Where can I meet a 38+ guy that I’d actually be into dating?

[Anonymous]

OP is not talking about dating a divorced guy who’s salary is $250k /year.

Divorced bachelors must make at least $500k + per year to satisfy her, since half goes to the bachelor's ex wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will date you. I'm 39, never married. Own a defense business (been featured in WaPo a few times). Easily clear $750k+ in total compensation. I'm 5'10". Only condition is you never mention your kids or ex. I'm pretty busy but we can splurge on fancy hotels, day trips, or overseas vacations. If you're into videogames then that's cool. I also own a sailboat in Annapolis and like to host outings for friends and business associates.

Do women actually go for this? This sounds like absolute hell.

PP here. Yes. I get lots of dates but after breaking up with my fiancee (together for five years, she wanted kids), I only want a gf to socialize, travel, and share experiences with. I have a very active social life that intersects work and personal, want a partner in crime at these events more than anything else. Don't want kids. I'm in shape (former Navy EOD officer) and normal looking in the face. Eventually want to move to Florida or Hawaii but have to strategically transition my prime contracts defense activities there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:its not just 250k. OP's dream guy has to clear 250k after child support and alimony is done getting paid for.

And tower over OP when she wears her clear 5 in heels for role playing when her kids are gone.

[Anonymous]

Chad! wherefore art thou, Chad!?!

[Anonymous]

OP - if I am making that kind of $$, there is no way I’d bother dating you (and putting up with your kids, ex-baggage), when there are so many younger, eager, educated, fit, hot bachelorettes with ticking biological clocks all over DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will date you. I'm 39, never married. Own a defense business (been featured in WaPo a few times). Easily clear $750k+ in total compensation. I'm 5'10". Only condition is you never mention your kids or ex. I'm pretty busy but we can splurge on fancy hotels, day trips, or overseas vacations. If you're into videogames then that's cool. I also own a sailboat in Annapolis and like to host outings for friends and business associates.

Do women actually go for this? This sounds like absolute hell.

PP here. Yes. I get lots of dates but after breaking up with my fiancee (together for five years, she wanted kids), I only want a gf to socialize, travel, and share experiences with. I have a very active social life that intersects work and personal, want a partner in crime at these events more than anything else. Don't want kids. I'm in shape (former Navy EOD officer) and normal looking in the face. Eventually want to move to Florida or Hawaii but have to strategically transition my prime contracts defense activities there.

Set up a screename for Op, then get back to work!

[Anonymous]

Lol not shocked you are divorced

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will date you. I'm 39, never married. Own a defense business (been featured in WaPo a few times). Easily clear $750k+ in total compensation. I'm 5'10". Only condition is you never mention your kids or ex. I'm pretty busy but we can splurge on fancy hotels, day trips, or overseas vacations. If you're into videogames then that's cool. I also own a sailboat in Annapolis and like to host outings for friends and business associates.

Do women actually go for this? This sounds like absolute hell.

PP here. Yes. I get lots of dates but after breaking up with my fiancee (together for five years, she wanted kids), I only want a gf to socialize, travel, and share experiences with. I have a very active social life that intersects work and personal, want a partner in crime at these events more than anything else. Don't want kids. I'm in shape (former Navy EOD officer) and normal looking in the face. Eventually want to move to Florida or Hawaii but have to strategically transition my prime contracts defense activities there.

You sound exactly like my ex-bf - so much that I wonder if you’re secretly him 🤔

He calls me up crying all the time about how no woman REALLY loves him. They only love his lifestyle, no one cares about him, he’s gonna die alone....it’s so obvious that his lifestyle is just a defense mechanism so he never has to actually be vulnerable. Huge avoidant attachment issues.

Anyway, keep us posted if you and OP hook up!

[5mercury]

I fit all of OP's requirements but am married. Truth be told: I also do NOT think she is being unreasonable. Plus in a major urban area like DC, you'd have to think there are plenty of men who fit her criteria.

[Anonymous]

Realistically I think the lowest I could go from an income perspective would be about $250k for a single guy or that equivalent after alimony and child support has been deducted. Anything short of that and there’s going to be a pretty substantial income gap that will make me feel uncomfortable. Even that would present a large gap.

So you want an attractive, tall, single (not divorced) man in the top 2% of earners nationwide. You want the full package. Meanwhile, you are mid-30s, divorced and bringing two kids into the relationship making him a stepfather, or at least a man who "doesn’t mind dealing with mine 50% of the time."

You also do not want to have his children.

I hate to break it to you, but the high-quality man you are seeking is sought after by ALL single, attractive women who do not have children and are in their 20s. This man has his pick of options in terms of online dating, women are clamoring to date him and willing to have his children.

He doesn't care about your money, because he has his own. So given your baggage (it is baggage from his perspective), what are you offering him that he can't get from a single, childless, highly attractive 27-year-old?

[Anonymous]

5mercury wrote:I fit all of OP's requirements but am married. Truth be told: I also do NOT think she is being unreasonable. Plus in a major urban area like DC, you'd have to think there are plenty of men who fit her criteria.

LOl.

You: but I’ll bang her anyway. So here’s my numba

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is not talking about dating a divorced guy who’s salary is $250k /year.

Divorced bachelors must make at least $500k + per year to satisfy her, since half goes to the bachelor's ex wife.

You don't understand divorce. Most women get almost nothing after divorce...not HALF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will date you. I'm 39, never married. Own a defense business (been featured in WaPo a few times). Easily clear $750k+ in total compensation. I'm 5'10". Only condition is you never mention your kids or ex. I'm pretty busy but we can splurge on fancy hotels, day trips, or overseas vacations. If you're into videogames then that's cool. I also own a sailboat in Annapolis and like to host outings for friends and business associates.

Do women actually go for this? This sounds like absolute hell.

PP here. Yes. I get lots of dates but after breaking up with my fiancee (together for five years, she wanted kids), I only want a gf to socialize, travel, and share experiences with. I have a very active social life that intersects work and personal, want a partner in crime at these events more than anything else. Don't want kids. I'm in shape (former Navy EOD officer) and normal looking in the face. Eventually want to move to Florida or Hawaii but have to strategically transition my prime contracts defense activities there.

There is no way someone with 50% custody is going to be the trophy gf you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is, the men who will pass all of your demanding filters have increasingly demanding filters of their own. They are probably looking for a woman that is either more laid back / less demanding, or one that doesn't have children

This. I am getting divorced and will only look for laid back women as a result. Even though DC attracts very stressed out or type a people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will date you. I'm 39, never married. Own a defense business (been featured in WaPo a few times). Easily clear $750k+ in total compensation. I'm 5'10". Only condition is you never mention your kids or ex. I'm pretty busy but we can splurge on fancy hotels, day trips, or overseas vacations. If you're into videogames then that's cool. I also own a sailboat in Annapolis and like to host outings for friends and business associates.

Do women actually go for this? This sounds like absolute hell.

PP here. Yes. I get lots of dates but after breaking up with my fiancee (together for five years, she wanted kids), I only want a gf to socialize, travel, and share experiences with. I have a very active social life that intersects work and personal, want a partner in crime at these events more than anything else. Don't want kids. I'm in shape (former Navy EOD officer) and normal looking in the face. Eventually want to move to Florida or Hawaii but have to strategically transition my prime contracts defense activities there.

There is no way someone with 50% custody is going to be the trophy gf you want.

Some people still carefully curate their appearance (especially at that income level) and do week on/week off so they are free to be arm candy.