How much does religion matter with regard to your kids’ future spouses

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Anonymous wrote:What happened to that thread a few days ago where consensus was that major religions, other than Christians, view other religions as equal, and that no single religion is "the religion?"

Concensus, lol. You mean DCUM’s atheists, Jews and Muslims once again ganged up to trash Christianity, and there were no Christians here because we avoid this forum for exactly this reason.

Oh yeah, Christians are so oppressed. If only they could have their religious holidays be national holidays. If only they could openly wear their crucifixes or ashes on their forehead. If only there were a majority of Christians on SCOTUS. If only there were Christian pastors leading prayer in Congress, and Christian messages on our money and other government promulgated items.

GMAFB.

Puhleeze. Stop with the drama and wild exaggerations and own your sh!!ty behavior on a mom’s website.

How is the PP drama or exaggeration? I'll wait . . .

Atheist pp (you?) is avoiding the subject—her own bullying behavior—and instead deflecting with over-the-top drama like “Oh, Christians are so oppressed” and “if only [insert pointless example here]….”

Clearly Atheist pp (you?) is incapable of answering a direct statement with anything besides off-topic, dramatic snark.

You’re welcome.

NP here. If it makes you feel any better, as an atheist I think all religions (take your pick Muslim, Christian, Jewish, Wiccan, Hindu, Buddhist…) are dumb and their believers are conned…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What happened to that thread a few days ago where consensus was that major religions, other than Christians, view other religions as equal, and that no single religion is "the religion?"

Concensus, lol. You mean DCUM’s atheists, Jews and Muslims once again ganged up to trash Christianity, and there were no Christians here because we avoid this forum for exactly this reason.

Oh yeah, Christians are so oppressed. If only they could have their religious holidays be national holidays. If only they could openly wear their crucifixes or ashes on their forehead. If only there were a majority of Christians on SCOTUS. If only there were Christian pastors leading prayer in Congress, and Christian messages on our money and other government promulgated items.

GMAFB.

Puhleeze. Stop with the drama and wild exaggerations and own your sh!!ty behavior on a mom’s website.

How is the PP drama or exaggeration? I'll wait . . .

Atheist pp (you?) is avoiding the subject—her own bullying behavior—and instead deflecting with over-the-top drama like “Oh, Christians are so oppressed” and “if only [insert pointless example here]….”

Clearly Atheist pp (you?) is incapable of answering a direct statement with anything besides off-topic, dramatic snark.

You’re welcome.

NP here. If it makes you feel any better, as an atheist I think all religions (take your pick Muslim, Christian, Jewish, Wiccan, Hindu, Buddhist…) are dumb and their believers are conned…

You’re assuming we care what an atheist thinks. Particularly one who doesn’t know how to use ellipses but calls others dumb, lol….

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What happened to that thread a few days ago where consensus was that major religions, other than Christians, view other religions as equal, and that no single religion is "the religion?"

Concensus, lol. You mean DCUM’s atheists, Jews and Muslims once again ganged up to trash Christianity, and there were no Christians here because we avoid this forum for exactly this reason.

Oh yeah, Christians are so oppressed. If only they could have their religious holidays be national holidays. If only they could openly wear their crucifixes or ashes on their forehead. If only there were a majority of Christians on SCOTUS. If only there were Christian pastors leading prayer in Congress, and Christian messages on our money and other government promulgated items.

GMAFB.

Puhleeze. Stop with the drama and wild exaggerations and own your sh!!ty behavior on a mom’s website.

How is the PP drama or exaggeration? I'll wait . . .

Atheist pp (you?) is avoiding the subject—her own bullying behavior—and instead deflecting with over-the-top drama like “Oh, Christians are so oppressed” and “if only [insert pointless example here]….”

Clearly Atheist pp (you?) is incapable of answering a direct statement with anything besides off-topic, dramatic snark.

You’re welcome.

NP here. If it makes you feel any better, as an atheist I think all religions (take your pick Muslim, Christian, Jewish, Wiccan, Hindu, Buddhist…) are dumb and their believers are conned…

Everyone is dumb, except for atheists?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What happened to that thread a few days ago where consensus was that major religions, other than Christians, view other religions as equal, and that no single religion is "the religion?"

Concensus, lol. You mean DCUM’s atheists, Jews and Muslims once again ganged up to trash Christianity, and there were no Christians here because we avoid this forum for exactly this reason.

Oh yeah, Christians are so oppressed. If only they could have their religious holidays be national holidays. If only they could openly wear their crucifixes or ashes on their forehead. If only there were a majority of Christians on SCOTUS. If only there were Christian pastors leading prayer in Congress, and Christian messages on our money and other government promulgated items.

GMAFB.

Puhleeze. Stop with the drama and wild exaggerations and own your sh!!ty behavior on a mom’s website.

How is the PP drama or exaggeration? I'll wait . . .

Atheist pp (you?) is avoiding the subject—her own bullying behavior—and instead deflecting with over-the-top drama like “Oh, Christians are so oppressed” and “if only [insert pointless example here]….”

Clearly Atheist pp (you?) is incapable of answering a direct statement with anything besides off-topic, dramatic snark.

You’re welcome.

NP here. If it makes you feel any better, as an atheist I think all religions (take your pick Muslim, Christian, Jewish, Wiccan, Hindu, Buddhist…) are dumb and their believers are conned…

Everyone is dumb, except for atheists?

This believer knows how to end a sentence with ellipses, which the atheist flubbed…. Did someone say “dumb”?

[Anonymous]

All faiths have a fundamentalist sect and have a spectrum from that to liberalism. I am not concerned with the specific religion, but I would be troubled by my child becoming a fundamentalist in any faith. I would think that would happen before they married anyone fundamentalist.

Both my children have been raised on the liberal side of our faith. They have had friends from many different faiths, but most were on the liberal end of their faith’s spectrum.

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Anonymous wrote:Not at all. And we are regular churchgoers. What matters to me is kindness, generosity, honesty and that they're always in each other's corner.

So it won't bother you if they won't go to church with you? If they don't celebrate Christmas? If they ask that you NOT send christmas gifts?

Nope. BTW, Jesus preached love, not frenetic gift buying.

My kids would never ask someone not to send gifts
What religion is against that?

But can you imagine that your child's spouse might not celebrate Christmas? Surely, that's not beyond the pale.

Everything about Christmas except the nativity story is pagan - the tree, the gifts, the lights, the food, the music, the yule, ...... I'm a Christian so we celebrate the birth of Jesus, but I understand that all of the things surrounding the holiday have pagan roots. You certainly don't need to identify as a Christian to celebrate what is now called "Christmas".

Washington Irving and Charles Dickens are the fathers of our modern Christmas traditions.

Regardless
Even if spouse doesn't celebrate Christmas, there is no rule against receiving gifts from a grandparent
Remember the rule honor your mother and your father?
Are you insinuating that it is only proper to honor them if your spouse agrees!

Dude, if you think that applying "honor your mother and father" to purchasing Christmas presents is the hill you want to die on, be my guest. As for me, if my adult son or daughter tells me that they would prefer that we not give presents at Christmas, I'm totally ok with that because 1) there are many other potential gift-giving occasions; and 2) I want to actually enjoy and get to know my grandchildren and that depends on their parents' being on board.

Number 2 sounds like blackmail
Number 1 sounds like you are justifying yourself

All in all, situation sounds toxic. Rather you than me

Actually, toxic is when you insist on celebrating the birth of Jesus, who preached love and tolerance, by giving unwanted gifts and undermining your adult children's independence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not at all. And we are regular churchgoers. What matters to me is kindness, generosity, honesty and that they're always in each other's corner.

So it won't bother you if they won't go to church with you? If they don't celebrate Christmas? If they ask that you NOT send christmas gifts?

Nope. BTW, Jesus preached love, not frenetic gift buying.

My kids would never ask someone not to send gifts
What religion is against that?

But can you imagine that your child's spouse might not celebrate Christmas? Surely, that's not beyond the pale.

Everything about Christmas except the nativity story is pagan - the tree, the gifts, the lights, the food, the music, the yule, ...... I'm a Christian so we celebrate the birth of Jesus, but I understand that all of the things surrounding the holiday have pagan roots. You certainly don't need to identify as a Christian to celebrate what is now called "Christmas".

Washington Irving and Charles Dickens are the fathers of our modern Christmas traditions.

Regardless
Even if spouse doesn't celebrate Christmas, there is no rule against receiving gifts from a grandparent
Remember the rule honor your mother and your father?
Are you insinuating that it is only proper to honor them if your spouse agrees!

Dude, if you think that applying "honor your mother and father" to purchasing Christmas presents is the hill you want to die on, be my guest. As for me, if my adult son or daughter tells me that they would prefer that we not give presents at Christmas, I'm totally ok with that because 1) there are many other potential gift-giving occasions; and 2) I want to actually enjoy and get to know my grandchildren and that depends on their parents' being on board.

Number 2 sounds like blackmail
Number 1 sounds like you are justifying yourself

All in all, situation sounds toxic. Rather you than me

Actually, toxic is when you insist on celebrating the birth of Jesus, who preached love and tolerance, by giving unwanted gifts and undermining your adult children's independence.

Changing your religion does not give you the right to impose on your parents like that. You do not have a right to dictate their lives just because you changed yours
Teach children to say thank you, be tolerant
There is something wrong with the dynamic you are describing

[Anonymous]

I lose some respect for any "believer" I know. More so, for fundamental types.

For my kids' spouses:
religion-lite - tolerable
religion strong - questionable
religious nutter - no fcking way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lose some respect for any "believer" I know. More so, for fundamental types.

For my kids' spouses:
religion-lite - tolerable
religion strong - questionable
religious nutter - no fcking way

I feel sorry for people who have parents that think that they have any say about the person whom their child will be in a relationship with and marry. It’s selfish and entitled for parents to think that they have any say about whom their child loves, because they don’t have that right. As long as they love each other and care about each other, it’s none of the parents business.

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Anonymous wrote:Not at all. And we are regular churchgoers. What matters to me is kindness, generosity, honesty and that they're always in each other's corner.

So it won't bother you if they won't go to church with you? If they don't celebrate Christmas? If they ask that you NOT send christmas gifts?

Nope. BTW, Jesus preached love, not frenetic gift buying.

My kids would never ask someone not to send gifts
What religion is against that?

But can you imagine that your child's spouse might not celebrate Christmas? Surely, that's not beyond the pale.

Everything about Christmas except the nativity story is pagan - the tree, the gifts, the lights, the food, the music, the yule, ...... I'm a Christian so we celebrate the birth of Jesus, but I understand that all of the things surrounding the holiday have pagan roots. You certainly don't need to identify as a Christian to celebrate what is now called "Christmas".

Washington Irving and Charles Dickens are the fathers of our modern Christmas traditions.

Regardless
Even if spouse doesn't celebrate Christmas, there is no rule against receiving gifts from a grandparent
Remember the rule honor your mother and your father?
Are you insinuating that it is only proper to honor them if your spouse agrees!

Dude, if you think that applying "honor your mother and father" to purchasing Christmas presents is the hill you want to die on, be my guest. As for me, if my adult son or daughter tells me that they would prefer that we not give presents at Christmas, I'm totally ok with that because 1) there are many other potential gift-giving occasions; and 2) I want to actually enjoy and get to know my grandchildren and that depends on their parents' being on board.

Number 2 sounds like blackmail
Number 1 sounds like you are justifying yourself

All in all, situation sounds toxic. Rather you than me

Actually, toxic is when you insist on celebrating the birth of Jesus, who preached love and tolerance, by giving unwanted gifts and undermining your adult children's independence.

If I receive unwanted gifts for myself or my children, I politely thank the giver and donate the gifts to charity.

My boss received a religious themed blanket from a friend when she gave birth. She and her wife are not religious. They took the blanket out of the box, laid it on the bed, took a picture of the baby laying on it, and sent the picture to the friend with a polite and kind thank you. They boxed the blanket back up and gave it to a charity.

I respect people who are like that immensely. They value their friends and relationships, and aren’t nuts. 10/10 people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I lose some respect for any "believer" I know. More so, for fundamental types.

For my kids' spouses:
religion-lite - tolerable
religion strong - questionable
religious nutter - no fcking way

I feel sorry for people who have parents that think that they have any say about the person whom their child will be in a relationship with and marry. It’s selfish and entitled for parents to think that they have any say about whom their child loves, because they don’t have that right. As long as they love each other and care about each other, it’s none of the parents business.

This. Top pp sounds pretty toxic, wouldn’t want them as a FIL/MIL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I lose some respect for any "believer" I know. More so, for fundamental types.

For my kids' spouses:
religion-lite - tolerable
religion strong - questionable
religious nutter - no fcking way

I feel sorry for people who have parents that think that they have any say about the person whom their child will be in a relationship with and marry. It’s selfish and entitled for parents to think that they have any say about whom their child loves, because they don’t have that right. As long as they love each other and care about each other, it’s none of the parents business.

This. Top pp sounds pretty toxic, wouldn’t want them as a FIL/MIL.

+1

It’s really not anyone’s business, even your parent’s business, who you love.

[Anonymous]

Both my children are gay, so religion doesn't really matter to me. I imagine they won't be marrying (if they choose to do so) someone religious.

-raised Catholic, now agnostic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both my children are gay, so religion doesn't really matter to me. I imagine they won't be marrying (if they choose to do so) someone religious.

-raised Catholic, now agnostic

Odd assumption. I know a lot of religious gay people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I lose some respect for any "believer" I know. More so, for fundamental types.

For my kids' spouses:
religion-lite - tolerable
religion strong - questionable
religious nutter - no fcking way

I feel sorry for people who have parents that think that they have any say about the person whom their child will be in a relationship with and marry. It’s selfish and entitled for parents to think that they have any say about whom their child loves, because they don’t have that right. As long as they love each other and care about each other, it’s none of the parents business.

It's usually the religious parents who have strong opinions and preferences about their kids partner's religion, not the other way around.