics and lifestyles really begin to show. Also, not everyone has time to work out 6 days/week. Maybe you could put more time and effort into being a kinder, more generous person.

OP here. I work a full time job, which means I get up at 4:30 to work out M-F. I’m sad that my friends DGAF about their health. I don’t understand why people don’t prioritize their health. I don’t want to be in a nursing home and decrepit. They’re on that path. If you cannot handle stairs in a house in your mid50s, you are looking at a sad life in your 60s and 70s! Why aren’t there alarms going off for them??

Op just wondering - is it good to work out 6 days a week tho?

Im mid-50s and fit - i tend to workout 3 days a week. I can feel my muscles tingling and recouperating the day after workouts.

That's not normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over 50 is when differences in genetics and lifestyles really begin to show. Also, not everyone has time to work out 6 days/week. Maybe you could put more time and effort into being a kinder, more generous person.

OP here. I work a full time job, which means I get up at 4:30 to work out M-F. I’m sad that my friends DGAF about their health. I don’t understand why people don’t prioritize their health. I don’t want to be in a nursing home and decrepit. They’re on that path. If you cannot handle stairs in a house in your mid50s, you are looking at a sad life in your 60s and 70s! Why aren’t there alarms going off for them??

OP. Why don’t you partake in easy activities for them? It sounds like you enjoy gloating over them. It’s normal to want to have friends into the same activities as you, but you’re an outlier, not the norm. My entire life I’ve had friends who I enjoy different activities with. Some like to shop, dine, lounge, others like to hike, swim, travel. It is rare I find a friend who wants to do all of the above at the same stages I want to. I adapt to the friend and what they can do because I enjoy their company. It sounds like you don’t enjoy your friends’ company at all.

[Anonymous]

Genetics can load the gun, but lifestyle pulls the trigger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you’re having a really hard time being over 50 and dealing with your increasing irrelevance and mortality. Good luck!

This! But I understand. I'm fitter than all my friends and it's rather embarassing when they can barely walk up 2 flights of stairs without huffing and puffing.

[Anonymous]

Embarrassing for whom? That you would be embarrassed by someone else points to what you lack in your life. Maybe worry more about how you embarrass yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Embarrassing for whom? That you would be embarrassed by someone else points to what you lack in your life. Maybe worry more about how you embarrass yourself.

Maybe try working out? Don’t let yourself go. It isn’t healthy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Embarrassing for whom? That you would be embarrassed by someone else points to what you lack in your life. Maybe worry more about how you embarrass yourself.

Maybe try working out? Don’t let yourself go. It isn’t healthy.

LOL. You were out of shape and now all your friends need to be perfect just like you. That you’re doubling down speaks to your weak character, no matter how strong your physique may be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d rather have friends who are old than judgmental.

I’m over 50 too and yes, things are starting to catch up with some people. One of my friends who has worked out their entire life has started to have major joint issues. It has nothing to do with lack of taking of herself. Others have old sports injuries that are causing issues. I walk quickly and have a long stride but I don’t think I’m better than my friends. I’m just tall with long legs.

I'm 50 and I have a tight group of friends. Some of them work out and we run, walk or play tennis together. Some do not exercise at all. Some starve themselves and some just don't GAF and eat whatever they want.

Maybe you should start asking friends to walk with you. It doesn't seem like "working out" but it is the best exercise.

I've lost 3 friends my age in the past few years. don't take your friendships for granted.

[Anonymous]

Here is how you "work through this":

- Slow down so you can be at the same pace as your friends.

- Offer help if your friend needs it when navigating your stairs.

- Be grateful for the friends you have.

- Back off of the self righteous train. Everyone is on their own journey, and there is likely little you can say or do to impress upon someone else a lifestyle you deem fit for yourself. If feelings of their inadequacy or your superiority arise in you, meditate on where that is coming from in order to have a better relationship with it on your own. Do not impose your health regimen on others.

[Anonymous]

In other shocking news, the judgmental be judging.

[Anonymous]

I remember once I went on a long, strenuous hike with some friends. I was so embarassed because I was lagging behind, out of breath and red faced. I felt so out of shape and humiliated.

Turned out, I came down with a horrific illness that put me out of commission and bed ridden for about 3 weeks a day or so later.

The point is... you never know what someone is going through and what's happening for them at that exact moment. So withhold judgement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember once I went on a long, strenuous hike with some friends. I was so embarassed because I was lagging behind, out of breath and red faced. I felt so out of shape and humiliated.

Turned out, I came down with a horrific illness that put me out of commission and bed ridden for about 3 weeks a day or so later.

The point is... you never know what someone is going through and what's happening for them at that exact moment. So withhold judgement

Truer words...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Over 50 is when differences in genetics and lifestyles really begin to show. Also, not everyone has time to work out 6 days/week. Maybe you could put more time and effort into being a kinder, more generous person.

OP here. I work a full time job, which means I get up at 4:30 to work out M-F. I’m sad that my friends DGAF about their health. I don’t understand why people don’t prioritize their health. I don’t want to be in a nursing home and decrepit. They’re on that path. If you cannot handle stairs in a house in your mid50s, you are looking at a sad life in your 60s and 70s! Why aren’t there alarms going off for them??

Sadly, your body is not going to ask you whether you want it or not. In fact, if your body lasts while your mind does not, this is exactly how you’ll end up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Any psycho that gets up at 4:30 a.m. to exercise isn't with being friends with.

Unless you're going to bed at 8 pm, it's also incredibly unhealthy. Sleep is vital, especially as you get older.

Yes, don’t give yourself dementia being a workout junkie, OP