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08/30/2021 23:49

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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If you were pregnant and had had young kids at home?

Would you want to be told by someone who is a stranger to you? Would you believe an anonymous message? I'm struggling with what to do here.

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08/31/2021 00:07

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I would need enough proof to know that the accusation is true, and not someone's misunderstanding or scheme. My rule of thumb is "when you assume, you make an ass of you and me." There could be many explanations for a situation. And if it's something on which a major life decision rests, I would aim to know that had the facts straight.

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08/31/2021 00:12

Subject: Re:Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous wrote:I would need enough proof to know that the accusation is true, and not someone's misunderstanding or scheme. My rule of thumb is "when you assume, you make an ass of you and me." There could be many explanations for a situation. And if it's something on which a major life decision rests, I would aim to know that had the facts straight.

Okay so by " enough proof" do you mean, pictures, texts, incidents of probable meetups?

I'm not 100% certain of anything right now. I just have a really strong inkling, but I don't know if it would even be worth it to delve deeper if you will if I would not be believed.

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08/31/2021 00:47

Subject: Re:Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would need enough proof to know that the accusation is true, and not someone's misunderstanding or scheme. My rule of thumb is "when you assume, you make an ass of you and me." There could be many explanations for a situation. And if it's something on which a major life decision rests, I would aim to know that had the facts straight.

Okay so by " enough proof" do you mean, pictures, texts, incidents of probable meetups?

I'm not 100% certain of anything right now. I just have a really strong inkling, but I don't know if it would even be worth it to delve deeper if you will if I would not be believed.

Inkling? MYOB

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08/31/2021 00:49

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous

Why is this “anonymous” person telling you this information and why now? How far along are you in your pregnancy?

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08/31/2021 00:57

Subject: Re:Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would need enough proof to know that the accusation is true, and not someone's misunderstanding or scheme. My rule of thumb is "when you assume, you make an ass of you and me." There could be many explanations for a situation. And if it's something on which a major life decision rests, I would aim to know that had the facts straight.

Okay so by " enough proof" do you mean, pictures, texts, incidents of probable meetups?

I'm not 100% certain of anything right now. I just have a really strong inkling, but I don't know if it would even be worth it to delve deeper if you will if I would not be believed.

Inkling? MYOB

I wouldn't say anything at all now, unless I had solid proof. unfortunately I have some experience with sniffing these things out. I wouldn't say anything unless I was sure my inkling was correct. What I am asking is as the wife what kind of evidence would you want, especially if it's coming from someone who isn't a friend , family remember, neighbor, coworker, or someone you know at all.

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08/31/2021 01:00

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this “anonymous” person telling you this information and why now? How far along are you in your pregnancy?

No one is telling me anything. I would be the anonymous person doing the telling if it comes to that point.

As for why I have a lot of empathy for wives who are cheated on, especially in the case where there are young children involved and the wife is pregnant, sp clearly not using protection her health could be at risk. and a particular loathing for men especially men who present themselves as good guys/ religious men who are not.

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08/31/2021 01:04

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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I'd believe it enough to investigate it (whether that meant on my own or by hiring a PI).

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08/31/2021 01:13

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd believe it enough to investigate it (whether that meant on my own or by hiring a PI).

But what would you believe though? Would you believe a FB message?

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08/31/2021 03:09

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous

My first H had an EA while I was pregnant and I found the evidence. But he was increasingly abusive and the marriage was a zombie anyway at that point.

With DH, who is good and devoted, I’d need pretty solid evidence. Nothing that can be misconstrued (like he was simply seen in a restaurant or car with another woman).

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08/31/2021 05:47

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous

Anonymous notes seem cowardly to me. If you have evidence and want to tell, put on your big girl pants and do it. Be prepared for the fallout.

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08/31/2021 05:58

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this “anonymous” person telling you this information and why now? How far along are you in your pregnancy?

No one is telling me anything. I would be the anonymous person doing the telling if it comes to that point.

As for why I have a lot of empathy for wives who are cheated on, especially in the case where there are young children involved and the wife is pregnant, sp clearly not using protection her health could be at risk. and a particular loathing for men especially men who present themselves as good guys/ religious men who are not.

And how do you know they’re clearly not using protection? Did you witness the man put his bare penis into her vagina? MYOB

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08/31/2021 06:16

Subject: Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this “anonymous” person telling you this information and why now? How far along are you in your pregnancy?

No one is telling me anything. I would be the anonymous person doing the telling if it comes to that point.

As for why I have a lot of empathy for wives who are cheated on, especially in the case where there are young children involved and the wife is pregnant, sp clearly not using protection her health could be at risk. and a particular loathing for men especially men who present themselves as good guys/ religious men who are not.

And how do you know they’re clearly not using protection? Did you witness the man put his bare penis into her vagina? MYOB