Worried About His Age

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is 7 years older than me and was 44 and 46 when our kids were born. He's 50 now. Our 6 year old is particularly rambunctious and active and my husband keeps up very well with him. Is he tired at the end of the day? Sure, but so am I!

There are other advantages. He lived on his own for a long time, and is therefore great at cooking/cleaning etc. and is truly a hands-on dad and father who takes on at least half the load.

I’m looking into freezing my eggs because I’m considering wanting kids ideally around the ages you were. How was the TTC journey if you don’t mind me asking? I’m so on the fence be freezing my eggs , but pretty set on wanting kids after 36 or so.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

That's because you're an idiot

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

Embarrassed? This is why some of you will single forever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

Embarrassed? This is why some of you will single forever.

Nope, I married a 26 year old guy when I was 26 as did most of my law school mates. We were all married before 30. Never considered dating an old creep looking for younger women because I had plenty of guys my age to choose from. Like most girls in their 20s. I’m not special. If you’re not married by 32 there is something wrong - either you are not that desirable or your picker is screwed up. Not married at 40 is a big red flag.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

That's because you're an idiot

Sorry, I can tell from your response that you run with a different crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating this really great guy. I really like him and things are going well. Things are getting serious, but I’ve been hesitant because of his age. He’s almost 40. I’m 32. I know that’s not old, but I worry about having kids with him. We likely wouldn’t have kids until he is 42 or older. I worry that he will not be able to keep up with young kids at 45 or that kids will not too much for him physically. He’s in great shape and works out. I’m not sure if this is even something to think about. I’ve never dated a guy more than 5 years older than me.

I wish more women thought about this, instead of thinking it's totally normal to date/marry men more than a few years older than they are.
This age difference is probably fine, but I personally think it's odd that a woman being a year older than her male partner raises more eyebrows than her being half his age.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

That's because you're an idiot

Sorry, I can tell from your response that you run with a different crowd.

Yes, the crowd of non idiots.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

Embarrassed? This is why some of you will single forever.

Nope, I married a 26 year old guy when I was 26 as did most of my law school mates. We were all married before 30. Never considered dating an old creep looking for younger women because I had plenty of guys my age to choose from. Like most girls in their 20s. I’m not special. If you’re not married by 32 there is something wrong - either you are not that desirable or your picker is screwed up. Not married at 40 is a big red flag.

Bas d on this post alone you must be a shitty lawyer .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating this really great guy. I really like him and things are going well. Things are getting serious, but I’ve been hesitant because of his age. He’s almost 40. I’m 32. I know that’s not old, but I worry about having kids with him. We likely wouldn’t have kids until he is 42 or older. I worry that he will not be able to keep up with young kids at 45 or that kids will not too much for him physically. He’s in great shape and works out. I’m not sure if this is even something to think about. I’ve never dated a guy more than 5 years older than me.

I wish more women thought about this, instead of thinking it's totally normal to date/marry men more than a few years older than they are.
This age difference is probably fine, but I personally think it's odd that a woman being a year older than her male partner raises more eyebrows than her being half his age.

At 32 she's not half his age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating this really great guy. I really like him and things are going well. Things are getting serious, but I’ve been hesitant because of his age. He’s almost 40. I’m 32. I know that’s not old, but I worry about having kids with him. We likely wouldn’t have kids until he is 42 or older. I worry that he will not be able to keep up with young kids at 45 or that kids will not too much for him physically. He’s in great shape and works out. I’m not sure if this is even something to think about. I’ve never dated a guy more than 5 years older than me.

I wish more women thought about this, instead of thinking it's totally normal to date/marry men more than a few years older than they are.
This age difference is probably fine, but I personally think it's odd that a woman being a year older than her male partner raises more eyebrows than her being half his age.

At 32 she's not half his age.

I didn't say that she was.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

Embarrassed? This is why some of you will single forever.

Nope, I married a 26 year old guy when I was 26 as did most of my law school mates. We were all married before 30. Never considered dating an old creep looking for younger women because I had plenty of guys my age to choose from. Like most girls in their 20s. I’m not special. If you’re not married by 32 there is something wrong - either you are not that desirable or your picker is screwed up. Not married at 40 is a big red flag.

You sound really high maintenance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

If you and your friends can’t relate to someone only 8 years older, you’re not nearly as educated and worldly as you think.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

Embarrassed? This is why some of you will single forever.

Nope, I married a 26 year old guy when I was 26 as did most of my law school mates. We were all married before 30. Never considered dating an old creep looking for younger women because I had plenty of guys my age to choose from. Like most girls in their 20s. I’m not special. If you’re not married by 32 there is something wrong - either you are not that desirable or your picker is screwed up. Not married at 40 is a big red flag.

I went to law school. Some of my classmates married each other. Some of them are divorced now. Some are still married.
Some of my classmates married in their early thirties, some in their late thirties, some in their forties, some never did, some are still married, some are on second marriages, some on thirds. All of us have problems, big or small.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

If you and your friends can’t relate to someone only 8 years older, you’re not nearly as educated and worldly as you think.

Does this apply to men and women 8 years older than them?
Or do you only believe that women should be able to "relate" to older men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Too much of an age difference for me. I just don’t like the vibe of being with older guys and I’m less attracted to them but sounds like that’s not a problem for you.

Much bigger problem - I’d also be worried about any 40 year old who hadn’t settled down yet and who is dating younger women.

This.

LOL. She's 32. Completely age-appropriate.

That’s old for a 32 year old, especially in educated/upper class circles. Why settle for an old guy. I’d be kind of embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family. Plus I’d be worried he has Peter Pan syndrome.

If you and your friends can’t relate to someone only 8 years older, you’re not nearly as educated and worldly as you think.

Does this apply to men and women 8 years older than them?
Or do you only believe that women should be able to "relate" to older men?

I don’t have an issue with any one person of either gender avoiding age gaps—although I do think it can be unnecessarily limiting. What I find ridiculous is that PP thinks a 40 year old is going to stick out as some embarrassing old guy in a circle of supposedly sophisticated people in their 30s.