No, they are not. |
Was it grueling for your guests to buy you a gift, wrap and send it or arrange to have it sent, buy plane tickets and reserve and pay for hotel rooms, and dress up in nice clothing to celebrate your wedding? It is really too much to acknowledge their contribution to your life event in a personal way? |
OMG trailers are manufactured homes. Modular homes are something different. |
My mother was writing thank you notes for presents she hadn't even seen (they were sent to her parent's house--her mother sent her letters describing who sent what) while she was taking her final exams for college, since she got married three days after her last final. |
Someone took the time to buy you a gift, even if all they did was click from your registry,they spent their hard earned money on you. The least you can do is take the time to write them a three-sentence thank you note. Thank you for the blah blah blah, can't wait to use it blah blah blah, glad you could make it to the wedding or sorry we missed you at the wedding.
Doesn't take that long (I wrote over three hundred of them, the majority as gifts arrived beforethe wedding, some after, 3 per day until they were all written and sent. I am in my late 40s. I would be unhappy with a preprinted thank-you card, unless their was a special needs situation where writing was extremely challenging - not some twit who thinks they are too self-important/too busy to write a thank you note! Times may change, but good manners never go out of style. |
Simeone took the time to think of you, invite you, order a meal for you provide entertainment for you and loves you enough to want to pay to celebrate with you. Which clearly is a mistake on their part if you're so petty that a pre-printed thank you card that has honest feeling behind it but not the level of effort that you expect is not good enough. |
You must be an actual citizen of the Panem Capital if you find handwriting and using stamps to be “grueling.” Like, how pampered and lazy are you? |
I believe people have time to do this with financial help from parents. What a privilege. |
Criticizing is not “enforcing,” dum-dum. I criticized Donald Trump every day for four years, and yet he still remained in office. Turns out me calling him a dirtbag didn’t “enforce” his removal from office. People post opinions on this thread. A lot of them are critical, snobby and snarky. That still doesn’t mean they “enforce” jack shyt. |
It's really not grueling to buy a gift - people just do it off the registry. It takes 10 minutes at most. And of course no one is obligated to give a gift, or attend for that matter, if it doesn't work for them. An invitation is not a summons. We attended all of their weddings and other celebrations too - they're our friends and family. You do these things for friends and family because it is fun and joyful to do so, regardless of what you get out of it in return. I think what I find troublesome about attitudes like yours is that you don't actually care about the sentiment of gratitude, it's the specific expression of it according to your terms that you are after. Why is that? Some people even demand some sort of written thank you after receiving effusive and genuine thanks in person. |
So you simply don't believe that any enforcement of social norms exists, because such enforcement doesn't involve, like, legal consequences? What an odd view. |
I've heard it all - buying stamps is "grueling." Newsflash: You can have stamps delivered to your house, and you can leave mail out for the postal carrier to pick up. You can order notecards online. For heaven's sake. |
Not so. What I would object to is a mass-printed thank you card with nothing specific relating to my gift and/or to me personally. I'd be fine with a pre-printed thank you card with a single line of handwritten (or typed) text specific to my gift and my joining the couple for their wedding. It is not "grueling" to buy a gift, but it takes effort to do so, just as it takes effort to prepare for, travel to, and attend a wedding. The very least the gift recipient can do is express gratitude in some personal way. PP's statement that it is "grueling" to buy stationery and stamps and to write notes is over the top entitlement at its worst. "I strongly dislike physical writing" - seriously? Does that person never sign anything? Or send a condolence card, a birthday card, nothing? I stand by my words: Is it really too much to acknowledge your guests' contribution to your life event in a personal way? If it is, then maybe you shouldn't invite anyone at all to your wedding - just get married at City Hall and be done with it. |
DP but if all you need is one line of personalization, check out the front of the envelope. You'll find your name and address, just for you! |
Some people tell me that I shouldn’t work outside the home. Don’t care. Live my life. Some people tell me I shouldn’t be on birth control. Don’t care. Live my life. Some people tell me I should dye my hair. Don’t care. Live my life. Try it. Societal pressures exist, sure. That doesn’t mean DH and I didn’t divide the thank you cards straight down the middle. |