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CallMeMaybe wrote:My Ex was a terrible communicator, was never ever there for me in stressful times (a meeting in Boston was more important than being with me during a DC surgery), he went out all the time while I stayed home with our 2 year old daughter and worked full time. He slowly became the dirtbag that never grew up. Being a parent means being there.

I slowly hated living a lie and moved out. Big props to be. My freedom is everything to me.

Meanwhile after 6 months of separation he found a much younger woman and now they are engaged. And I'm watching history repeat itself. He can use his control tactics on her.

Well PP how silly you must have been to have married such a terrible person in the first place! Not only that--you procreated with him!!!

It MUST BE ALL HIS FAULT. (Cause he's a meany.)

You are funny. Nope, I didn't procreate. At the time I couldn't due to an unknown medical reason, we adopted. We adopted and he pushed for it. And I wouldn't have it any other way. I was only 24 when I met him, and now I know that narrassium grows with age. He wanted me to raise my kid essentailly by myself, work full time why he traveled for work, did 100 mile bike rides on the weekends and then went out to bars at night. I remember my daughter staring into space saying "Where's daddy?" That was the magic question. No, I don't want to fuck a man that can't communicate and abuses me, and tells me its all my fault. There is nothing sexy about that. I hope his new fiance puts out for him.

I clearly remember being in the throws of shit, holding it together for the look of status, him being horribly mean and still think its ok to touch my ass. No, see, I literally was only a body to this person. No thanks.

My story is tried and true. And I'll always say how it is. Funny enough, he still somehow thinks I want him, which is weird. I'm more just pissed he didn't even try. His foot was already out the door. He has acknowledged that she should've tried harder but it is what it is. We are very very different people. He's a man of status and how things look to the world. I am much more about love and respect and while I'm hot, I'm not going to be with a person that only sees that. Freedom is my superpower baby! The shackles of "should be" are gone forever. Cheers to me for having the balls to walk away. The hardest thing I've ever done in my life. No doubt.

I asked him to go to couseling and the 2 times he went before he quit he told me that for the last 10 years he's been trying to fix me and wasn't sure he wanted to be with someone like me. He squirted water at me to shut me up because it was more important to meet his buddy on the metro at 9pm than take a moment to give me a hug and say, we will talk about it. I confronted him in the morning saying that is what I call abuse and all he said was that I was too sensitive and it was a joke.

Never in my life did I think that a man that had such love in his eyes on our wedding day would end up being the same person who would take my underwear off at night and touch his cock to me and wack off. In the end its impossible to communicate to someone who refuses to listen or even self reflect. Every issue was something I did. He would watch a piece of paper on the ground and see how long it would to take to notice it and pick it up. Control freak. It still continues today. No joke.

I'm proud I walked away from real abuse. Understanding that I am a woman who should be treated with respect is a valuable lesson I learned. Judge if you want. But its been 4 years. I'll never give my freedom up again. I have the rest of my life to live how I want to. Yeah for me!

My Ex was a terrible communicator, was never ever there for me in stressful times (a meeting in Boston was more important than being with me during a DC surgery), he went out all the time while I stayed home with our 2 year old daughter and worked full time. He slowly became the dirtbag that never grew up. Being a parent means being there.

I slowly hated living a lie and moved out. Big props to be. My freedom is everything to me.

Meanwhile after 6 months of separation he found a much younger woman and now they are engaged. And I'm watching history repeat itself. He can use his control tactics on her.

True - its not quite a vacation, more of an adventure. I'm usually exhausted after it. I'm just usually surrounded by nuclear families. And my daughter makes friends really easily but couples generally don't want to friend a single woman. It can be lonely at times. I end up usually talking mostly with hotel staff.

Are there any companies out there that cater to single parent vacations? I love traveling with my daughter, but it would be awesome to find an all inclusive thing.

Thx!

You go boy!

Just a vent. I lost a friend because she is incapable of being without a dude. That's her issue as she's using the dude because he has a car and whatnot. I guess he's kind to her - that's fine. But what I didn't like is in January we met to catch up and like clockwork after hanging and catching up and we meet 2 dudes next to us and she turns on the charm. I took off. I mean, I was there to catch up because she was I thought my one real friend.

Ethically it bothered me that we decided to marry her spain boyfriend before he had to go back. And for a variety of reasons he was unable to come back around X-mas time. And literally less than a month later she's now with this new dude. I don't get it. I really don't.

Anyhoo - I went through a lot of stuff on my own this spring and left her alone. My daughter asked me why we didn't see her or her kids. I just left it alone.

Then in May I caved. I wanted to catch up. I told her its hard to do this alone and i need people and support. She understood. But same thing, instead of just focusing on me, she had to turn on the charm to some patron etc etc, so I left.

Come the end of May my AC broke over the long weekend. And I had my daughter. Super stressful! I told her what was happening and I really really needed a friend. She tells me "just come over. The dude will be here but he's really kind etc etc etc." WTF? I didn't need to hear about the guy etc. I wanted her to be the friend I was to her. (Back in October I went with her to her lawyers office as her lawyers asked her to bring afriend. They told her she was losing custody of her kids. Broke down crying. I didn't go back to work. I cared for her. I drove her home. I hugged her. I found her a therapist. etc etc etc etc. Because that is what a friend does)

Early June I ran into her and her kids and she looked sad. Frankly all she has to do is say sorry. I've point blank told her why I'm pissed off.

Now if I text her her dude answers the text in his broken english telling me to delete the contact and never text her again. And like she was the one texting that. Messed up!

She's found her support system in some random guy and I was left high and dry. Stings much.

It's hard making friends as adults. But I'm still trying.

I was. And I got so sick of living a lie that I took action and moved out. Best decision of my life. Life is way to short to live in misery.

Oh man - that sounds horrible! Honestly, the 2 times I went to therapy with my ex the entire focus was on me and my misgivings. There was never a discussion about him. Just me. I hated feeling like shit afterwards and he refused to go. The beginning of the end. Just took me a year to get up the guts to leave. Best decision ever.

I hated living a lie, looking like the perfect family but meanwhile being treated so so so badly. Literally my parents told me "This is going to kill you." Yep, probably would have. So I walked. He is still the same way but thankfully I don't have to live with him.

Good luck.

Happy Dads day to the single dads out there.

As a single mom, its so nice to know that others get it!

I need a recommendation for a doctor that screens for ADD in the DMV. Her school wants her evaluated.


Thanks in advance!