Pretending to Not Remember Someone

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Anonymous wrote:There is a remote chance that she actually doesn’t remember him.

Middle school was almost thirty yrs. ago.

+1

I vaguely remember one guy I "dated" in middle school. Can barely picture his face, can't remember his name. He moved away not long after that. Who knows what he would look like now 30 years ago.

Probably fat and old.

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Anonymous wrote:I was listening to 70s on 7 ( Sirius XM station ) and I kid you not “Beach Baby” from First Class was playing. Even at thirteen I thought the song was sad.

Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah
We couldn't wait for graduation day
We took the car and drove to San Jose
That's where you told me that you'd wear my ring
I guess you don't remember anything

I remember most of my crushes and girlfriends from MS, HS, and college. I did get married at 24. The ones I forget I probably only crushed on for a few weeks.

But I just can’t wrap my head around what it takes to forget someone I had an extensive relationship with for eighteen months.

That's because you're normal.

The people (person?) claiming it's commonplace to black out an amount of time equal to two full pregnancies, an entire deployment or half of law school are either:
1.) alcoholics with brain damage
2.) suffering from early on set dementia.
3.) losers upset that there are women with desirable husbands.

One thing is sure- you don't want to be any of them

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- update.

She messaged the group today and said she's really looking forward to seeing everybody in "Reedeville". That's where my DH's river house is.

The thing is- "Reedeville" was never mentioned in the details. She messed up. If we are to believe her she would have no knowledge of the location.

She didn't mess up. You don't know what conversations she's had outside the chat. She is clearly closer to part of the group than others. It is odd that you are making something out of this. On the trip, her memory will probably be refreshed. She is not secretly carrying a torch for her middle school boyfriend. You guys are not rivals. I hope you act normally on the trip.

Wrong. There are only 4 organizers. She spoke with 1. No mention of Reedeville was made. She slipped up. It's OK you don't want to believe that.

You don't know everyone she has spoken with. If it is a large group, she could have spoken to people who spoke to other people who mentioned the house. Maybe side emails went around. Or maybe she didn't remember your DH at first and then it came back to her. Maybe she finds her middle school relationship embarrassing and does not want to reference it or have it referenced, so she is pretending it never happened. Maybe she heard from someone that you are very possessive or combative, and is sending a message that she has no interest in your husband by pretending not to know him. All of these seem more likely conclusions than that she is pretending to have forgotten because she has designs on your husband. There is no way to explain how bizarre it is to be focused on your husband's MIDDLE SCHOOL girlfriend's possible feelings for your husband. You are revealing so much about yourself, your husband and your relationship with these concerns.

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How is faking like you forgot someone a power play? Maybe she legit doesn't remember him.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. OMG OP you actually think someone who was a middle school girlfriend is still holding a flame for your DH? Thank you. I needed this laugh today.

Well, as a guy who contacted al of his exes after my divorce I can promise you that people do in fact remember who they were once in love or lust with. Even if it was when they were a teenager.

Reaching out to exes after a divorce is very common.

Really? You would contact someone you were in a "relationship" with when you were 12? That's just pathetic.

I was 15 at the end of 8th grade. Lost my virginity that summer. I remember his name, the way he was gentle and everything about it. Occasionally I look him up on FB. I'm 38.

What does this have to do with the weirdo PP contacting their middle school exes? And why were you so old at the end of 8th grade? Were you slow or something?

DP. Plenty of kids are 15 at the end of 8th grade, especially in wealthy areas. It's called red shirting and it's been proven to provide an advantage on college admissions. That you don't know this tells me you're lower class and probably rural.

This comment tells me that you’re an idiot. Only stupid people redshirt but go ahead and keep believing that your oversized, dundering oaf of a child is getting into an Ivy bc you redshirted.

Struck a nerve, huh?

So sorry you couldn't afford to give your kid every advantage possible. Be thankful I'm raising my red shirted kids to be nice to the lower class people like your kids! The world needs ditch diggers too!

Wow you redshirted multiple kids! You’d better stop worrying about mine because they are running circles around your stunted offspring. You might also want to see a psychiatrist for your delusions too. Crazy mom and slow kids is not a good combo.

This thread is hilarious. I really needed this laugh tonight.

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Anonymous wrote:Op you are one strange person

I swear.

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I can tell you my middle school bfs birthday, 32 years later. I remember his mother's too, though it was the same as my grandmother so maybe that helps.

I'd worry something was wrong with me if I couldn't remember middle school.

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I once pretended not to remember a high school boyfriend I dated for several months. He was a total dick when we dated and I had no interest in going down memory lane with him, so I pretended not to know who he was.

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Maybe she was dating someone else at the same time, or started dating someone else shortly after she moved and the memories overlapped and she wasn't sure who was who.

Maybe she really does have a memory problem.

Really who knows. But this is a really strange conclusion to draw, OP,

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Always gauche. You wonder for a hot second if they were raised by wolves. There are so many nice ways to handle a social situation you don’t love.

Kindness.

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Maybe he meant nothing to her and she truly doesn’t recall him.

My best friend from grade school remembers everything about everyone we apparently knew. I remember people I was close with or had significant experiences with, but without a lot of prompting not those who were unremarkable (in my childhood opinion) or who were on the periphery of my social experience. Memories and people are funny.

Why are you so concerned?