Got pre-printed thank you card for wedding gift.

[Anonymous]

Not surprising younger generations find it acceptable. They've grown up their entire lives on Facebook, insta, and through a myriad of other social media platforms that makes them completely impotent when it comes to actual interpersonal communication.

When you pend your entire life with your head buried in your smart phone, no wonder you'll defer to the fast food of correspondence that you can order online with a few clicks. They probably don't even know how to write these days because they never even hold a pen, bit write 99% of the time with their thumbs on a digital screen.

What lame broods the world is producing. Pretty soon they'll probably be even too lazy for something like sex. Why procreate the natural way when you can order your kids online in the future, made in the lab, and have them delivered to your doorstep in a cryo tank from Amazon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not surprising younger generations find it acceptable. They've grown up their entire lives on Facebook, insta, and through a myriad of other social media platforms that makes them completely impotent when it comes to actual interpersonal communication.

When you pend your entire life with your head buried in your smart phone, no wonder you'll defer to the fast food of correspondence that you can order online with a few clicks. They probably don't even know how to write these days because they never even hold a pen, bit write 99% of the time with their thumbs on a digital screen.

What lame broods the world is producing. Pretty soon they'll probably be even too lazy for something like sex. Why procreate the natural way when you can order your kids online in the future, made in the lab, and have them delivered to your doorstep in a cryo tank from Amazon!

I'm 51. Thank you cards end up in the recycling bin. I would prefer couples didn't spend money on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

My husband and I equally considered it necessary to write hand-written thank you notes. He wrote to his family and guests, so he could write personal notes to each (about the gift, the fun time, a memory, etc) and I wrote to mine for the same reason. Somehow, with a wedding out of town, a honeymoon, and flying write back to a week-long conference, we managed to write two hundred thank you notes within a few weeks.

Shrug. I wrote mine. It wasn't my job to police his. But I'm sure his parents' friends, whom I didn't really know, blamed me for the oversight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

My husband and I equally considered it necessary to write hand-written thank you notes. He wrote to his family and guests, so he could write personal notes to each (about the gift, the fun time, a memory, etc) and I wrote to mine for the same reason. Somehow, with a wedding out of town, a honeymoon, and flying write back to a week-long conference, we managed to write two hundred thank you notes within a few weeks.

Shrug. I wrote mine. It wasn't my job to police his. But I'm sure his parents' friends, whom I didn't really know, blamed me for the oversight.

They likely did.

My Aunt did my cousin's thank you notes.

[Anonymous]

I have an entitled niece she got engaged during pandemic. Did do professional photoshop in outdoor park. Announced it on social media. Folks send her engagement gifts she refused to acknowledge.

Folks started calling parents to see if she got them. Then for the checks she got she went and cashed them all.

So I guess thank you was the cashed check on your bank statement.

She is incapable of realizing it is the parents who keep getting calls about this and now they have not set a wedding date.

Run off to Vegas and elope. Don’t send out wedding announcements

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?

My husband and I equally considered it necessary to write hand-written thank you notes. He wrote to his family and guests, so he could write personal notes to each (about the gift, the fun time, a memory, etc) and I wrote to mine for the same reason. Somehow, with a wedding out of town, a honeymoon, and flying write back to a week-long conference, we managed to write two hundred thank you notes within a few weeks.

Shrug. I wrote mine. It wasn't my job to police his. But I'm sure his parents' friends, whom I didn't really know, blamed me for the oversight.

They likely did.

My Aunt did my cousin's thank you notes.

My H never did his.

[Anonymous]

It took me a year to get thank you notes out!

[Anonymous]

I love how people who opt out of relationships in which they’re expected to be happy doormats are accused of “keeping score”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

OMG-will we never evolve???

Why is the "the bride's" job???????

The bride and her family are usually hosting the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment.

OMG-will we never evolve???

Why is the "the bride's" job???????

The bride and her family are usually hosting the wedding.

My wedding my wife and her family paid majority of wedding. 99 percent of gifts were checks. I got none of the money as the groom. The gifts helped cover her wedding expenses,

The bridal shower was for her and the baby shower.

No I am not cheap. I paid engagement ring. Limos, honeymoon and 100 percent down payment on house. But she paid for wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were invited to a wedding in May, but didn't attend (due to pandemic concerns). We RSVP'd no. About 1 week before the wedding, when the bride was visiting her parents (our neighbors), we gave a card with $200 check written to both the bride & groom. Groom was the only signature on the check. Haven't gotten a thank you note, pre-printed or handwritten, from bride/groom. We are close with bride's family, but we do know the groom through family interaction.

I know they got it thanks to my bank balance. I don't know if the bride is aware about the check. We have seen them several times since their wedding.

I would not mind a pre-printed note. It is better than literally nothing at all.

You usually have 6 months to a year though to write a thank you note for a wedding gift. I'd still wait.

I'm the giver of the check.

I'm not expecting anything and I'm definitely not going to ask them (or her parents) about it. We've seen them several times. Bride is a teacher and doesn't work summer jobs (like other teachers I know). She has had 2 months off. If it hasn't gotten done yet, the "summer break" time is winding down quickly. I'm not expecting anything at this point. But any acknowledgement would be appreciated.