How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

In my extended family these are absolutely family events. Out of 16 cousins only one - the very youngest - had a “no kids” wedding.

Probably because they knew it would be mass chaos of screaming, crying, and a all-you-can eat buffet rather than a seated, plated dinner. Don't blame them.

[Anonymous]

- Wedding is at brewery
- Wedding website says 'No children'
- Invitation addressed to parents

How many ways can they say 'don't bring kids'.

[Anonymous]

Has the OP been back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should ask because no kids usually mean no toddlers or younger kids. Teenagers are usually OK. What makes the situation different is that it’s at a a brewery and I know some breweries don’t accept kids under 12, and some under 18 or 21. You are an odd situation so maybe just ask.

It’s not an odd situation. Look at the damn invitation. If the kids names aren’t on there, they’re not invited.

How do you not fall down more?

[Anonymous]

People who have no kids weddings (especially when the kids are family) are the same people who expect their bridesmaids or groomsmen to spend $1500 on a bachelor/ette weekend and who think of their wedding as a showcase for their narcissistic tendencies. They are tiresome. I’d decline because it’s not covid safe and send a check for a fraction of the cost of a trip out there. It’s almost insulting to be invited across the country when you have a 13 year old and be told the 13 year old cannot come. WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Asking IS complaining. If the children were invited, their names would have been on the invitation.

My god, are people really this fragile that they will crumble to dust if someone asks a question?

Remember when the BIL questioned why his brother was holding a wedding mid-pandemic with vulnerable guests and you all acted like it was the end of the world?

That.

[Anonymous]

I love how the OP thinks the "older teen" (16 yrs old) is any different than her 13 yr old. People have such weird perspectives. No, your kids are not invited. A brewery is for 21+. Yours aren't even close to 18 much less 21.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who have no kids weddings (especially when the kids are family) are the same people who expect their bridesmaids or groomsmen to spend $1500 on a bachelor/ette weekend and who think of their wedding as a showcase for their narcissistic tendencies. They are tiresome. I’d decline because it’s not covid safe and send a check for a fraction of the cost of a trip out there. It’s almost insulting to be invited across the country when you have a 13 year old and be told the 13 year old cannot come. WTF.

You kid isn't the Christ Child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People who have no kids weddings (especially when the kids are family) are the same people who expect their bridesmaids or groomsmen to spend $1500 on a bachelor/ette weekend and who think of their wedding as a showcase for their narcissistic tendencies. They are tiresome. I’d decline because it’s not covid safe and send a check for a fraction of the cost of a trip out there. It’s almost insulting to be invited across the country when you have a 13 year old and be told the 13 year old cannot come. WTF.

You kid isn't the Christ Child.

I’ve been invited to two weddings since my kids were born, I attended one and stayed home for the other. If I can’t even make a vacation out of a trip to some craphole town for your wedding, I’m not spending the money on your princess day. But I did invite all my young nieces and nephews (married into a big family) when we were married. It really made the day so much more joyous and I’m glad I didn’t let my side of the family pressure me into a no kids wedding. Those kids are my family now. They have happy memories of our wedding. Why are people so bothered by children? I think there’s a lot of trauma under these weird expectations for weddings and hatred of kids. Kids are for the most part better than adults. Nothing worse than your d-bag 20-something friends getting smashed, requesting stupid songs, being obnoxious, and hooking up with each other during a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who have no kids weddings (especially when the kids are family) are the same people who expect their bridesmaids or groomsmen to spend $1500 on a bachelor/ette weekend and who think of their wedding as a showcase for their narcissistic tendencies. They are tiresome. I’d decline because it’s not covid safe and send a check for a fraction of the cost of a trip out there. It’s almost insulting to be invited across the country when you have a 13 year old and be told the 13 year old cannot come. WTF.

Just decline. I doubt anyone expects a family of four to fly cross country so that two of them can attend a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Asking IS complaining. If the children were invited, their names would have been on the invitation.

You all must have weird families if you can’t even ask your siblings simple questions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Asking IS complaining. If the children were invited, their names would have been on the invitation.

My god, are people really this fragile that they will crumble to dust if someone asks a question?

No more fragile than the idiots who just can’t handle their kids not being invited.

You sound very stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who have no kids weddings (especially when the kids are family) are the same people who expect their bridesmaids or groomsmen to spend $1500 on a bachelor/ette weekend and who think of their wedding as a showcase for their narcissistic tendencies. They are tiresome. I’d decline because it’s not covid safe and send a check for a fraction of the cost of a trip out there. It’s almost insulting to be invited across the country when you have a 13 year old and be told the 13 year old cannot come. WTF.

Why can’t the 16 year old watch the 13 year old for a weekend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Asking IS complaining. If the children were invited, their names would have been on the invitation.

My god, are people really this fragile that they will crumble to dust if someone asks a question?

What? I’m sure they will not crumble to anything. That doesn’t mean it’s not rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP been back?

No because she is sitting at the table looking at an envelope that says “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” thinking about whether she can claim she thought the children’s names were obscured by the postmark.