Disaster coming with brother and fiancé

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just spent a week at the beach with my brother, his fiancé and her tween. My DH and I rented a house for a month and invited them and my parents. I can’t even put down some of what’s so crazy because it’ll read as fiction. (My brother is anxious about the step-parent dynamic and went shopping multiple times a day - not an exaggeration, going to the one market 3 to 5 times a day to satisfy whims - to buy all kinds of food for just his fiancé and the picky girl, to the point where DH could not fit in a bottle of wine or a pack of hot dogs into the fridge; my much younger DD was told and did leave the shared room so the girl could sleep in every morning, and had to “be quiet” - I stepped in).

I’m just venting. I’m so distressed by the imminent marriage. The dynamic seems incredibly messed up, not a partnership, but rather a guy taking on a burden to an absurd degree. He doesn’t have a high salary but pays for everything. Would you try to talk to your sibling about this or simply accept that as an adult he makes his own calls and offer no thoughts? That’s what I’ve done but it feels crazy to see crazy and say nothing.

Havent' read the thread but it sounds like you don't like: He's shopping for their bespoke foods too much, and Your kid shared a room with a teen who slept in to XYZ time and wanted wake people to exit the room if they were waking up earlier than ABC time.

anyhow, yes the fiance should be buying her own special foods. And sleeping in until 9 or 10am and monopolizing a room is semi OK but not allllll morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what OP’s parents are thinking too

They can’t stand her and think she’s using my brother. They have never felt this way before, ever, about any of his serious girlfriends. They think her child is hideously spoiled. They’re going to talk to him, they say once, and leave it there. I’m not going to add to it because I love him, and don’t want to pile on. I used this thread to vent.

For all you similarly spoiled idiots, they tried multiple times to extend their stay with us, after arriving, and we declined. (“OMG I BET THEY WERE DYING TO LEAVE BECAUSE OF EVIL OP.”) I know this is very hard for some of you contrarian pudding brains to understand, but at times it’s difficult to put down every last circumstance leading an OP to conclude that a situation is bad. I love that just to “win,” some of you dumbasses will try and argue that something as absurd as shopping multiple times a day for one catered to kid is NBD. Yes, that’s so reasonable and totally normal. It’s hilarious.

I will sometimes go out shopping multiple times a day to get away from my in-laws. It’s a thing, op. I’ll grant you they sound sort of rude but you sound really terrible too. Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

I’m with you OP. Can you explain this woman’s personality as a houseguest? I would like to hear more.

[Anonymous]

In my family we would each corner him and give him the 'run while you can' speech but in our case it didn't work- marriage and divorce happened despite our expressed concerns. Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Your brother is a weakling, a beta male, a pushover. He's clearly hard-up and desperate. Even you admit he doesn't make much money, so in addition to being weak, he's not exactly a high-status male who has women throwing themselves at him, so he's settling for an undesirable single mom.

Using the age of her daughter, tween, she's nearly or likely now infertile, so he's destined to be heirless. Does it get any sadder? Not really. Of course that's going to offend several posters here who themselves are jaded single moms hoping to sink their claws into similar.

Can you talk to your brother? Sure. But unless you have a female friend at the ready who's going to sleep with him, he's not going to be swayed. And I'm guessing even you think your brother is sort of low status or you would have already set him up with one of your or your husband's female friends or colleagues, right? So even you know he's a low-confidence "p" whipped sap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP dislikes the fiancée for having an existing kid and not being well-off.

I don’t like users. I know that’s unusual here.

This thread really brought in all the jaded broke single moms. So transparent. All of them hoping to lure in some weak pushover they can walk all over.

[Anonymous]

P-whipped weak men are hopeless. Conniving shameless women make quick work of them, see the Prince Harry thread on here. I'm guessing the same posters on team single mom in this thread are also likely obsessed with the failed actress Megyn.

[Anonymous]

A rich self-made guy my husband went to college married a single mom, who also had a tween daughter, was also super spoiled. Long story short, after nearly 10 years they ended up divorcing and she sued him alleging abuse, had the daughter testify, the whole nine. They took him to the cleaners. The mud slinging in court was on another level. His business fell apart and he's been struggling to find his way ever since.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A rich self-made guy my husband went to college married a single mom, who also had a tween daughter, was also super spoiled. Long story short, after nearly 10 years they ended up divorcing and she sued him alleging abuse, had the daughter testify, the whole nine. They took him to the cleaners. The mud slinging in court was on another level. His business fell apart and he's been struggling to find his way ever since.

I should note we've known him for 30 years, we've known women he's dated and there was NEVER any negative allegations. Until this woman and her brat daughter came along.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound really high maintenance! Whereas your brother sounds like he’s very sweet to his fiancé.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing you can do but hope and pray he opens his eyes and sees them as they are.

[Anonymous]

My uncle sounds like your brother. His second wife was cheating on him with a random man she met on the internet (or dating app) within 18 months of their marriage. And he was STILL claiming he was in love with her. Some men are just hopeless.

[Anonymous]

If he could do better, he’d do better. Notice OP mentions nothing about her setting him up with a sweet, single, successful woman she knows. Very telling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I don’t see any glaring problem.

Me either. Other than the fact that OP seems to want everyone to be impressed that she paid for this vacation but is apparently too cheap to get a place big enough to accommodate everyone's needs. We also pay and plan a family vacation and part of doing that means you need to take into account for everything. You should be booking somewhere where the teen and little.kid get their own.space.

Or don’t invite them! Why on earth would you ask someone to join you in your house where you can’t actually accommodate your guests?

You’re both so goddamned dumb. The house was very large.

[Anonymous]

You PPs are totally and completely insane. The circumstances are as I put them. She’s a user and a liar; I know the rule is to pile on OP, but that changes nothing.