Wives: how much evidence would you want if someone told you your husband was cheating on you?

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Anonymous wrote:I would not want you “investigating” my husband. That is sick and creepy.

I'm not investigating. The husband is my coworker and the person I suspect is his AP is also my coworker. I don't have evidence like them kissing each other or something. There's things like lunches togther, always happening to run nto each other staying late together, when there's no reason to ( not on the same team), frequent flirtation. At the same time, everyone else seems not to be bothered by this, so I guess I could be wrong. But, then again, people smiled in my mom;s face and totally ignored my dad cheating with his coworkers..

If I were in your shoes I'd ask myself if perhaps my personal baggage (and I'm very sorry that you had to deal with infidelity in your parent's marriage) is coloring your take on things. If you end up with factual evidence, which I really don't see happening, you can always go to the husband at let him know you're going to inform his wife if he doesn't. I know many people say MYOB but we also hear from betrayed spouses who say they really wish they had known/been told.

I've seen more than one poster tell op to go to the cheater. I'm sorry but what? When has that worked. If he is cheating all that will do is make him hide it better or try and cause trouble for the op.