how many of you suffered through an emotionaly empty relationship?

[Anonymous]

found this article when searching for emotional dryness in a relationship. how many of you have experienced similar situation? did you leave or stay and why?


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1323449/Has-marriage-relationship-hit-emotional-ice-age.html

[Anonymous]

Yes, DH and I have been in an emotional ice age. It is very sad. I have come close to having an affair. We at least have finally, squarely faced this problem and are trying to reconnect and rediscover each other, but who knows if we'll get back to a place we want to be

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I've moved to apathy. I really don't give a shit anymore. His idea of intimacy is flicking my berry. I've told him a million times that I need more (intellectually) and he never changes. Just today he had his hands all over my legs and it was a ducking irritating. He couldn't see, but I was rolling my eyes.

He's so stubborn and set in his ways and will be floored on day if I leave him. He'll be completely perplexed despite the fact I've told him point blank what I need. We used to have big fights over it, I'd ask him to get counseling and nothing would happen. Now he thinks things are great because I've stopped wasting my time being mad.

Basically I have apathy and don't care to leave because I work hard now on getting what I need from friends and others. I'd never have an affair, but as far as him doing it for me? Nope. Not at all and I've given up trying.

[Anonymous]

Yes, totally this. But the problem was probably me. And I did end up having an affair. But we also never fought, just were totally separate and disconnected. A difficult way to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, totally this. But the problem was probably me. And I did end up having an affair. But we also never fought, just were totally separate and disconnected. A difficult way to live.

+1

[Anonymous]

One interesting thing I heard: the opposite of love isn't hate. The opposite of love is not caring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One interesting thing I heard: the opposite of love isn't hate. The opposite of love is not caring.

This is totally true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, DH and I have been in an emotional ice age. It is very sad. I have come close to having an affair. We at least have finally, squarely faced this problem and are trying to reconnect and rediscover each other, but who knows if we'll get back to a place we want to be

What does "come close" mean? Just curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, DH and I have been in an emotional ice age. It is very sad. I have come close to having an affair. We at least have finally, squarely faced this problem and are trying to reconnect and rediscover each other, but who knows if we'll get back to a place we want to be

What does "come close" mean? Just curious.

At a work trip I hit it off with a former colleague I hadn't seen in a few years. It would have been very easy to go bad, and I was tempted but did not

[Anonymous]

I wonder why our generation is so needy, it's pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Hey, I've tried reconnecting.

It takes two, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why our generation is so needy, it's pathetic.

slow down, if you wonder a little more your mind will blow up....wait, you don't have a mind, sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I've moved to apathy. I really don't give a shit anymore. His idea of intimacy is flicking my berry. I've told him a million times that I need more (intellectually) and he never changes. Just today he had his hands all over my legs and it was a ducking irritating. He couldn't see, but I was rolling my eyes.

He's so stubborn and set in his ways and will be floored on day if I leave him. He'll be completely perplexed despite the fact I've told him point blank what I need. We used to have big fights over it, I'd ask him to get counseling and nothing would happen. Now he thinks things are great because I've stopped wasting my time being mad.

Basically I have apathy and don't care to leave because I work hard now on getting what I need from friends and others. I'd never have an affair, but as far as him doing it for me? Nope. Not at all and I've given up trying.

Thanks for putting into words in how I feel. I'm just numb to it.

[Anonymous]

There is no chance trying to connect with my DH. He is void of emotion, friendship, life etc. I cannot even broach the smallest subject without his response either being "WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT!? WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT!?" or him completely ignoring me. I also have no respect for him because I'm the woman and the man of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Every single day . Do not get married to someone you haven't had sex with prior to marriage ( especially if you're not a virgin) . Big mistake.