Worried About His Age

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Anonymous wrote:32 is getting old for a woman , he should be more concerned about you

My thoughts exactly.

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Anonymous wrote:32 is getting old for a woman , he should be more concerned about you

My thoughts exactly.

both your thoughts are dumb.

All of my friends and I had children after 32, some even after 40. Usually, educated women have children later in life.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 7 years older than me and was 44 and 46 when our kids were born. He's 50 now. Our 6 year old is particularly rambunctious and active and my husband keeps up very well with him. Is he tired at the end of the day? Sure, but so am I!

There are other advantages. He lived on his own for a long time, and is therefore great at cooking/cleaning etc. and is truly a hands-on dad and father who takes on at least half the load.

I’m looking into freezing my eggs because I’m considering wanting kids ideally around the ages you were. How was the TTC journey if you don’t mind me asking? I’m so on the fence be freezing my eggs , but pretty set on wanting kids after 36 or so.

Dumb as full idea

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Anonymous wrote:32 is getting old for a woman , he should be more concerned about you

My thoughts exactly.

both your thoughts are dumb.

All of my friends and I had children after 32, some even after 40. Usually, educated women have children later in life.

Educated but old like broken cow

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Anonymous wrote:Why is he single at 40?

Because he is smart! Lots of jealousy on this thread.

+1 My DH was 39 when we got married. Now married 20 years, and two kids. Some of you must be from certain parts of the country where people get married at 18 or something.

Most of my friends had kids after 32. They had a career then had children. Pretty normal in the educated crowd.

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Anonymous wrote:32 is getting old for a woman , he should be more concerned about you

My thoughts exactly.

both your thoughts are dumb.

All of my friends and I had children after 32, some even after 40. Usually, educated women have children later in life.

Educated but old like broken cow

aw.. I'm sorry you are jealous.

Married 20 years, two kids, and are multi millionaires because, you know.. I'm educated and spent time building up my career and bank account, got financially stable, then had kids. Oh, and I was lower income growing up.

On track to retire early and enjoy our retirement once kid are in college. Planning to travel the world.

You must either be super jealous or an incel. Sorry your life sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

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LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

If you and your friends can’t relate to someone only 8 years older, you’re not nearly as educated and worldly as you think.

Who said anything about relating? I’m just not attracted them and don’t appreciate being seen as bait.

I seriously doubt anyone would consider a 7/8 year age difference when the parties are 32 and nearly 40 as jailbait, weirdo.

I didn’t say jailbait, I said bait. There is a certain type of man who prioritizes a woman’s age over personality and even looks and preys on them. I would hate to feel like some prize only given my younger age. I prefer men to like me for who I am. It’s called self respect.

You come off as very immature with your name calling.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

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LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

Embarrassed? This is why some of you will single forever.

Nope, I married a 26 year old guy when I was 26 as did most of my law school mates. We were all married before 30. Never considered dating an old creep looking for younger women because I had plenty of guys my age to choose from. Like most girls in their 20s. I’m not special. If you’re not married by 32 there is something wrong - either you are not that desirable or your picker is screwed up. Not married at 40 is a big red flag.

Half of your friends will be divorced within 10 years. Some people don’t settle or find that person until later in life.

Welp, it’s been more than 10 years and no divorces yet! That might be your experience but not mine. At all. Divorce is very uncommon among educated professionals.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Some you of you people are really rude. The age gap is not an issue. I’m 32, not 22, or 18. A 40 year old man dating a 32 year old woman is not creepy or weird. I’ve always been attracted to older men and dated a couple of years older than me.

There is nothing wrong with him. Why would he settle and marry someone if he wasn’t sure it would last? Maybe that is the problem with so many unhappy marriages or people getting divorced. Too many people settle or try to marry by a certain age.

I’m not embarrassed by him. My family and friends love him. That statement was beyond ridiculous and stupid. We all turn 40 at some point.

I’m 32 and single but who cares? There is nothing wrong with me, just like there is nothing wrong with him. I could have married previous partners but didn’t because they were met right for me. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you find someone you want to spend your life with. Marriage is not something to be rushed.

I said that I thought my question was stupid. I never even thought about his age until my friends husbands started making those comments. Both are physically and work out. I started to worry about his age. I do know he is a wonderful guy who will make a great partner and father. I never said anything about being in love on this thread because I’m not super emotional. I do love him and can see a future with him. He’s the first guy I’ve ever thought about marrying. Our relationship is so easy and comfortable. I’m letting stupid comments get in my head.

Since you have dismissed all of the comments out of hand and seem to already know your answer, why are you here? Clearly you had doubts that came from somewhere. Many think there is something to those doubts, and many don’t. Only you know you.

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My husband is going to be 60 this year and we have a three-year-old. He has a lot more energy for playtime than I do - and more than a lot of the young dads in our son's play circle.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

Embarrassed? This is why some of you will single forever.

Nope, I married a 26 year old guy when I was 26 as did most of my law school mates. We were all married before 30. Never considered dating an old creep looking for younger women because I had plenty of guys my age to choose from. Like most girls in their 20s. I’m not special. If you’re not married by 32 there is something wrong - either you are not that desirable or your picker is screwed up. Not married at 40 is a big red flag.

Yes and your same age husband will dump you for someone at least 7-10+ years younger in the future. Karma is coming for you. Good luck!

Obviously you married your ugly old husband to make sure that he’d stay with you - congrats on settling! My husband might want to do that but he probably won’t be able to pull it off because no one wants old dudes.

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My brother had his twin sons at age 42. He was a great dad, even though he and my SIL got divorced when the kids were 8. And then he suddenly died at 53 when the boys were 11.

You just never know what's in store.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

If you and your friends can’t relate to someone only 8 years older, you’re not nearly as educated and worldly as you think.

Who said anything about relating? I’m just not attracted them and don’t appreciate being seen as bait.

I seriously doubt anyone would consider a 7/8 year age difference when the parties are 32 and nearly 40 as jailbait, weirdo.

I didn’t say jailbait, I said bait. There is a certain type of man who prioritizes a woman’s age over personality and even looks and preys on them. I would hate to feel like some prize only given my younger age. I prefer men to like me for who I am. It’s called self respect.

You come off as very immature with your name calling.

OP here. Who ever said he was with me because of my age? I never once said that. My age had nothing to do with him deciding to date me. He has dated older and has never dated younger than 30 since he turned 30. An 8 year age difference is not weird when you’re over 30.

Men who are his age do tend to date women a little younger because they want kids. This is smart. It’s not about preying on me. He wants to marry me for more things than my age.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Some you of you people are really rude. The age gap is not an issue. I’m 32, not 22, or 18. A 40 year old man dating a 32 year old woman is not creepy or weird. I’ve always been attracted to older men and dated a couple of years older than me.

There is nothing wrong with him. Why would he settle and marry someone if he wasn’t sure it would last? Maybe that is the problem with so many unhappy marriages or people getting divorced. Too many people settle or try to marry by a certain age.

I’m not embarrassed by him. My family and friends love him. That statement was beyond ridiculous and stupid. We all turn 40 at some point.

I’m 32 and single but who cares? There is nothing wrong with me, just like there is nothing wrong with him. I could have married previous partners but didn’t because they were met right for me. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you find someone you want to spend your life with. Marriage is not something to be rushed.

I said that I thought my question was stupid. I never even thought about his age until my friends husbands started making those comments. Both are physically and work out. I started to worry about his age. I do know he is a wonderful guy who will make a great partner and father. I never said anything about being in love on this thread because I’m not super emotional. I do love him and can see a future with him. He’s the first guy I’ve ever thought about marrying. Our relationship is so easy and comfortable. I’m letting stupid comments get in my head.

Since you have dismissed all of the comments out of hand and seem to already know your answer, why are you here? Clearly you had doubts that came from somewhere. Many think there is something to those doubts, and many don’t. Only you know you.

OP here. What were your comments? It’s hard to reply to each one individually.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

Embarrassed? This is why some of you will single forever.

Nope, I married a 26 year old guy when I was 26 as did most of my law school mates. We were all married before 30. Never considered dating an old creep looking for younger women because I had plenty of guys my age to choose from. Like most girls in their 20s. I’m not special. If you’re not married by 32 there is something wrong - either you are not that desirable or your picker is screwed up. Not married at 40 is a big red flag.

Half of your friends will be divorced within 10 years. Some people don’t settle or find that person until later in life.

Welp, it’s been more than 10 years and no divorces yet! That might be your experience but not mine. At all. Divorce is very uncommon among educated professionals.

Many professionals get divorced.