Online dating/men height
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Anonymous
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Anonymous
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Seems there's one woman on here posting A LOT.
All of my (very pretty and successful) sorority sisters married pretty averaged height guys. Shortest is 5 ft 6 tallest is 5 ft 10. |
Anonymous
| Why do women have to be shamed by their height preferences? Why is this a thing? |
Anonymous
Because women also complain about being single, apparently too stupid to recognize that eliminating 85% of their options (based on a 6’0” height limit) causes them to remain single. |
Anonymous
| I love tall men and I won’t settle. |
Anonymous
Your concept of "the good old days when men ruled" is a strawman, constructed for feminists to attack, that never really existed in real life. When, exactly, do you think "the good old days" were? I started dating in 1981 and men certainly did not have "all the power and bank accounts" then. In the days when "the patriarchy" actually existed, men did not have a lot of options, either, nor could they be "too superficial". - In those days, everyone's social circle was very small. People rarely went more than a few miles from home. The number of people you could date or marry was relatively small. Men certainly did not get to have "no strings attached" sex with lots of women, not least because if you even tried it, the male relatives of those women would kill you. - In those days, marriages were usually arranged by the parents. As a man, neither your parents nor hers would let you date (let alone marry) whoever you wanted. Your options were constrained by what your parents and the parents of the available women would permit. Marriage was too important to leave up to the emotional decisions of young men and women. - A man who married beneath himself, for superficial reasons, would find himself socially ostracized and cut off from his family. - "Dating" was not even a thing before the 20th century. You did not interact with members of the opposite sex in public and unsupervised. As a man, you met women while under the supervision of her parents, and if you found a suitable woman (socially and financially) then you courted her - a formal process that took place under parental supervision - with the goal of marriage. Your "options" were not unlimited and your goal could not be superficial - you did not just get to "go out and have fun" let alone have sex - because her parents and yours wouldn't allow it. The current "options" that men and women have in the Western world - to have as much sex with whoever they want, and to marry whoever they want - is a social experiment unprecedented in human history. Generally, people are only taught about the advantages of this system and the disadvantages of the old system ("the patriarchy") so that we think we've achieved "progress". A more balanced view is that the current system has disadvantages, and the older system had advantages, and thus the amount of "progress" is less than we are given to think. |
Anonymous
My husband has shrunk  . I had a type that I did not realize---sort of a Matt Damon--muscular, blonde, 5'10". Looking back everyone guy I dated was that type. My dad and brother are 6'2" and dark hair. I am 5'5".
My husband has always been insanely hot and always had women falling all over him and still does...but we realized he has actually gotten shorter--now at 50 (still muscular). My 15-year old is 5'10--on track to be 6'2"-6'3" (open growth plates) and he is taller than my husband. WE re-measured him and --yep-- he shrunk an inch. He was definitely 5'10"prior. He was a very heavy weight lifter, squatted a lot and I think with age it effected his height. I never was height obsessed, but somehow my picker always landed on the same thing. |
Anonymous
This is incorrect. Women want men taller than them on average. This means short men have a huge pool of 4-5”4 women to pick from. Not a lot of women are 5’7 or taller…. |
Anonymous
You were not height obsessed because you’re 5’5 which means most men would be taller than you. Would you have considered dating someone who was 5’2? |
Anonymous
+1 I'm so glad I'm happily married and not in the dating pool. I met my DH from work. |
Anonymous
Because women get shamed for a lot of things - do you like attractive men? That's shallow. Do you like men that can support themselves and you? That's gold-digging obviously. You like tall men? Give the short one a chance even though you aren't interested, he might grow on you. Do you not like him because you don't like blonds? Be more open minded. Do you think he's creepy? Give him a chance. Don't trust yourself. Don't trust your gut. This isn't new. |
Anonymous
Do men get shamed for their weight preferences? 🤔 Note that OLD sites require you to enter a height but never a weight, so we can see which gender’s preferences are considered more important… |
Anonymous
Nah women demand over 6’ even when the woman herself is much shorter. |
Anonymous
No, not really. Have you been on DCUM long? |
Anonymous
ortant… On most OLD sites, you can list a body type (e.g., slim, athletic, BBW, etc.) However, most people get the hint and have a least two or three full-body photos (got to give the girls the goods, fellas.) The issue is that women (including the women on DCUM) respond violently when men question a woman's attractiveness based on their weight but have no problem judging men based on how "in-shape" the man is. You can go to the "Swimming Pool" thread to swim in the hypocrisy of this issue. |