Pretending to Not Remember Someone

[Anonymous]

I moved a ton growing up so there are people who my friends mention who I completely do not remember. But I certainly remember every single person I “dated “. I doubt she holds a flame since middle school but maybe she has some other issues (some people with certain anxieties me pretend to not know someone because it’s awkward or if they think the person doesn’t remember them).

[Anonymous]

Very odd that she's doing this. It likely comes from a desire to protect her vulnerable emotions (she still likes him).

Keep your DH away if you guys are on shaky ground.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. OMG OP you actually think someone who was a middle school girlfriend is still holding a flame for your DH? Thank you. I needed this laugh today.

Well, as a guy who contacted al of his exes after my divorce I can promise you that people do in fact remember who they were once in love or lust with. Even if it was when they were a teenager.

Reaching out to exes after a divorce is very common.

You may need to start a thread about this. If you went all the way back to middle school exes, you dug deep. I promise you it is entirely possible to forget about people you knew way back.

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong with you that you are not even directly involved, but you are choosing to fret and ruminate over this, and run to the Internet to gossip with strangers?

You need a hobby.

[Anonymous]

All of you claiming its normal to forget people in your life might want to get a mental health check up. Sounds like early onset dementia.

Forgetting what you had for lunch is one thing, but forgetting who you dated for 18 months is a HUGE sign something is wrong cognitively.

Make an appt with your DR asap.

[Anonymous]

Wait, I am trying to visualize the entire conversation on FB. Your DH offers up his family’s summer house and the middle school girlfriend actually says she doesn’t remember your husband from that time period or visiting his family’s home. IDK, maybe she was drinking? I wouldn’t leap to the thought she was still interested in your DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you claiming its normal to forget people in your life might want to get a mental health check up. Sounds like early onset dementia.

Forgetting what you had for lunch is one thing, but forgetting who you dated for 18 months is a HUGE sign something is wrong cognitively.

Make an appt with your DR asap.

Middle school “dating” isn’t significant for most people. Obviously he places more importance on her than she does on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you claiming its normal to forget people in your life might want to get a mental health check up. Sounds like early onset dementia.

Forgetting what you had for lunch is one thing, but forgetting who you dated for 18 months is a HUGE sign something is wrong cognitively.

Make an appt with your DR asap.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. OMG OP you actually think someone who was a middle school girlfriend is still holding a flame for your DH? Thank you. I needed this laugh today.

Well, as a guy who contacted al of his exes after my divorce I can promise you that people do in fact remember who they were once in love or lust with. Even if it was when they were a teenager.

Reaching out to exes after a divorce is very common.

Really? You would contact someone you were in a "relationship" with when you were 12? That's just pathetic.

I was 15 at the end of 8th grade. Lost my virginity that summer. I remember his name, the way he was gentle and everything about it. Occasionally I look him up on FB. I'm 38.

What does this have to do with the weirdo PP contacting their middle school exes? And why were you so old at the end of 8th grade? Were you slow or something?

DP. Plenty of kids are 15 at the end of 8th grade, especially in wealthy areas. It's called red shirting and it's been proven to provide an advantage on college admissions. That you don't know this tells me you're lower class and probably rural.

This comment tells me that you’re an idiot. Only stupid people redshirt but go ahead and keep believing that your oversized, dundering oaf of a child is getting into an Ivy bc you redshirted.

Struck a nerve, huh?

So sorry you couldn't afford to give your kid every advantage possible. Be thankful I'm raising my red shirted kids to be nice to the lower class people like your kids! The world needs ditch diggers too!

Wow you redshirted multiple kids! You’d better stop worrying about mine because they are running circles around your stunted offspring. You might also want to see a psychiatrist for your delusions too. Crazy mom and slow kids is not a good combo.

[Anonymous]

This is a very strange thing to obsess over, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. OMG OP you actually think someone who was a middle school girlfriend is still holding a flame for your DH? Thank you. I needed this laugh today.

Well, as a guy who contacted al of his exes after my divorce I can promise you that people do in fact remember who they were once in love or lust with. Even if it was when they were a teenager.

Reaching out to exes after a divorce is very common.

Really? You would contact someone you were in a "relationship" with when you were 12? That's just pathetic.

I was 15 at the end of 8th grade. Lost my virginity that summer. I remember his name, the way he was gentle and everything about it. Occasionally I look him up on FB. I'm 38.

This is reason #436269 why redshirting is a REALLY bad idea.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. OMG OP you actually think someone who was a middle school girlfriend is still holding a flame for your DH? Thank you. I needed this laugh today.

Well, as a guy who contacted al of his exes after my divorce I can promise you that people do in fact remember who they were once in love or lust with. Even if it was when they were a teenager.

Reaching out to exes after a divorce is very common.

I would rather be poisoned than reach out to an ex after a divorce or have someone contact me under these circumstances. Why in the world would you do that? Especially if the other person is married. Leave the past where it belongs.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my early 40s and I am cursed with a poor memory. So it could be a memory issue. It could be that she was tired or misunderstood. It could be she was drunk, high, medicated, depressed or ill.

But to assume that she still has a crush on your husband from their middle school years??????????????

Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. OMG OP you actually think someone who was a middle school girlfriend is still holding a flame for your DH? Thank you. I needed this laugh today.

Well, as a guy who contacted al of his exes after my divorce I can promise you that people do in fact remember who they were once in love or lust with. Even if it was when they were a teenager.

Reaching out to exes after a divorce is very common.

Really? You would contact someone you were in a "relationship" with when you were 12? That's just pathetic.

I was 15 at the end of 8th grade. Lost my virginity that summer. I remember his name, the way he was gentle and everything about it. Occasionally I look him up on FB. I'm 38.

15? Yeesh. Not many people redshirted then. I was 13.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. OMG OP you actually think someone who was a middle school girlfriend is still holding a flame for your DH? Thank you. I needed this laugh today.

Well, as a guy who contacted al of his exes after my divorce I can promise you that people do in fact remember who they were once in love or lust with. Even if it was when they were a teenager.

Reaching out to exes after a divorce is very common.

Really? You would contact someone you were in a "relationship" with when you were 12? That's just pathetic.

Lol
Agree