Got pre-printed thank you card for wedding gift.

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Anonymous wrote:I got a thank you email that had been badly copy/pasted from a generic one.
I bought the couple a sterling silver corkscrew from Tiffany's. They said in their thank you email that they looked forward to using it next time they went on a picnic.
but you don't use a sterling silver Tiffany's corkscrew on a flipping picnic, you use it for nice dinners in your home.
They probably got a picnic basket from someone else.
I don't care. As long as they liked the actual gift and are happy that's all that matters.

I mean - I wouldn't use a sterling silver Tiffany's corkscrew on a picnic, but are you to say how they should use something that you gave to them as a gift?

Also - had they registered for the fancy corkscrew? If not, maybe they don't really "get" it.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

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Anonymous wrote:We were invited to a wedding in May, but didn't attend (due to pandemic concerns). We RSVP'd no. About 1 week before the wedding, when the bride was visiting her parents (our neighbors), we gave a card with $200 check written to both the bride & groom. Groom was the only signature on the check. Haven't gotten a thank you note, pre-printed or handwritten, from bride/groom. We are close with bride's family, but we do know the groom through family interaction.

I know they got it thanks to my bank balance. I don't know if the bride is aware about the check. We have seen them several times since their wedding.

I would not mind a pre-printed note. It is better than literally nothing at all.

You usually have 6 months to a year though to write a thank you note for a wedding gift. I'd still wait.

This is a terrible myth. You have a year to give the gift. Not write a thank you note.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

Never? You mean never other than all the people in this thread who had help from their grooms? Read.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

Never? You mean never other than all the people in this thread who had help from their grooms? Read.

While there are men who write thank you notes, I have never seen anyone hold a man responsible for not writing them. This is a social standard enforced almost entirely by and against women.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

Never? You mean never other than all the people in this thread who had help from their grooms? Read.

While there are men who write thank you notes, I have never seen anyone hold a man responsible for not writing them. This is a social standard enforced almost entirely by and against women.

"Enforced"? What the...

I have had both male and female cousins, friends, etc., fail to send thank you notes for weddings, graduation gifts, etc. And never once have I ever "enforced" that social nicety by calling them up to ask them about the gift, etc. WTH? Tell me, in great detail, how you have "enforced" this nicety with the people in your life.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it that hand written thank you notes take time, but mass printed ones serve absolutely no purpose except I guess to let the giver know their gift was actually received.

I have sent plenty of gifts to young married couples and never gotten a thank you of any kind. It didn't bother me particularly except that I was left to wonder if the hand off from the registry was botched.

+1 I thought it was a bit rude but didn't spend much time thinking about it.

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I'm from the south and my mother would have been mortified if we hadn't sent handwritten notes. I wrote the ones to my family and friends, husband wrote the ones to his.

BUT, I love the idea of the pre-printed thank you cards that you then add a note to at the bottom. That's what we do for our Christmas cards- the pre-printed photo cards, then I add a note on the bottom and sign my name. I do think a pre-printed thank you card with no handwritten note for a wedding gift is pretty lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

OMG-will we never evolve???

Why is the "the bride's" job???????

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

Never? You mean never other than all the people in this thread who had help from their grooms? Read.

While there are men who write thank you notes, I have never seen anyone hold a man responsible for not writing them. This is a social standard enforced almost entirely by and against women.

Well I stopped sending my college aged niece ANd nephew gifts when they never acknowledged any of them.

[Anonymous]

I woulld find it tacky. I remember setting a goal to get my thank you notes out within a month of the wedding. Several people had traveled a great distance and it was so wonderful of them to celebrate with us. It really didn't take that long and I can't imagine not thanking them for attending and/or their gift.

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Anonymous wrote:I woulld find it tacky. I remember setting a goal to get my thank you notes out within a month of the wedding. Several people had traveled a great distance and it was so wonderful of them to celebrate with us. It really didn't take that long and I can't imagine not thanking them for attending and/or their gift.

Unless there are exigent circumstances (ie: death of a parent).

[Anonymous]

Depends on size of gift. My aunt liked hand written her address on card to.

Pre-printed is a microagression

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

Cause it was your job to make sure he did it

[Anonymous]

It’s not ideal, but I rarely get thanks for gifts I send, so I’d consider any acknowledgement a win. People are busier now than in generations past—in our mothers and grandmothers generation, women didn’t always work, so they had time to fuss over handwritten cards. That said, I’m in the camp of sending hand written thank you notes—I just know not everyone has the same priorities.