Disaster coming with brother and fiancé

[Anonymous]

I am a sister myself and not poor, a bad houseguest or a single mom but agree with all the people saying that OP is a total jerk.

Sounds like you wanted them to kiss the ring, I think you should talk to your brother so he knows your generosity comes with strings and can avoid you moving forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you can do. He won't listen to you and it will just alienate him and she will hate you. Just be there for him if/when he comes to you.

+1. I still harbor some resentment at MIL for all her discussions with DH stating our relationship is a bad idea. I am remarried and came to the marriage with 3 kids. DH had none. MIL questioned every progressive step in our relationship. Moving across the country to my city was too much too soon. He did it anyways. Moving in with me and my kids. She thought he’d be unhappy. Getting a dog. Too much of a commitment. Buying a new house together where he put down most of the deposit. Too much financial commitment. Buying me a Mercedes. She lamented, what happens if we don’t work out. We eloped and are now happily married. I’m fairly average looking and I don’t think she understands DH marrying me at all. It’s driven a wedge between them. They would all get along better if she would just love and support him in his decision.

No offense but I can understand your MIL’s thinking. You don’t appear to contribute to the marriage as much as DH and that’s quite unfair. You could have increased your share of the down payment or bought your own Mercedes. Parasitic women aren’t a good look. I say this as a much younger wife who chooses not to live off my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you can do. He won't listen to you and it will just alienate him and she will hate you. Just be there for him if/when he comes to you.

+1. I still harbor some resentment at MIL for all her discussions with DH stating our relationship is a bad idea. I am remarried and came to the marriage with 3 kids. DH had none. MIL questioned every progressive step in our relationship. Moving across the country to my city was too much too soon. He did it anyways. Moving in with me and my kids. She thought he’d be unhappy. Getting a dog. Too much of a commitment. Buying a new house together where he put down most of the deposit. Too much financial commitment. Buying me a Mercedes. She lamented, what happens if we don’t work out. We eloped and are now happily married. I’m fairly average looking and I don’t think she understands DH marrying me at all. It’s driven a wedge between them. They would all get along better if she would just love and support him in his decision.

No offense but I can understand your MIL’s thinking. You don’t appear to contribute to the marriage as much as DH and that’s quite unfair. You could have increased your share of the down payment or bought your own Mercedes. Parasitic women aren’t a good look. I say this as a much younger wife who chooses not to live off my husband.

It works for PP and her husband. Who cares what you do in your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what OP’s parents are thinking too

They can’t stand her and think she’s using my brother. They have never felt this way before, ever, about any of his serious girlfriends. They think her child is hideously spoiled. They’re going to talk to him, they say once, and leave it there. I’m not going to add to it because I love him, and don’t want to pile on. I used this thread to vent.

For all you similarly spoiled idiots, they tried multiple times to extend their stay with us, after arriving, and we declined. (“OMG I BET THEY WERE DYING TO LEAVE BECAUSE OF EVIL OP.”) I know this is very hard for some of you contrarian pudding brains to understand, but at times it’s difficult to put down every last circumstance leading an OP to conclude that a situation is bad. I love that just to “win,” some of you dumbasses will try and argue that something as absurd as shopping multiple times a day for one catered to kid is NBD. Yes, that’s so reasonable and totally normal. It’s hilarious.

[Anonymous]

It's unfortunate you don't make enough money to provide for adequate accommodations. How embarrassing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you can do. He won't listen to you and it will just alienate him and she will hate you. Just be there for him if/when he comes to you.

+1. I still harbor some resentment at MIL for all her discussions with DH stating our relationship is a bad idea. I am remarried and came to the marriage with 3 kids. DH had none. MIL questioned every progressive step in our relationship. Moving across the country to my city was too much too soon. He did it anyways. Moving in with me and my kids. She thought he’d be unhappy. Getting a dog. Too much of a commitment. Buying a new house together where he put down most of the deposit. Too much financial commitment. Buying me a Mercedes. She lamented, what happens if we don’t work out. We eloped and are now happily married. I’m fairly average looking and I don’t think she understands DH marrying me at all. It’s driven a wedge between them. They would all get along better if she would just love and support him in his decision.

No offense but I can understand your MIL’s thinking. You don’t appear to contribute to the marriage as much as DH and that’s quite unfair. You could have increased your share of the down payment or bought your own Mercedes. Parasitic women aren’t a good look. I say this as a much younger wife who chooses not to live off my husband.

+ 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's unfortunate you don't make enough money to provide for adequate accommodations. How embarrassing

Yeah, you tried, chunt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP dislikes the fiancée for having an existing kid and not being well-off.

I don’t like users. I know that’s unusual here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what OP’s parents are thinking too

They can’t stand her and think she’s using my brother. They have never felt this way before, ever, about any of his serious girlfriends. They think her child is hideously spoiled. They’re going to talk to him, they say once, and leave it there. I’m not going to add to it because I love him, and don’t want to pile on. I used this thread to vent.

For all you similarly spoiled idiots, they tried multiple times to extend their stay with us, after arriving, and we declined. (“OMG I BET THEY WERE DYING TO LEAVE BECAUSE OF EVIL OP.”) I know this is very hard for some of you contrarian pudding brains to understand, but at times it’s difficult to put down every last circumstance leading an OP to conclude that a situation is bad. I love that just to “win,” some of you dumbasses will try and argue that something as absurd as shopping multiple times a day for one catered to kid is NBD. Yes, that’s so reasonable and totally normal. It’s hilarious.

Wow, and you are bothered by the negative reactions of others? Yikes!

People here are going by what you said, not what you didn't include. I suggest you learn from this experience and don't crowdsource your problems on DCUM anymore. You clearly can't handle the truth.

Your impulse to lash out with name calling and insults tells us a whole lot about you.

[Anonymous]

MYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what OP’s parents are thinking too

They can’t stand her and think she’s using my brother. They have never felt this way before, ever, about any of his serious girlfriends. They think her child is hideously spoiled. They’re going to talk to him, they say once, and leave it there. I’m not going to add to it because I love him, and don’t want to pile on. I used this thread to vent.

For all you similarly spoiled idiots, they tried multiple times to extend their stay with us, after arriving, and we declined. (“OMG I BET THEY WERE DYING TO LEAVE BECAUSE OF EVIL OP.”) I know this is very hard for some of you contrarian pudding brains to understand, but at times it’s difficult to put down every last circumstance leading an OP to conclude that a situation is bad. I love that just to “win,” some of you dumbasses will try and argue that something as absurd as shopping multiple times a day for one catered to kid is NBD. Yes, that’s so reasonable and totally normal. It’s hilarious.

Dude. Your completely disporportionate response to the mildest of criticism (and refusal to fully explain what the horrible, horrible thing was they did?) makes you an extremely unreliable narrator. I mean, who CARES if your brother went to the store several times? who CARES if the girl is spoiled? It's truly not your business. And you haven't addressed the sleeping thing -- it seems unproblematic that the tween would stay up and sleep in later than the 6 year old, and that parents would take steps to ensure that neither one wakes up the other. All the evidence here points to you being a little obsessed with disliking your brother's fiance. TBH you sound jealous and unhappy that the family dynamic is changing. I wonder if you were used to him catering to you and your whims, and now you're upset to see his loyalty to a fiance and her daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what OP’s parents are thinking too

They can’t stand her and think she’s using my brother. They have never felt this way before, ever, about any of his serious girlfriends. They think her child is hideously spoiled. They’re going to talk to him, they say once, and leave it there. I’m not going to add to it because I love him, and don’t want to pile on. I used this thread to vent.

For all you similarly spoiled idiots, they tried multiple times to extend their stay with us, after arriving, and we declined. (“OMG I BET THEY WERE DYING TO LEAVE BECAUSE OF EVIL OP.”) I know this is very hard for some of you contrarian pudding brains to understand, but at times it’s difficult to put down every last circumstance leading an OP to conclude that a situation is bad. I love that just to “win,” some of you dumbasses will try and argue that something as absurd as shopping multiple times a day for one catered to kid is NBD. Yes, that’s so reasonable and totally normal. It’s hilarious.

Wow, and you are bothered by the negative reactions of others? Yikes!

People here are going by what you said, not what you didn't include. I suggest you learn from this experience and don't crowdsource your problems on DCUM anymore. You clearly can't handle the truth.

Your impulse to lash out with name calling and insults tells us a whole lot about you.

nope. totally team OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP dislikes the fiancée for having an existing kid and not being well-off.

I don’t like users. I know that’s unusual here.

Can you please explain how they are users? Because they didn't want your daughter to wake up their daughter? Because they stored too much stuff (that they bought) in the refrigerator? Please explain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what OP’s parents are thinking too

They can’t stand her and think she’s using my brother. They have never felt this way before, ever, about any of his serious girlfriends. They think her child is hideously spoiled. They’re going to talk to him, they say once, and leave it there. I’m not going to add to it because I love him, and don’t want to pile on. I used this thread to vent.

For all you similarly spoiled idiots, they tried multiple times to extend their stay with us, after arriving, and we declined. (“OMG I BET THEY WERE DYING TO LEAVE BECAUSE OF EVIL OP.”) I know this is very hard for some of you contrarian pudding brains to understand, but at times it’s difficult to put down every last circumstance leading an OP to conclude that a situation is bad. I love that just to “win,” some of you dumbasses will try and argue that something as absurd as shopping multiple times a day for one catered to kid is NBD. Yes, that’s so reasonable and totally normal. It’s hilarious.

Wow, and you are bothered by the negative reactions of others? Yikes!

People here are going by what you said, not what you didn't include. I suggest you learn from this experience and don't crowdsource your problems on DCUM anymore. You clearly can't handle the truth.

Your impulse to lash out with name calling and insults tells us a whole lot about you.

nope. totally team OP

I mean, can you explain why? I literally don't see a single thing here that warrant's OP's rather extreme reaction (to the PPs or to the future SIL.) What is the thing that happened that was so bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what OP’s parents are thinking too

They can’t stand her and think she’s using my brother. They have never felt this way before, ever, about any of his serious girlfriends. They think her child is hideously spoiled. They’re going to talk to him, they say once, and leave it there. I’m not going to add to it because I love him, and don’t want to pile on. I used this thread to vent.

For all you similarly spoiled idiots, they tried multiple times to extend their stay with us, after arriving, and we declined. (“OMG I BET THEY WERE DYING TO LEAVE BECAUSE OF EVIL OP.”) I know this is very hard for some of you contrarian pudding brains to understand, but at times it’s difficult to put down every last circumstance leading an OP to conclude that a situation is bad. I love that just to “win,” some of you dumbasses will try and argue that something as absurd as shopping multiple times a day for one catered to kid is NBD. Yes, that’s so reasonable and totally normal. It’s hilarious.

I've read this whole thread OP. I don't feel like I have anywhere near enough information about your brother and his situation to offer any advice.

You however, your nastiness and entitlement drips from your every word. Heck, your brother is related to you and he could be the same way and all this could be justified! But it doesn't change the fact that you need to start by looking in the mirror not at him. You sound like a HORRIBLE person. Jeeeeeeez. Insulting (with name calling!) random people who disagree with you, providing no context, seemingly having no empathy for this child, you talk about the fiancée and daughter like they are things and not people. Again, maybe she's a gold digging b and the kid is spoiled and your brother is a wet blanket, maybe, who knows. But we don't, because you have shown yourself as so biased and horrible that at this point, it is essentially impossible to believe that you have accurately described the situation.