How much does religion matter with regard to your kids’ future spouses

[Anonymous]

When it’s time for your kids to settle down and marry, how much does the future spouse’s religion matter to you? Does it matter to you which religion your grandkids will be raised?

[Anonymous]

It will only matter if they are extremely "religious" and associated with an organization/theology that does not support women or LGBTQ+. Otherwise, we believe all religions have the same purpose and are very open minded.

[Anonymous]

Yes, since you asked, but I'd rather stay out of it, which is more important. We are not religious at all.
I don't see my kids getting together and staying together with someone who is religious.

[Anonymous]

Catholic
Very important

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, since you asked, but I'd rather stay out of it, which is more important. We are not religious at all.
I don't see my kids getting together and staying together with someone who is religious.

Yes, stay out of it

[Anonymous]

I care because it's a cultural thing, mostly, but I won't say a word, and I'd treat any spouse they chose with the same love. Their life, their choice, and our relationship is the priority. (Jewish, fwiw.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I care because it's a cultural thing, mostly, but I won't say a word, and I'd treat any spouse they chose with the same love. Their life, their choice, and our relationship is the priority. (Jewish, fwiw.)

+!
( Not Jewish)

[Anonymous]

I sincerely hope they choose someone of the same faith.

[Anonymous]

I would be wary of anyone who is devout and pretty entrenched in their religion.

If it's just a cultural difference, I can roll with that. But I wouldn't want my kid to become devout in any religion, even Christianity (how I was raised).

[Anonymous]

I care a lot about the spouse's and grandchildren's religion, but my kids will be the ones picking their spouses based on what matters to them and will also be the ones raising their children.

By the time someone is old enough to be selecting a spouse, they are their own person with their own priorities and hassling them won't be productive. I just hope that my kids' experience growing up in our religion and community will be sufficiently warm, positive, fulfilling, and meaningful to make them want to replicate it for their own children.

Jewish.

[Anonymous]

Not at all.

My husband and I grew up very religious. He went to episcopal churches, I went to one Catholic Church, complete with 13 years do Catholic school, confirmation, the whole gambit.

Our kids and their future spouses can chose as little or as much theology as they would like to for their lives. I’m completely open.

[Anonymous]

I just don't them to be with anyone who is "extreme", whether a Christian crusader or a militant atheist. Most parents are not active members of any religion and most kids attend less than their parents. I've accepted that trying to steer them into choosing somebody who is active in ANY religion a non-starter.

We comfort ourselves knowing that they will choose partners of good character. I've seen that so far in their choices.

[Anonymous]

To the extent I care it would just be for cultural reasons. Just like I’m sure my MIL is a little bit sad that her grandkids are being raised Christian with no education in Buddhism. But also like my MIL, my main concern is that my kids have a solid happy relationship with their spouses. That’s hard enough to find, why put up additional barriers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will only matter if they are extremely "religious" and associated with an organization/theology that does not support women or LGBTQ+. Otherwise, we believe all religions have the same purpose and are very open minded.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I care a lot about the spouse's and grandchildren's religion, but my kids will be the ones picking their spouses based on what matters to them and will also be the ones raising their children.

By the time someone is old enough to be selecting a spouse, they are their own person with their own priorities and hassling them won't be productive. I just hope that my kids' experience growing up in our religion and community will be sufficiently warm, positive, fulfilling, and meaningful to make them want to replicate it for their own children.

Jewish.

Will your grandchildren not be welcomed by the community if one parent is not Jewish?