This is the previously identified traditional gender role example. These guys are modernized and will do plenty of childcare and contribute to finances. But they are traditional in a sense that they don't value other people's opinions, esp their spouses'. I have a few male friends that fit into this description, according to them, talking about science/math/engineering topics is superior to talking about literature/philosophy/personal experiences. They often label the women friends as inferior because women don't understand how nuclear power plant is built and stuff like that. Imagine an eligible single woman seeing that and subconsciously carry this impression on to dating app filter function... |
I remember one of my asian guy friends telling me that women like Lucy Liu (strong and sexy) are popular in the west, versus back in Asia the most popular females are more feminine and cuter like K pop girls. The beauty standard is quite different, according to him. |
So OP's friend wants Gemma Chan? That would be a challenge! |
Have you ever thought that maybe he likes dude and isn’t ready to be out? |
No, Gemma Chan is too beautiful to be cute. |
How tall is he? Does he have a decent voice? Is he a virgin? Does he spend too much time stalking women on the internet? Does it smell like he ate a large quantity of garlic a week ago? Is he too nice? Does he have a sense of humor? Does he have strange facial hair? It's hard to say why he's not more successful with women. Aren't there social clubs with Asian women he can join? |
Would you mind expanding on the bolded? Depending on how it's said, I'd think they both mean the same thing, with the latter being more mean/blunt about it. Genuinely curious, not being snarky. |
Asian men and black women are the most disadvantaged in dating. Asian women date outside their race as do black men. Not nearly as many non-Asian women want to date an Asian man just as white men don't date black women in anywhere near the numbers that black men date non-black women. It's just a fact. This guy wanting an especially attractive Asian woman is picking from a very small pool of women. |