Because they took the time, energy, and thought to hand-pick a special gift for you for your wedding. That's why. |
It's pretty obnoxious, IMO. |
What about the groom? Is he doing the best he can at the moment? |
I’m curious about the hand written not camp vs the preprinted not camp vs the no note camp—are the people who send Christmas cards in the same camp as the thank you notes? |
+1 |
That's a very transactional view. |
-1. It's not grueling to say thank you. It's grueling to buy stationery, handwrite a bunch of notes (especially after a wedding), buy stamps, and mail them. I don't use the mail for anything else and don't really handwrite anything at this point. I would be happy to write personalized emails, but I strongly dislike physical writing. |
+1 |
I don't enforce it. I don't care about thank you notes. I give gifts when I want to because it makes me happy to do so for friends and family. I do not demand a handwritten note in return as a quid pro quo. But if you read this thread, there are plenty of people trying to enforce this practice according to their own standards by criticizing those who don't comply or, in some cases, mentioning that they have stopped giving gifts to those who didn't respond with a thank you note. |
Agreed. I would be left with the feeling that the wedding was a money grab. |
We attended my nephew's Zoom wedding last year and sent him and his wife a check for $500. They never acknowledged it or sent any kind of thank you. I do judge them for that and suppose a pre-printed note would have been better, though I still think it's lazy. |
I'm from New England and have been writing thank you notes since the time I could grip a crayon in my fingers. My mother would be mortified if we hadn't sent handwritten notes. I also like the idea of a personalized pre-printed card. |
I don't get it --- by pre-printed, you mean that they wrote one note that was the same for all gifts, or do you mean that they typed vs hand wrote a personal note? IF the former, I agree better than nothing but not great, but for the latter in the year 2021, I think many people write so little that typing might be more realistic to do and I'd welcome a warm printed note or even an email thank you.
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NP. But, yes, I do need this. |
You win the thread, hands-down. |