Got pre-printed thank you card for wedding gift.

[Anonymous]

Seems kind of tacky but I wouldn't care enough to give it more than a few seconds of thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

No, she’s doing the least she can. And why is it all on her? Presumably there’s another party to this marriage who is also literate.

I find it tragic that this generation finds it so grueling to say thank you.

+1000

Shocking how many people seem to have been raised with trailer park manners.

They did say thank you otherwise they would not have received the thank you card.

They didn't say thank you. Minted.com said thank you. It was just a scratch off the list of to do items.

[Anonymous]

We were invited to a wedding in May, but didn't attend (due to pandemic concerns). We RSVP'd no. About 1 week before the wedding, when the bride was visiting her parents (our neighbors), we gave a card with $200 check written to both the bride & groom. Groom was the only signature on the check. Haven't gotten a thank you note, pre-printed or handwritten, from bride/groom. We are close with bride's family, but we do know the groom through family interaction.

I know they got it thanks to my bank balance. I don't know if the bride is aware about the check. We have seen them several times since their wedding.

I would not mind a pre-printed note. It is better than literally nothing at all.

[Anonymous]

I'd raise an eyebrow but I guess appreciate knowing that they got the gift.

I could get behind a pre-printed thank you note with handwritten sentence jotted at the bottom or the margin - standardize some of the "thank you so much for sharing our special day, it was magical" blah blah text that goes to everyone and then handwrite "we love the bread maker and can't wait to get baking!" and hand sign. Could speed up a super painful process while still being a bit personal. I probably wouldn't do this myself because I'd worry it wasn't proper enough, but I'd think it was genius.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were invited to a wedding in May, but didn't attend (due to pandemic concerns). We RSVP'd no. About 1 week before the wedding, when the bride was visiting her parents (our neighbors), we gave a card with $200 check written to both the bride & groom. Groom was the only signature on the check. Haven't gotten a thank you note, pre-printed or handwritten, from bride/groom. We are close with bride's family, but we do know the groom through family interaction.

I know they got it thanks to my bank balance. I don't know if the bride is aware about the check. We have seen them several times since their wedding.

I would not mind a pre-printed note. It is better than literally nothing at all.

You usually have 6 months to a year though to write a thank you note for a wedding gift. I'd still wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this acceptable or a big faux pas these days? Is it bad that the couple didn't write a hand written, specific thank you card to each attendee? Is it common now to receive mass printed thank you cards with the same message to everyone from newly weds?

OP, I think that this idea is nothing short of brilliant, and I wish I had thought of it! Parent was dying (literally, on their death bed) during/after the wedding, and wretched MIL only talked about the GD thank you cards.

Preprinted would have gotten them out MUCH quicker, for the likes of her.

When my parent died, a couple months after the wedding, the ILs response was "oh, I didn't know they were THAT sick!". Effing really??

Some people have bad experiences, and want you to feel their pain. Sad.

[Anonymous]

I got a preprinted TY card for a 5k graduation gift. I was expecting even a small added on note but no. I guess its how some people operate and it stung at opening but I got over it quickly figuring notes are not this teen's thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

No, she’s doing the least she can. And why is it all on her? Presumably there’s another party to this marriage who is also literate.

I find it tragic that this generation finds it so grueling to say thank you.

+1000

Shocking how many people seem to have been raised with trailer park manners.

They did say thank you otherwise they would not have received the thank you card.

They didn't say thank you. Minted.com said thank you. It was just a scratch off the list of to do items.

DP but by this reasoning you didn't give a gift, wherevertheywereregistered.com gave a gift, and it was just a scratch off your list of to do items.

See how dumb that sounds?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

No, she’s doing the least she can. And why is it all on her? Presumably there’s another party to this marriage who is also literate.

I find it tragic that this generation finds it so grueling to say thank you.

+1000

Shocking how many people seem to have been raised with trailer park manners.

They did say thank you otherwise they would not have received the thank you card.

No. They said thank you. They used a website to facilitate the note, they used the postal service to deliver it.

But they said thank you. Typing is no different than writing.

They didn't say thank you. Minted.com said thank you. It was just a scratch off the list of to do items.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

No, she’s doing the least she can. And why is it all on her? Presumably there’s another party to this marriage who is also literate.

I find it tragic that this generation finds it so grueling to say thank you.

+1000

Shocking how many people seem to have been raised with trailer park manners.

They did say thank you otherwise they would not have received the thank you card.

They didn't say thank you. Minted.com said thank you. It was just a scratch off the list of to do items.

No. They said thank you. They used a website to facilitate the note, they used the postal service to deliver it.

But they said thank you. Typing is no different than writing.

I’m sure you crossed off names as you wrote cards on your to-do list.

[Anonymous]

Tacky. People take time out of their life and spend money to attend a wedding. Yes, you should take a moment to write a thank you note. No, you are not too busy or too important to do so.

[Anonymous]

I got a thank you email that had been badly copy/pasted from a generic one.
I bought the couple a sterling silver corkscrew from Tiffany's. They said in their thank you email that they looked forward to using it next time they went on a picnic.
but you don't use a sterling silver Tiffany's corkscrew on a flipping picnic, you use it for nice dinners in your home.
They probably got a picnic basket from someone else.
I don't care. As long as they liked the actual gift and are happy that's all that matters.

[Anonymous]

I don't remember ever receiving a thank you note for any wedding gift I gave... I probably did receive them, though. That's how much the Thank you card means to me. I wrote my Thank you cards out when I got married 15 years ago, but if someone sent me something generic, I honestly would not be offended even for a second, I am happy to receive any card, even if I will forget about it a week later.

[Anonymous]

No it is not acceptable. It's lazy and just shows they were up for a gift grab. Get you pen out and write a thoughtful note. FFS - It's not hard

[Anonymous]

Yes it is bad. It actually would make me think worse of the couple than no note since I likely would not think about whether I had gotten a note from them if nothing came.