Online dating/men height

[Anonymous]

Why di men lie about their height on dating sites? It’s not like I am not going to find out when we actually meet. I’m 5’7 and can’t count the times where men showed up at a date clearly shorter than me or the same exact height swearing they are 5’10-6. It’s annoying and a huge waste of time. If you lie about your height, you are showing that you are okay with deception right before we meet, and I will cross you off of my list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why di men lie about their height on dating sites? It’s not like I am not going to find out when we actually meet. I’m 5’7 and can’t count the times where men showed up at a date clearly shorter than me or the same exact height swearing they are 5’10-6. It’s annoying and a huge waste of time. If you lie about your height, you are showing that you are okay with deception right before we meet, and I will cross you off of my list.

Because if they tell the truth they don't even get a chance to meet.

They are hoping that if they can at least get a date they might show that they have other qualities that make them appealing, but have found they never get a chance if they say they are actually 5'8".

[Anonymous]

That’s the thing though, they won’t get a chance as it’s a huge turnoff. They’d have a better chance if they were honest upfront and I chose to date them anyways

[Anonymous]

Same reason people lie about their age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why di men lie about their height on dating sites? It’s not like I am not going to find out when we actually meet. I’m 5’7 and can’t count the times where men showed up at a date clearly shorter than me or the same exact height swearing they are 5’10-6. It’s annoying and a huge waste of time. If you lie about your height, you are showing that you are okay with deception right before we meet, and I will cross you off of my list.

Because if they tell the truth they don't even get a chance to meet.

They are hoping that if they can at least get a date they might show that they have other qualities that make them appealing, but have found they never get a chance if they say they are actually 5'8".

What if as a woman I put down my measurements as 36D, 24, 36, but in reality, I'm like a 32AA, 32, 40? Wiill men be ok with me lying about my measurements as long as I have a pretty face and great personality?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s the thing though, they won’t get a chance as it’s a huge turnoff. They’d have a better chance if they were honest upfront and I chose to date them anyways

Ah, but they have learned the hard way you won't chose to date them anyway. The average male height (at 20 years old) in the US is 5'9", which is almost exactly the average -minimum- height women specify in online dating.

https://www.healthline.com/health/average-height-for-men#u.s.-height

"Relatedly, a study about height and human mate choice found that, on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall. "
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height

A 5'8" guy who lists himself at 5'10" suddenly finds he has -far- higher response rates. They are hoping that in person the 5'5" woman who specified she wanted nobody shorter than 5'10" won't eliminate him for being just under her cutoff.

...he would rather have a chance than no chance basically. They are shaping their shallowness to the shallowness of the women who think 1-2" in height is the difference between a good relationship and a bad one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s the thing though, they won’t get a chance as it’s a huge turnoff. They’d have a better chance if they were honest upfront and I chose to date them anyways

Ah, but they have learned the hard way you won't chose to date them anyway. The average male height (at 20 years old) in the US is 5'9", which is almost exactly the average -minimum- height women specify in online dating.

https://www.healthline.com/health/average-height-for-men#u.s.-height

"Relatedly, a study about height and human mate choice found that, on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall. "
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height

A 5'8" guy who lists himself at 5'10" suddenly finds he has -far- higher response rates. They are hoping that in person the 5'5" woman who specified she wanted nobody shorter than 5'10" won't eliminate him for being just under her cutoff.

...he would rather have a chance than no chance basically. They are shaping their shallowness to the shallowness of the women who think 1-2" in height is the difference between a good relationship and a bad one.

That would work for the 5’5 woman, but im 5’7 and they can clearly see that listed on my profile. Why do they expect I’d be okay towering a 5’5 guy?

[Anonymous]

I’ve noticed it’s the same with weight. Men post pictures from when they were in the best shape of their life, then they show up 20-30 pounds heavier.

Last guy I went out with had pictures of himself with a six pack. On our date he pointed to his gut and said “this is what med school did to me!” I was like dude…..med school was 10 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s the thing though, they won’t get a chance as it’s a huge turnoff. They’d have a better chance if they were honest upfront and I chose to date them anyways

Ah, but they have learned the hard way you won't chose to date them anyway. The average male height (at 20 years old) in the US is 5'9", which is almost exactly the average -minimum- height women specify in online dating.

https://www.healthline.com/health/average-height-for-men#u.s.-height

"Relatedly, a study about height and human mate choice found that, on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall. "
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height

A 5'8" guy who lists himself at 5'10" suddenly finds he has -far- higher response rates. They are hoping that in person the 5'5" woman who specified she wanted nobody shorter than 5'10" won't eliminate him for being just under her cutoff.

...he would rather have a chance than no chance basically. They are shaping their shallowness to the shallowness of the women who think 1-2" in height is the difference between a good relationship and a bad one.

That would work for the 5’5 woman, but im 5’7 and they can clearly see that listed on my profile. Why do they expect I’d be okay towering a 5’5 guy?

5'5" claiming 5'10" would obviously be hopeless.

I don't date dudes (or anyone else at this point), but suspect most don't add more than an inch or two to their height to get to/over the 5'9"-5'10" cutoff women have.

They are gambling that in person a 5'7" woman would be willing to settle for a guy who is merely two inches taller than her if he is otherwise acceptable.

This btw is a huge difference between online dating and in-person dating. Online women are much quicker to eliminate 50%+ of the entire male population as unacceptable without even meeting them. In person they are more likely to give some weight to personality, etc, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s the thing though, they won’t get a chance as it’s a huge turnoff. They’d have a better chance if they were honest upfront and I chose to date them anyways

Ah, but they have learned the hard way you won't chose to date them anyway. The average male height (at 20 years old) in the US is 5'9", which is almost exactly the average -minimum- height women specify in online dating.

https://www.healthline.com/health/average-height-for-men#u.s.-height

"Relatedly, a study about height and human mate choice found that, on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall. "
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height

A 5'8" guy who lists himself at 5'10" suddenly finds he has -far- higher response rates. They are hoping that in person the 5'5" woman who specified she wanted nobody shorter than 5'10" won't eliminate him for being just under her cutoff.

...he would rather have a chance than no chance basically. They are shaping their shallowness to the shallowness of the women who think 1-2" in height is the difference between a good relationship and a bad one.

That would work for the 5’5 woman, but im 5’7 and they can clearly see that listed on my profile. Why do they expect I’d be okay towering a 5’5 guy?

5'5" claiming 5'10" would obviously be hopeless.

I don't date dudes (or anyone else at this point), but suspect most don't add more than an inch or two to their height to get to/over the 5'9"-5'10" cutoff women have.

They are gambling that in person a 5'7" woman would be willing to settle for a guy who is merely two inches taller than her if he is otherwise acceptable.

This btw is a huge difference between online dating and in-person dating. Online women are much quicker to eliminate 50%+ of the entire male population as unacceptable without even meeting them. In person they are more likely to give some weight to personality, etc, etc.

Op here, I am telling you that this is what happens. If they were just adding an inch it would be annoying but not aggravating. The guy I met recently has 5’10 on his profile and I was at least an inch taller than him while wearing flats !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why di men lie about their height on dating sites? It’s not like I am not going to find out when we actually meet. I’m 5’7 and can’t count the times where men showed up at a date clearly shorter than me or the same exact height swearing they are 5’10-6. It’s annoying and a huge waste of time. If you lie about your height, you are showing that you are okay with deception right before we meet, and I will cross you off of my list.

Because if they tell the truth they don't even get a chance to meet.

They are hoping that if they can at least get a date they might show that they have other qualities that make them appealing, but have found they never get a chance if they say they are actually 5'8".

But if a woman doesn’t want to date someone under 5’10, they won’t settle for a guy who’s 5’8.

It’s false advertising and a waste of everyone’s time. No one would shame a man for wanting to date only pretty women (whatever their definition of pretty is) - the height standards shaming of women is just a ploy to get women to settle for less. BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s the thing though, they won’t get a chance as it’s a huge turnoff. They’d have a better chance if they were honest upfront and I chose to date them anyways

Ah, but they have learned the hard way you won't chose to date them anyway. The average male height (at 20 years old) in the US is 5'9", which is almost exactly the average -minimum- height women specify in online dating.

https://www.healthline.com/health/average-height-for-men#u.s.-height

"Relatedly, a study about height and human mate choice found that, on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall. "
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height

A 5'8" guy who lists himself at 5'10" suddenly finds he has -far- higher response rates. They are hoping that in person the 5'5" woman who specified she wanted nobody shorter than 5'10" won't eliminate him for being just under her cutoff.

...he would rather have a chance than no chance basically. They are shaping their shallowness to the shallowness of the women who think 1-2" in height is the difference between a good relationship and a bad one.

That would work for the 5’5 woman, but im 5’7 and they can clearly see that listed on my profile. Why do they expect I’d be okay towering a 5’5 guy?

I'm 5' 7" you aren't towering over a guy whose 5' 5" unless you are in heels. Anyway, a lot of guys do this and not just online. I had a guy tell me to his face he was 6'1". I view it as the same thing women do who lie about their age, hair color, waistline... insecurity, and trying to improve their chances of getting a date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why di men lie about their height on dating sites? It’s not like I am not going to find out when we actually meet. I’m 5’7 and can’t count the times where men showed up at a date clearly shorter than me or the same exact height swearing they are 5’10-6. It’s annoying and a huge waste of time. If you lie about your height, you are showing that you are okay with deception right before we meet, and I will cross you off of my list.

Because if they tell the truth they don't even get a chance to meet.

They are hoping that if they can at least get a date they might show that they have other qualities that make them appealing, but have found they never get a chance if they say they are actually 5'8".

But if a woman doesn’t want to date someone under 5’10, they won’t settle for a guy who’s 5’8.

It’s false advertising and a waste of everyone’s time. No one would shame a man for wanting to date only pretty women (whatever their definition of pretty is) - the height standards shaming of women is just a ploy to get women to settle for less. BS.

Men, do get shamed for dating choices, " why don't you date he?" "She's a nice girl." etc.

[Anonymous]

Seems we're discussing 2 different things her height standards and men who lie about height.

I personally think having rigid height is stupid, and I say that as a relatively tall woman. If my grandmother who was 5'7" married my 5'1" grandpa back in 1950 and were happy for 50 years together, I figure I can do the same.

[Anonymous]

How many times do women lie about their weight on those apps or post a pic from 2 years ago when they were 20 pounds lighter? lol