Where can I meet a 38+ guy that I’d actually be into dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will date you. I'm 39, never married. Own a defense business (been featured in WaPo a few times). Easily clear $750k+ in total compensation. I'm 5'10". Only condition is you never mention your kids or ex. I'm pretty busy but we can splurge on fancy hotels, day trips, or overseas vacations. If you're into videogames then that's cool. I also own a sailboat in Annapolis and like to host outings for friends and business associates.

Do women actually go for this? This sounds like absolute hell.

Desperate ones do. Or low self-esteem. Or weren’t really into their kids in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know where the 38 year old men who love kids, have a good heart, and are 6'2" and make 250k are?

They're happily married already.

As of now. The pandemic divorces are coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realistically I think the lowest I could go from an income perspective would be about $250k for a single guy or that equivalent after alimony and child support has been deducted. Anything short of that and there’s going to be a pretty substantial income gap that will make me feel uncomfortable. Even that would present a large gap.

So you want an attractive, tall, single (not divorced) man in the top 2% of earners nationwide. You want the full package. Meanwhile, you are mid-30s, divorced and bringing two kids into the relationship making him a stepfather, or at least a man who "doesn’t mind dealing with mine 50% of the time."

You also do not want to have his children.

I hate to break it to you, but the high-quality man you are seeking is sought after by ALL single, attractive women who do not have children and are in their 20s. This man has his pick of options in terms of online dating, women are clamoring to date him and willing to have his children.

He doesn't care about your money, because he has his own. So given your baggage (it is baggage from his perspective), what are you offering him that he can't get from a single, childless, highly attractive 27-year-old?

Uh no. This is so stupid. I lived in DC in my 20s and you know who I dated? Single, never married, childless (high income!) men in their 20s. I thought 38 yr olds were old and gross, divorced or not, but divorced with kids? That would have been so embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is not talking about dating a divorced guy who’s salary is $250k /year.

Divorced bachelors must make at least $500k + per year to satisfy her, since half goes to the bachelor's ex wife.

Only marital assets are divided (halvesies) in a divorce.
Income is NOT a marital asset, therefore income does NOT get split in divorce!!!

[Anonymous]

Plus in a major urban area like DC, you'd have to think there are plenty of men who fit her criteria.

Do the math: how many men a) are in her area, b) single, c) the right age, d) making the right amount of money, e) meet her height requirement, f) meet her other requirements. The pool shrinks. Then she has to find one who likes her back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Realistically I think the lowest I could go from an income perspective would be about $250k for a single guy or that equivalent after alimony and child support has been deducted. Anything short of that and there’s going to be a pretty substantial income gap that will make me feel uncomfortable. Even that would present a large gap.

So you want an attractive, tall, single (not divorced) man in the top 2% of earners nationwide. You want the full package. Meanwhile, you are mid-30s, divorced and bringing two kids into the relationship making him a stepfather, or at least a man who "doesn’t mind dealing with mine 50% of the time."

You also do not want to have his children.

I hate to break it to you, but the high-quality man you are seeking is sought after by ALL single, attractive women who do not have children and are in their 20s. This man has his pick of options in terms of online dating, women are clamoring to date him and willing to have his children.

He doesn't care about your money, because he has his own. So given your baggage (it is baggage from his perspective), what are you offering him that he can't get from a single, childless, highly attractive 27-year-old?

Uh no. This is so stupid. I lived in DC in my 20s and you know who I dated? Single, never married, childless (high income!) men in their 20s. I thought 38 yr olds were old and gross, divorced or not, but divorced with kids? That would have been so embarrassing.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Realistically I think the lowest I could go from an income perspective would be about $250k for a single guy or that equivalent after alimony and child support has been deducted. Anything short of that and there’s going to be a pretty substantial income gap that will make me feel uncomfortable. Even that would present a large gap.

So you want an attractive, tall, single (not divorced) man in the top 2% of earners nationwide. You want the full package. Meanwhile, you are mid-30s, divorced and bringing two kids into the relationship making him a stepfather, or at least a man who "doesn’t mind dealing with mine 50% of the time."

You also do not want to have his children.

I hate to break it to you, but the high-quality man you are seeking is sought after by ALL single, attractive women who do not have children and are in their 20s. This man has his pick of options in terms of online dating, women are clamoring to date him and willing to have his children.

He doesn't care about your money, because he has his own. So given your baggage (it is baggage from his perspective), what are you offering him that he can't get from a single, childless, highly attractive 27-year-old?

Uh no. This is so stupid. I lived in DC in my 20s and you know who I dated? Single, never married, childless (high income!) men in their 20s. I thought 38 yr olds were old and gross, divorced or not, but divorced with kids? That would have been so embarrassing.

This

To clarify, when I said this, I was agreeing with the last poster, that twenty something year olds don’t want to date guys on their late thirties, especially divorced dads.

[Anonymous]

Your children are the biggest baggage for most men. Why would a high earner want you or your kids? If you were such a prize you would have remained married.

Stick to BOB and concentrate on your kids and your career.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, stay single. I can't imagine insisting that a man I date has to make 250k a year. You're better off just taking care of yourself and enjoying your life as it is.

[Anonymous]

OP seems like she should consult with Patti Stanger of the Millionaires Club

[Anonymous]

Move to Miami

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your children are the biggest baggage for most men. Why would a high earner want you or your kids? If you were such a prize you would have remained married.

Stick to BOB and concentrate on your kids and your career.

Who/what s BOB?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your children are the biggest baggage for most men. Why would a high earner want you or your kids? If you were such a prize you would have remained married.

Stick to BOB and concentrate on your kids and your career.

Who/what s BOB?

Battery operated boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move to Miami

Harder market for older moms who are seeking the top %. Her competition goes from nerdy girl next door lawyers to Brazilian supermodels who speak 4 languages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is not talking about dating a divorced guy who’s salary is $250k /year.

Divorced bachelors must make at least $500k + per year to satisfy her, since half goes to the bachelor's ex wife.

Only marital assets are divided (halvesies) in a divorce.
Income is NOT a marital asset, therefore income does NOT get split in divorce!!!

People’s assets are created through their income... so...???

They intertwine!