Got pre-printed thank you card for wedding gift.

[Anonymous]

Is this acceptable or a big faux pas these days? Is it bad that the couple didn't write a hand written, specific thank you card to each attendee? Is it common now to receive mass printed thank you cards with the same message to everyone from newly weds?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

How old are you, PP?

[Anonymous]

I'm 48 so not exactly a youngun, and this would not bother me at all. I usually send something off the registry combined with a check, so it's not like I put a lot of time and effort into the act of giving and need effusive, specific thanks.

[Anonymous]

Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

As a sign of actual gratitude, not a cookie cutter mass print you order online and send out just so you can check off the box.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

It’s just the way thinks are. It’s totally unacceptable, and if I received this I would think they were ill raised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

As a sign of actual gratitude, not a cookie cutter mass print you order online and send out just so you can check off the box.

You're a scorekeeper I see who needs to be validated personally for every act of gift giving. It's a shame you let the use of technology and convenience convince you that people aren't really grateful.

[Anonymous]

It makes me personally cringe a little, but you know what? Times change. Protocols and what is acceptable change. I am married to a man from a different country/culture who had never even heard of thank you cards and thinks they are weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

How old are you, PP?

37. No one “owes” me anything, including a highly effusive handwritten thank you note. I have 99 problems and this ain’t one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

As a sign of actual gratitude, not a cookie cutter mass print you order online and send out just so you can check off the box.

You're a scorekeeper I see who needs to be validated personally for every act of gift giving. It's a shame you let the use of technology and convenience convince you that people aren't really grateful.

You're just lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

As a sign of actual gratitude, not a cookie cutter mass print you order online and send out just so you can check off the box.

You're a scorekeeper I see who needs to be validated personally for every act of gift giving. It's a shame you let the use of technology and convenience convince you that people aren't really grateful.

NP here and 41. +1 at scorekeepers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this acceptable or a big faux pas these days? Is it bad that the couple didn't write a hand written, specific thank you card to each attendee? Is it common now to receive mass printed thank you cards with the same message to everyone from newly weds?

It wouldn't bother me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

No, she’s doing the least she can. And why is it all on her? Presumably there’s another party to this marriage who is also literate.

I find it tragic that this generation finds it so grueling to say thank you.

[Anonymous]

I get it that hand written thank you notes take time, but mass printed ones serve absolutely no purpose except I guess to let the giver know their gift was actually received.

I have sent plenty of gifts to young married couples and never gotten a thank you of any kind. It didn't bother me particularly except that I was left to wonder if the hand off from the registry was botched.