Got pre-printed thank you card for wedding gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone took the time to buy you a gift, even if all they did was click from your registry,they spent their hard earned money on you. The least you can do is take the time to write them a three-sentence thank you note. Thank you for the blah blah blah, can't wait to use it blah blah blah, glad you could make it to the wedding or sorry we missed you at the wedding.


Doesn't take that long (I wrote over three hundred of them, the majority as gifts arrived beforethe wedding, some after, 3 per day until they were all written and sent. I am in my late 40s. I would be unhappy with a preprinted thank-you card, unless their was a special needs situation where writing was extremely challenging - not some twit who thinks they are too self-important/too busy to write a thank you note!

Times may change, but good manners never go out of style.

Simeone took the time to think of you, invite you, order a meal for you provide entertainment for you and loves you enough to want to pay to celebrate with you.

Which clearly is a mistake on their part if you're so petty that a pre-printed thank you card that has honest feeling behind it but not the level of effort that you expect is not good enough.

^Nope, sorry. The guest goes out of their way to attend wedding. Many take off work to travel, incur unplanned expenses, have to take time away from family, etc. all to attend your super special day. The least you and new spouse can do is write a quick but genuine thank you for gift that YOU ASKED FOR!

[Anonymous]

^ It doesn't sound like you want to thank you for the gift. Sounds like you want thank you for all the inconvenience you want there to go to the wedding. Here's a tip. Don't go to the wedding If it's so inconvenient and you're going to get spun up about the type of thank you card.

[Anonymous]

I'd also like to add that the " thank you" for all of your hardships getting to the wedding is a fun party with food, booze, and dancing. Why can't you just enjoy that and accept whatever genuine thank you comes your way for your completely thoughtless and easy gift you checked off a registry?

[Anonymous]

Tacky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone took the time to buy you a gift, even if all they did was click from your registry,they spent their hard earned money on you. The least you can do is take the time to write them a three-sentence thank you note. Thank you for the blah blah blah, can't wait to use it blah blah blah, glad you could make it to the wedding or sorry we missed you at the wedding.


Doesn't take that long (I wrote over three hundred of them, the majority as gifts arrived beforethe wedding, some after, 3 per day until they were all written and sent. I am in my late 40s. I would be unhappy with a preprinted thank-you card, unless their was a special needs situation where writing was extremely challenging - not some twit who thinks they are too self-important/too busy to write a thank you note!

Times may change, but good manners never go out of style.

Simeone took the time to think of you, invite you, order a meal for you provide entertainment for you and loves you enough to want to pay to celebrate with you.

Which clearly is a mistake on their part if you're so petty that a pre-printed thank you card that has honest feeling behind it but not the level of effort that you expect is not good enough.

^Nope, sorry. The guest goes out of their way to attend wedding. Many take off work to travel, incur unplanned expenses, have to take time away from family, etc. all to attend your super special day. The least you and new spouse can do is write a quick but genuine thank you for gift that YOU ASKED FOR!

Other PP here (the one whose parent died, and MIL was harping about the thanks yous). Here is the thing. We did not ask for anything, any gifts for our wedding, because we truly didn't need anything - we had everything we could possibly need, and we lived in a tiny place, so we could not use anything extra. MIL harped about us registering, so I went to Bloomingdale's to look for what I "should" be registering for, then registered at a store (instead) that MIL preferred. Which is fine, but registering and even the store where I was registered, wasn't my choice. Now, in hindsight, would know to tell her no, MYOB.

I think the bride and groom can do what they want, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Based on comments and how it appears norms are evolving, it sounds like couples should start including a "no gifts, please" note somewhere on the invitation (or website!) - no registries, no honeymoon funds, etc. That way no one has to expend too much effort for gift giving or thank you note writing. Guests who decide to give a gift anyway should have no expectation of a thank you, since they're going against the no gift request.

If it's really too much trouble to write a thank you, let's quit giving gifts.

Even though I'm a big believer in a handwritten note, I could get behind the pre-printed note with a personalized sentence and signature. Seems like a reasonable compromise.

Also, PP whose parents died near the wedding totally deserved a pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tacky

+1000 would prefer no acknowledgement to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd also like to add that the " thank you" for all of your hardships getting to the wedding is a fun party with food, booze, and dancing. Why can't you just enjoy that and accept whatever genuine thank you comes your way for your completely thoughtless and easy gift you checked off a registry?

Ha! That's assuming all weddings are fun parties--if only! Oh and many guests spend a lot of time and effort tracking down a thoughtful gift for the couple and not just the cheapest gift on the registry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd also like to add that the " thank you" for all of your hardships getting to the wedding is a fun party with food, booze, and dancing. Why can't you just enjoy that and accept whatever genuine thank you comes your way for your completely thoughtless and easy gift you checked off a registry?

Ha! That's assuming all weddings are fun parties--if only! Oh and many guests spend a lot of time and effort tracking down a thoughtful gift for the couple and not just the cheapest gift on the registry.

And some people have no registry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on comments and how it appears norms are evolving, it sounds like couples should start including a "no gifts, please" note somewhere on the invitation (or website!) - no registries, no honeymoon funds, etc. That way no one has to expend too much effort for gift giving or thank you note writing. Guests who decide to give a gift anyway should have no expectation of a thank you, since they're going against the no gift request.

If it's really too much trouble to write a thank you, let's quit giving gifts.

Even though I'm a big believer in a handwritten note, I could get behind the pre-printed note with a personalized sentence and signature. Seems like a reasonable compromise.

Also, PP whose parents died near the wedding totally deserved a pass.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

How old are you, PP?

I’m guessing she’s a GenXer chronologically, but this post has Big MeeMaw Energy anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would rather get no thank you note and at least Aubrey the illusion that it was lost in the mail than receive a preprinted one which would confirm that the recipient has no idea that those things are so tacky. I’d remember it when they have a baby shower too.

OMG and now the scorekeeper is taking it to the extreme and lording any potential baby shower gifts over them before they’re even pregnant. Your hilariously melodramatic old lady-esque tantrum is duly noted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

Cause it was your job to make sure he did it

HAHAHAHAHA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

Because they took the time, energy, and thought to hand-pick a special gift for you for your wedding.

That's why.

Because they took the time to sit at home in their PJs and click a button on an online registry, you mean. The same amount of effort it took to mail standardized thank you notes.

That’s why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think twice about this. Why do you need them to hand write a thank you?

NP. But, yes, I do need this.

No, you don’t “need” any such thing. Words have meanings. You WANT it.