Disaster coming with brother and fiancé

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The store thing is weird but your daughter being asked to be quiet is completely normal (snd in fact you should have asked her.)

They let the daughter stay up until midnight-1, and “sneak in quietly” (nope) to a room shared with a 6 year old.

Is this a problem? It’s a vacation. Relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The store thing is weird but your daughter being asked to be quiet is completely normal (snd in fact you should have asked her.)

They let the daughter stay up until midnight-1, and “sneak in quietly” (nope) to a room shared with a 6 year old.

Oh do you wanted her to be quiet and were annoyed when she wasn’t? Like they wanted your daughter to be quiet?

Are you for real? I know you think you’re smart, but the only kind of person who thinks an 11 year old banging into a shared bedroom after midnight each night and requiring silence in the morning is an asshole. So, you’re an asshole. Regards to your sister.

Huh? It sounds like all they were asking was for an awkward room-sharing situation with incompatible sleep schedules to be handled. Having the older kid go to bed later (quietly) and the younger kid get up earlier (quietly) seems totally nonproblematic. Truly not seeing the issue here, unless OP thinks the entire household should revolve around her 6 year old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The store thing is weird but your daughter being asked to be quiet is completely normal (snd in fact you should have asked her.)

They let the daughter stay up until midnight-1, and “sneak in quietly” (nope) to a room shared with a 6 year old.

Oh do you wanted her to be quiet and were annoyed when she wasn’t? Like they wanted your daughter to be quiet?

Are you for real? I know you think you’re smart, but the only kind of person who thinks an 11 year old banging into a shared bedroom after midnight each night and requiring silence in the morning is an asshole. So, you’re an asshole. Regards to your sister.

An 11 year old should not go to bed the same time as a 6 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not seeing any issue. They need to plan better with food but its nice he considers his girlfriends child's needs and wishes. And, if the child and your child are sharing a room and the other child is sleeping, your child needs to leave the room. You need to teach YOUR child manners.

She did, without fail, every morning. She actually has manners, unlike my guests, and I’m guessing all of you reacting this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The store thing is weird but your daughter being asked to be quiet is completely normal (snd in fact you should have asked her.)

They let the daughter stay up until midnight-1, and “sneak in quietly” (nope) to a room shared with a 6 year old.

Is this a problem? It’s a vacation. Relax.

On my dime. I forget a lot of you are rude and like to mooch.

[Anonymous]

The only thing I would say to my brother in this case is if you see that he seems unhappy or anxious or something. And then just comment ONLY on his mood, say that you're concerned that he seems stressed or miserable, and let him know you're willing to listen. Don't badmouth his fiancee or her daughter, don't try to talk him out of marrying her -- he'll feel like he has to defend her and his relationship. Just tell him you want him to be happy and he doesn't seem to be, and ask if there's anything you can do to help. And then just listen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The store thing is weird but your daughter being asked to be quiet is completely normal (snd in fact you should have asked her.)

They let the daughter stay up until midnight-1, and “sneak in quietly” (nope) to a room shared with a 6 year old.

Is this a problem? It’s a vacation. Relax.

On my dime. I forget a lot of you are rude and like to mooch.

Is this op? Are you for real? You don’t sound like a very nice person. It’s possible you left enough details out that you are getting this response when there were other things that made it concerning to you but with the very little info you provided people are just providing their perspective

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound annoying. There is nothing wrong with asking a younger child to leave the bedroom she is sharing with an older child who is still asleep. And there’s nothing wrong with asking a younger child to try to be quiet early in the morning when sharing a beach house. What do you mean you stepped in?
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Totally agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just spent a week at the beach with my brother, his fiancé and her tween. My DH and I rented a house for a month and invited them and my parents. I can’t even put down some of what’s so crazy because it’ll read as fiction. (My brother is anxious about the step-parent dynamic and went shopping multiple times a day - not an exaggeration, going to the one market 3 to 5 times a day to satisfy whims - to buy all kinds of food for just his fiancé and the picky girl, to the point where DH could not fit in a bottle of wine or a pack of hot dogs into the fridge; my much younger DD was told and did leave the shared room so the girl could sleep in every morning, and had to “be quiet” - I stepped in).

I’m just venting. I’m so distressed by the imminent marriage. The dynamic seems incredibly messed up, not a partnership, but rather a guy taking on a burden to an absurd degree. He doesn’t have a high salary but pays for everything. Would you try to talk to your sibling about this or simply accept that as an adult he makes his own calls and offer no thoughts? That’s what I’ve done but it feels crazy to see crazy and say nothing.

What is the problem with the bolded? You think your kid should be allowed to make as much noise as she wants in he shared room as soon as she wakes up? That's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The store thing is weird but your daughter being asked to be quiet is completely normal (snd in fact you should have asked her.)

They let the daughter stay up until midnight-1, and “sneak in quietly” (nope) to a room shared with a 6 year old.

Oh do you wanted her to be quiet and were annoyed when she wasn’t? Like they wanted your daughter to be quiet?

Are you for real? I know you think you’re smart, but the only kind of person who thinks an 11 year old banging into a shared bedroom after midnight each night and requiring silence in the morning is an asshole. So, you’re an asshole. Regards to your sister.

Huh? It sounds like all they were asking was for an awkward room-sharing situation with incompatible sleep schedules to be handled. Having the older kid go to bed later (quietly) and the younger kid get up earlier (quietly) seems totally nonproblematic. Truly not seeing the issue here, unless OP thinks the entire household should revolve around her 6 year old?

It seems like the older kid did not go to bed quietly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The store thing is weird but your daughter being asked to be quiet is completely normal (snd in fact you should have asked her.)

They let the daughter stay up until midnight-1, and “sneak in quietly” (nope) to a room shared with a 6 year old.

Oh do you wanted her to be quiet and were annoyed when she wasn’t? Like they wanted your daughter to be quiet?

Ans you think the teenager should keep the same schedule as your 6 yo?

OP, if you think your brother gravitates to high maintenance women, perhaps you should ask yourself where his primary exposure to them came from. (Hint - go find a mirror.)

[Anonymous]

Umm OP you seem like the cause of the problem. Letting a tween stay up till midnight on vacation and sleep in is totally normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The store thing is weird but your daughter being asked to be quiet is completely normal (snd in fact you should have asked her.)

They let the daughter stay up until midnight-1, and “sneak in quietly” (nope) to a room shared with a 6 year old.

Oh do you wanted her to be quiet and were annoyed when she wasn’t? Like they wanted your daughter to be quiet?

Are you for real? I know you think you’re smart, but the only kind of person who thinks an 11 year old banging into a shared bedroom after midnight each night and requiring silence in the morning is an asshole. So, you’re an asshole. Regards to your sister.

Huh? It sounds like all they were asking was for an awkward room-sharing situation with incompatible sleep schedules to be handled. Having the older kid go to bed later (quietly) and the younger kid get up earlier (quietly) seems totally nonproblematic. Truly not seeing the issue here, unless OP thinks the entire household should revolve around her 6 year old?

It seems like the older kid did not go to bed quietly.

It's odd then that that wasn't OP's primary complaint from the beginning.

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine for the older kid to sneak in, if she actually does it quietly. I sneak into my kids' room every single night just to see their cute little faces, and they never wake up. They are 8 and 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not seeing any issue. They need to plan better with food but its nice he considers his girlfriends child's needs and wishes. And, if the child and your child are sharing a room and the other child is sleeping, your child needs to leave the room. You need to teach YOUR child manners.

She did, without fail, every morning. She actually has manners, unlike my guests, and I’m guessing all of you reacting this way.

So what is the problem?