Vent: Pregnant and realizing H is a twit.

[Anonymous]

My DH was like this when I was pregnant and is even worse now. I can’t give you good advice but I can say that the PP above is so right. I love my child and she makes my life worthwhile. But I am also sad she has my DH as an example for how relationships and parenting work and wish I could fix the impact that will have on her in the future.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thought I’d give an update.

Got a text from H about how he’s suffering and can’t be supportive of me anymore. He also suggested I need therapy and said “I don’t know what you want from me”.

I was pretty frustrated and laid out everything, how he ignores me all day, doesn’t cook, blows me off, and verbalized that he will always put himself first. Even dug up some old stuff like how he won’t spend time with me before he goes out of town and makes inappropriate jokes about being intimate with other women. No response from him, so I’m pretty sure he’s leaning more towards “that B is crazy” rather than “I need to get my act together”.

Obviously it’s over at this point, I don’t think either of us is interested in continuing. I’m trying to figure out what’s going to be best for me and my child, since I’m fairly certain he’ll be a lackluster father. I’m considering moving out of state to be with my family before the baby is born but will have to speak with an attorney, I don’t want to be ordered to send the baby back to him 6 months of the year. I know the right thing is probably to facilitate a relationship with the child and hope he eventually steps it up, but I also don’t want that to mean I take on more of a burden.

[Anonymous]

OP, please talk to an attorney and then proceed with divorce. You’re the OP of the thread about your H having a daughter with schizophrenia, right? Just leave.

[Anonymous]

Marriage sounds awesome. Where do I sign up?

[Anonymous]

OP you need to own what you did here. Having a child in this situation is a really shitty thing to do, both to the child and to the father. Why did you get pregnant? You just seriously compromised two lives plus your own. You are so full of yourself and lacking in empathy it’s no surprise that you are about to be a single parent, not quite be choice but almost like you selfishly planned it this way. To answer your question you can move anywhere you want before the baby is born. If you do not divorce before the birth your husband will be presumed the father and listed as such on the birth certificate. Unless or until you have a custody order you are able to relocate with the child but once it is born he can challenge it.