Vent: Pregnant and realizing H is a twit.

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08/21/2021 23:16

Subject: Vent: Pregnant and realizing H is a twit.

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Over the last few months H has been doing less and less. He never cooks anymore, just tells me to make what I want for me and he’ll take care of himself (which usually means fast food). Doesn’t do basic household duties, like loading his dishes into the empty dishwasher, just stacks them next to the sink. Stays up all night doing god knows what and then sleeps in.

I’m totally fed up today. We had talked about going out and having fun since we haven’t in awhile, I looked up a bunch of new restaurants to try tonight, we talked about seeing a movie or starting a Netflix show we’ve been wanting to watch, and I wanted to have a long sec session since we’ve only had time for quickies lately.

We decided to divide up the tasks to get done today, I would go run errands while he cleaned the apartment. I woke up earlier than him (of course), exercises the dogs so they would leave him alone while he cleaned, of course he was still asleep when I returned.

Went out for a few hours running errands. Returned home at around 230pm and he had done nothing. NOTHING.

I asked what he did all day and he said “oh, not much, just lounging around and was about to get started cleaning”.

Then he asked me if I could TAKE THE DOGS SOMEWHERE so he could clean without being interrupted. As in, take them out of the apartment. Instead I took them into the guest bedroom and sat in there for a couple hours reading and pretty pissed that he did absolutely nothing while I was gone.

He’s been “cleaning” since 3pm and he’s still f***ing cleaning hours and hours later. He spent about three hours vacuuming. It’s a 2 bedroom apartment, I don’t know why TF it takes him so long, I can get it all done in 20 minutes. And he keeps randomly stopping for breaks. And the WORST part is he’s had headphones in, listening to some dumb podcast and laughing along all day, and every time he laughs I want to scream.

Now it’s my bedtime, so we did absolutely nothing we had planned, and I spent my whole day sitting around listening to his stupid laugh. If he had just told me he didn’t want to go out and just want to stay home and take his time cleaning, fine. I would have made other plans. But now my whole day has been wasted.

We’re supposed to go hiking tomorrow because he’s been bailing on it for months, we make plans to go and he always decides to spend the day doing “chores” but I don’t even know what he actually does all day because the apartment isn’t that clean. I know he’s gonna sleep in until 10am tomorrow and then decide not to go, so if he’s not up by 8 I’m just going to go by myself.

I have no idea what happened. He used to love cooking, going out, doing things together, and he kept things fairly clean but now he just sits around all day doing nothing.

I’m so frustrated and if it continues I’m seriously considering moving out. He talks a big game about helping out with the baby but I just don’t see it happening.

Vent over. Flame away, DCUM.